The art of living in a world that is completely out of control

There is a co-evolved natural pace to the flow of life at each of the different scales within the kingdoms of life. We currently live in a social world of magical thinking shaped by the cult of technological progress. The journey towards a healthier relationship with the ecosystems which we are part of starts with the introduction of new language and semantics. Co-creating ecologies of care beyond the human allows us to experience beauty in a world that is completely out of control.

Life

“Exalt not men, so that the people may not fight.
Prize not rare objects, so that the people may not steal.
Look not on desirable things, so that the people’s hearts be not troubled.
That is why the self-controlled man governs by stilling the emotions,
by quieting thought, by mastering the will, by increasing strength.
He always teaches the people to know the Inner Life, to desire the Inner Life.
He teaches the Masters of knowledge to cease from activity,
to act through activity of the Inner Life; then Inner Life will govern all.”

Laozi, Translated by Isabella Mears, 1916, Chapter 3 

“Heavenly Love is like water.
Water blesses all things,
It does not hurt them.
It loves the lowly place that men dislike,
Therefore it comes very near to Tao.
The Master loves to dwell upon the earth.
In his heart he loves Infinity,
In his benevolence he loves giving,
In his words he loves sincerity,
In his government he loves peace,
In his business affairs he loves ability,
In his movements he loves punctuality.
The Master, indeed, does not fight,
Therefore his Inner Life increases.”

Laozi, Translated by Isabella Mears, 1916, Chapter 8 

“To quiet down the heart to stay at a constant stillness,
To settle down the heart to remain in infinite emptiness,
All the myriad things are involved in constant motion, but I just gaze
into emptiness to unintentionally wait for the coming of the Mysterious Pass.
Yes, though all things flourish with myriad variations,
each one will eventually return to the very root of birth and death.
To return to the root needs constant stillness.
Only by staying in constant stillness can Congenital Nature be recovered.
To fully recover Congenital Nature is called ‘Chang.’
To know Chang is called enlightenment.
To no know Chang and to act blindly will result in disaster.
Only knowing Change, can one tolerate all;
Only tolerating all, can one be impartial.
By being impartial, can one be all-accomodating;
By being all-accommodating, one can equal Heaven;
By equaling Heaven, one can accomplish Tao, which lasts without death.
Only by accomplishing Tao, can one be rid of death and birth,
lasting eternally without any danger.”

Laozi, Translated by Hu Xuezhi, 2005, Chapter 16

“From great antiquity forth they have known and possessed it.
Those of the next level loved and praised it.
The next were in awe of it.
And the next despised it.
If you lack sincerity no one will believe you. 
How careful she is with her precious words!
When her work is complete and her job is finished,
Everybody says: “We did it!””

Laozi, Translated by Charles Muller, 1891, Chapter 17

Language

The journey towards a healthier relationship with the ecosystems which we are part of starts with the most powerful tool at our disposal, the introduction and consistent use of new language and new semantics. We are curating timeless concepts for nurturing and describing ecologies of care.

New languageOld languageMotivation for change
carecommodificationCo-create ecologies of care instead of economies of commodified goods and services – to create environments that are conducive to life
catalystleaderGrow competency networks and catalysts rather than leadership and leaders – to get things done and distribute decision making to where the knowledge resides
competency networkleadershipGrow competency networks and catalysts rather than leadership and leaders – to get things done and distribute decision making to where the knowledge resides
coordinationmanagementCoordinate rather than manage – to address all the cognitive load that can increasingly be automated and to avoid the perpetuation of social power gradients
couragefearReplace fear with courage – to explore new paths when old roads are crumbling
creative collaborationbest practicesProvide a space for creative collaboration and divergent thinking rather than insist on best practices – to be able to adapt to rapid environmental change
currencyliquidityValue the currency of knowledge and transparency of information rather than the liquidity of money and the protection of national interests – to be able to think and act outside the paradigm of industrialised imperialism 
ecologieseconomiesCo-create ecologies of care instead of economies of commodified goods and services – to create environments that are conducive to life
giftsrentOffer your gifts to the world instead of charging rent for economic utility – to make the seemingly impossible possible
good companyprofitable busynessCo-create good company rather than business – to focus on the people and things we care about rather than what is simply keeping us busy
human scalelarge scaleAppreciate human scale and individual agency rather than large scale and growth – to create structures and systems that are understandable and relatable
individual agencygrowthAppreciate human scale and individual agency rather than large scale and growth – to create structures and systems that are understandable and relatable
learningnormalityLearning about each other instead of assuming and perpetuating a fictional notion of normality – to increase shared understanding
niche constructioncompetitionNiche construction and symbiosis rather than competition and exploitation – to create organisations and services that are fit for purpose and valued by the wider community
open source communityintellectual property rightsCreate open source communities instead of walled gardens of intellectual property rights – to create a global knowledge commons and to maximise collective intelligence
physical wastewealthPay attention to physical waste rather than wealth – to focus us on the metrics that do matter
repairprofitHelp repair frayed relationships instead of profiting from the misery of others – to counteract the escalation of conflicts 
symbiosisexploitationNiche constructionand symbiosis rather than competition and exploitation – to create organisations and services that are fit for purpose and valued by the wider community
tacit knowledgemeritocracyShare valuable tacit knowledge in good company instead of hoarding information and perpetuating the myth of meritocracy – to raise collective intelligence.
transparencyprotection of national interestsValue the currency of knowledge and transparency of information rather than the liquidity of money and the protection of national interests – to be able to think and act outside the paradigm of industrialised imperialism 
trustweaponised contractsVisibly extending trust to people instead of drafting weaponised contracts – to release the handbrake to collaboration
trusted relationshipsanonymous transactionsNurture trusted relationships instead of engaging in anonymous transactions – to minimise rather than encourage the creation of externalities 
valuesvalueThink in terms of values rather than value – to avoid continuously discounting what is priceless

Our destination is beyond human comprehension, but ways of life that are in tune with our biological needs and cognitive limits are always within reach, even when we find ourselves in a self-created life destroying environment. All it takes is a shift in perspective, and corresponding shifts in the aspects of our lives that we value.

The delusion of control

“When people try to improve upon, and thus deviate from, the way Nature itself naturally functions,
they develop artificial codes of right and wrong.
When knowledge becomes highly abstract, men are deceived by mistaking abstractions for realities.
When instinctive family sympathies are replaced by rules for proper conduct then parents
become “responsible” and children become “dutiful”.
When corruption replaces genuine benevolence in government,
then loyalty oaths are demanded of officials.”

Laozi, Translated by Archie J. Bahm, 1958, Chapter 18 

The delusion of anthropocentric control becomes obvious when considering the destablilising geopolitical role of the US government and the MAD logic that is at work to perpetuate the perception that everything is “under control”. If anything the ability to interfere with the lives of millions of people and the ability to nuke the planet can be understood as desperate acts of attempting to project an image of being in control. The $ Assured Destructive ($AD) logic of capital is just as MAD, and no less deadly over the lifespan of the next generation. However $AD logic remains hidden under a veil of obfuscation by the religion of economics and the cult of technological “progress”.

Last week I listened to an interview with actuary Sandy Truston about a recent risk assessment of planetary health. Sandy Trust does a good job at explaining a bias in the education of scientists – the reluctance to actively engage with uncertainty, to publish and write extensively about unknowns and unknowables, and to think hard about the potential implications of these limits, rather than staying within the comfort zone of confidence intervals and statistical “significance”. 

Rather than face into reality,
deny, delay, distract, obfuscate,
absurd, of course, bizarre, even…

Not to avoid, not to prepare, not to change course.
Perhaps it has always been too much,
to expect this shift of consciousness,
to expect wisdom from the sapiens.

A civilization built on energy and materials,

and shared stories of collaboration,
just needed to heed the science,
to harvest energy from a different source,
to harness that ingenuity and adaptation,

all the busy endeavor, and drive,
to change the great systems of humanity,
food, education, finance, economy, transport, energy.

To change the beliefs of the humans,
those oh so carefully and expensively curated beliefs,
before they change the great systems of the planet.

That great miracle, the anti-entropic planet, Gaia,
the world system, billions of years of life,
gathering energy and creating order,
building organisms, ecosystems,

biomes, species, metabolisms,
life insanely complex,
delicate and delicious in its beauty.

A gift a bounty a resource to be exploited, conquered even,

for planes, holidays, Netflix,
celebrities and mangoes in December.
This is success, wealth, life, billions of years for this.
Things, stuff, distractions, ease, gossip, social media,
forget the yawning precipice of climate change,

Catching all the fish and replacing them with plastic,
forget the obesity, loneliness, sadness, and suicide,
the migrants, and the cities running out of water,
forget space junk and the sixth great extinction,
who needs the amazon when you have amazon.
Forget all this and more,

because well, because the economy, silly.

Forget the economy needs a society,
until AI trades bitcoins for the robots.
Society needs somewhere to live,

and food, air, water, shelter, community, meaning.
We saw a way at the branch we’re sitting on,
ignoring warnings it could bend or break.

It hasn’t yet.
Stop your wolf-crying antics.
Why can’t you be happy for the progress?
Look at all the people, the wealth, the technology.

Why can’t you see the future distress?
Heat, fire, flood, food and water shortages, the mess.

Quiet!
The football is on, and the celebrities are dancing.
Rather that than face reality.

Sandy Trust

The difference in the bias of working with statistics can perhaps be illustrated using Swiss cheese as a metaphor. Scientists focus on describing the substance of the cheese, pointing out the existence of holes, and perhaps speculating about the content of a particular hole within their discipline. A prudent actuary focuses on the holes, not only counting and measuring them, but also looking into how they are related and positioned, to understand the extent to which the integrity of the cheese may be compromised by the holes, all from a risk management perspective, i.e. exploring possible avenues to maximise the chances of ending up safe rather than sorry. I refer to this approach as the scale aware precautionary principle.

It is well understood that big industrial risks can’t really be quantified due to our limited insight into all the potential factors. Therefore, at the level of reinsurance, it is common practice to rely on the more predictable earnings from insuring small risks (individual households, health etc.) to subsidise the insurance of big high impact industrial risks. Average citizens always pay the ultimate costs when disaster strikes. Your premiums for next year pay for the industrial scale losses from last year. Once insurers are dealing with genuinely existential risks, this logic no longer pans out … The $AD risks are now such that it is now becoming next to impossible to make profits without insurance premiums exploding, making insurance unaffordable even for those with significant money. 

We currently live in a social world of magical thinking in all layers of the cultural layer cake of enshitification.

“To conquer and rule the world, I think, is not achievable.
The world is like a sacred utensil, which cannot be taken and held.
Whoever tries to conquer it will fail.
Whoever tries to hold it will lose it.
Thus, the sage does not try this, so he can avoid failure.
The sage does not try to own the world, so he loses nothing.
Things can be fast or slow, warm or cool, strong or weak, light or heavy.
The sage avoids the excessive, extravagant, and grandiose.”

Laozi, Translated by Thomas Z. Zhang, Chapter 29

Collaborative niche construction

“Those who aid a government with the Way
Will not threaten the world with military power,
And are therefore returned with kindness in all affairs.
Where armies have stayed will grow only thorns and bush.
When military force dominates, an inauspicious year follows.
Wise leaders prefer natural results than uses of force.
And win victories that would result naturally.
They win without boasting about their valor,
Or feeling proud of their victories,
Or looking triumphant everywhere.
They win but feel guilty as if they were forced to it.
They win without military reinforcement.
Things that have become strong will begin to weaken.
That which weakens is against the Way.
What is against the Way cannot last long.”

Laozi, Translated by Liu Qixuan, Chapter 30 

The fundamental mismatch between hierarchical anthropocentric ideologies and ideologies that embrace conscious collaborative niche construction beyond the human can not be over-emphasised. The former is best understood as a form of collective stupidity and the later is best understood as the natural flow of life that encapsulates 4+ billion years of Gaia’s wisdom.

Homo symbolicus is the result of co-evolutionary processes (within groups and between groups) within the context of a species in which the capacity for symbolic culture was emerging.

Humans applied their indigenous understanding of co-evolutionary processes within an ecological context, consciously engaging in co-evolution with plants and later animals. What modern anthropocentric humans fail to see is the extent to which “selective breeding” is a co-evolutionary process, to which the plants and animals are contributing as much as the humans. Indigenous societies have not yet lost this understanding. Co-evolution is what Riane Eisler describes as the partnership model. Did humans breed wheat, or did the wheat breed humans? Etc.

The WEIRD notion of “intelligence” is misguided, fundamentally misaligned with Gaia’s wisdom.

10,000 years of anthropocentric empire building attempts, i.e. head to head competition based on a myopic anthropocentric frame of evolution that is incredibly wasteful in terms of energy and resources, can be understood as a life destroying cultural disease. This life destroying cultural disease has now triggered co-evolutionary processes within Gaia. When looked at on evolutionary time scales these processes are kicking in incredibly rapidly, clamping down on the myopic mono-species frame of evolution.

“A weapon is a means that causes affliction; it should be discarded.
Therefore, he who follows Tao does not use weapons. 
A good leader is yielding.
He uses power only for defense.
He exerts every effort to maintain peace.
To glorify oneself with military victory means to rejoice at killing of people.
Is it right to respect him who is glad about killing? 
Respect leads to wellbeing.
Wellbeing contributes to the creative process. 
Violence leads to afflictions. 
If many people are killed, it is grievous.
The victory has to be celebrated?
With a funeral ceremony.”

Laozi, Translated by Mikhail Nilolenko, Chapter 31

The wisdom of time

“Tao is forever undefined.
Like uncarved wood, it seems insignificant; yet no one can command it.
If rulers could abide with it, they would rule everything.
The universe would unify and rain the dew of peace,
beyond anyone’s command, evenly on all.
When the uncarved wood is cut up, the parts need names.
One must know when to stop cutting.
All things flow to Tao, like rivers flowing to the sea.”

Laozi, Translated by Ned Ludd, Chapter 32  

The wisdom of time is an important dimension within all co-evolutionary processes. This becomes obvious when reflecting on the distributions of typical life spans across all the different species across all the kingdoms of life within Gaia, from the rapid co-evolutionary cycles of viruses and bacteria to the long cycles of co-evolution in forest ecoystems and coral reefs, and everything in between.

There is a co-evolved natural pace to the flow of life at each of the different scales and for each of the species within the kingdoms of life. 

Attempting to break the pace of the flow of life always comes with consequences, many of which can not be predicted. There are hard limits to the predicability of complex, chaotic, and adaptive systems.

Ignoring these limits is at best a waste of precious time and resources and at worst it can be outright suicidal. This is how humans have ended up in the predicament we now find ourselves in, and Gaia’s timeless wisdom is stepping in to sort out the mess on behalf of the broader community of life. We have the choice of rejoining the flow and the pace of life, or to continue to out-complete the pace of life with mindless busyness.

Perhaps it is no coincidence that human languages have come up with all the concepts needed to describe co-evolutionary processes. When I read about the thoughts of Daoist philosophers I am reading about ancient human wisdom about the pace of the flow of life. In our language we also still say things like ‘good things take time’. None of this wisdom is compatible with the get rich quick [at the expense of others] schemes that have been enabled by mindless exploitation of a one-off store of fossilised energy that is running out, not to mention all the destruction of beauty (diversity) that this has brought about. 

Humans have evolved to observe the effects of their activities over human lifetimes, and we have the evolved capacity of compassion to deliberate at human scale, to think at least 7 generations ahead, and we have the cognitive capacity to learn from the activities of the last 7 generations.

Presently, in the industrial and so-called “post industrial era”, which critically depends on industrial processes, as long as we mindlessly worship the super human scale institutions that have emerged over the last 10,000 years, we are neglecting these valuable life affirming human capacities. The global mono-cult has replaced timeless wisdom with mindless busyness.

The delusion of predictability

“One who seeks knowledge learns something new every day.
One who seeks the Tao unlearns something new every day.
Less and less remains until you arrive at non-action.
When you arrive at non-action,
nothing will be left undone.
Mastery of the world is achieved
by letting things take their natural course.
You can not master the world by changing the natural way.”

Laozi, Translated by John H. McDonald, Chapter 48

If life generates conditions conducive to life, then what is it that generates conditions that destroys life?

AI hype is resulting in a new avalanche of addictive get-rich-quick scheme for WEIRD humans. We saw equivalent get-rich-quick schemes in the lead-up to the GFC in the domain of high frequency trading. The same cycle is repeating. It is exactly the same myopic short term dog-eat-dog logic in combination with an addictive behaviourist carrot of quick rewards that is driving these hypes. All the people who get involved in these hypes have highly addictive tendencies. They are hopeless addicts.

Living systems are fundamentally different from anthropocentric human engineered systems in the frantic digital sphere that ignore the natural pace of the flow of life.

Cults that deny absolute limits of predictability and ecological resilience are very short lived phenomena on evolutionary time scales. The hypernormative spectacle is disconnected from the wonder of life experienced by all biological organisms.

Is this what we call progress?

Brian Klaas highlights the impact of working with the life denying assumptions of homo economicus, but he misses the co-evolved human scale qualities and limitations of homo symbolicus. The conclusion is spot-on for a world of homo economicus. Yet we live in a world of co-evolved human scale homo symbolicus, with delusional institutions and digital tools that religiously calculate and predict the behaviour of homo economicus, and this puts a twist on the conclusions to draw. A fitting quote from another scholar:

In our work we’ve tried to test some of the basic predictions made by the Homo economics model using some simple tools from behavioral economics applied across a diverse swath of human societies. Not only do we find that the Homo economicus predictions fail in every society (24 societies, multiple communities per society), but instructively, we find that it fails in different ways in different societies. Nevertheless, after our paper “In search of Homo economicus” in 2001 in the American Economic Review, we continued to search for him. Eventually, we did find him. He turned out to be a chimpanzee. The canonical predictions of the Homo economicus model have proved remarkably successful in predicting chimpanzee behavior in simple experiments. So, all theoretical work was not wasted, it was just applied to the wrong species.

Joseph Henrich, What Economists Haven’t Found: Humans

No wonder people are Con-Fused.

It is dangerous and naive to assume that current and future human societies are and will always have super-human scale institutions and hierarchical structures of power. It is particularly dangerous to assume that we can somehow come up with “better” ways of preventing the most power hungry from seizing and abusing power. 

We also need to consider how neurodiversity plays out in our species and in all species with nervous systems.

The dangers of powered up relationships and institutions are best understood in a frame of social power as having addictive potential and in terms of individual neurological differences in susceptibility to this form of addiction.

Only hopeless addicts are capable of ignoring the evidence that has been staring us in the face for decades, at the very least for the duration of our lifetimes. It becomes clear that we should perhaps aim for cultural norms that minimise the addictive potential of social power, i.e. societies that don’t assume that social power hierarchies are a universal, timeless, and necessary organising principle.

“In governing people and serving heaven, there is nothing better than moderation.
To be moderate is to follow Tao without straying.
To follow Tao without straying is to become filled with good energy.
To be filled with good energy is to overcome all things.
To overcome all things is to know that all things are possible.
She who knows that all things are possible is fit to govern people.
Because she is one with the mother, her roots go deep,
her foundation stands firm, her life lasts long, her vision endures.”

Laozi, Translated by Brian Browne Walker, 1996, Chapter 59 

In a de-powered radically egalitarian society there is simply no supply to fuel the highly addictive potential of social power. Those with an inclination towards addiction to social power are kept sober by the strict enforcement of egalitarian norms.

What Brian Klaas is missing is faith in the co-evolved wisdom of Gaia. As the Daoists remind us, humour is one of the important social tools on the road towards de-powering.

When people are asleep, their spirits wander off; when they are awake, their bodies are like an open door, so that everything they touch becomes an entanglement. Day after day they use their minds to stir up trouble; they become boastful, sneaky, secretive. They are consumed with anxiety over trivial matters but remain arrogantly oblivious to the things truly worth fearing. Their words fly from their mouths like crossbow bolts, so sure are they that they know right from wrong. They cling to their positions as though they had sworn an oath, so sure are they of victory. Their gradual decline is like autumn fading into winter—this is how they dwindle day by day. They drown in what they do—you cannot make them turn back. They begin to suffocate, as though sealed up in a box—this is how they decline into senility. And as their minds approach death, nothing can cause them to turn back toward the light.

Zhuangzi

In living systems beyond the human, trustworthy relationships at all levels of scale are the primary anchors of stability and the source of adaptiveness and creative collaboration, manifesting in mycorrhizal neurodivergent networks.

“She who follows the way of the Tao
will draw the world to her steps.
She can go without fear of being injured,
because she has found peace and tranquility in her heart.
Where there is music and good food,
people will stop to enjoy it.
But words spoken of the Tao
seem to them boring and stale.
When looked at, there is nothing for them to see.
When listened for, there is nothing for them to hear.
Yet if they put it to use, it would never be exhausted.”

Laozi, Translated by J. H. McDonald, 1996, Chapter 35

“The movement of Tao in the course of time is to return to Simplicity;
The working of Tao is so subtle that its ostensible effect may not be immediately noticeable.
Myriad things and creatures on Earth were originated from something;
This something describable by us was launched ultimately from nothing which is beyond our description.”

Laozi, Translated by Lee Sun Chen Org, Chapter 40

“The Taoist has no opinions
He simply listens, and acts
He treats those who are good as worthy
He treats those who aren’t good as worthy, too
And so he finds their goodness
He gives those who are honorable his trust
He gives those who are dishonorable his trust, too
And so he gains their trust.”

Laozi, Translated by Ted Wrigley, Chapter 49

The obsession with so-called artificial intelligence is a logical extension of the WEIRD anthropocentric delusion, a version 2.0 of homo economicus that appears to have shed the shackles of biological limitations … until one of the long forgotten or emergent unknowns and no-longer-applicable assumptions throws a spanner into the gears of the mechanistic probabilistic house of cards of predictability, replacing one set of apparent certainties with another.

Understanding that many WEIRD humans are obsessed with the fear of losing the illusion of control in an inherently uncontrollable world that is completely out of control is a catalyst for metamorphosis

Our capacity to understand is limited to human scale, but this understanding is within our reach. What I see happening with AI is an extension of engineer’s disease to all aspects of human life, including the scientific enterprise, which has been reduced to “data science” and “computation”. Not only is the map being confused with the territory of lived experience – the blind spot nicely articulated by Evan Thomson, but the shaved off “insignificant” parts of all the bell curves and the role of human scale in sense making are also part of the blind spot.

The human spirit is the ability to make sense (co-create coherence) of the chaotic flow of a living ecology in which the limits of predictability play out at different scales of organisms, which evolved to experience and cycle through Gaia at specific spatial and temporal scales.

“Tao creates all things,
Virtue nurtures them.
Matter gives them forms, and
Environment allows them to succeed.
Thus all things honour Tao and value Virtue.
Tao being honoured and Virtue being valued,
They always occurred naturally without being dictated by anyone.

Thus:

Tao creates all things.
Virtue nurtures them:
They grow and develop;
Bear fruits and mature; and
Are cared for and protected.
To create, but not to possess;
To care for, but not to control;
To lead, but not to subjugate.
This is called the profound virtue.”

Laozi, Translated by Cheng, Chapter 51

My preferred framing of the current state of the institutions of the global mono-cult remains the cultural compost heap. The compost heap is very fertile. The process of composting is something to be encouraged. 

Adequately composted culture is what allows millions of new green shoots to thrive in the cracks of the global mono-cult. By definition, the cracks are the priceless spaces that escape quantification, they are impossible to observe through the lens of capital. Only the lens of compost reveals the real potential of c[r]apital.

“Since ancient times there have been those who have attained the subtle essence of the universe and thus become what they are.
Heaven attained the subtle essence of the universe and became clear.
Earth attained the subtle essence of the universe and became stable.
Divine spirits attained the subtle essence of the universe and became powerful.
The Valley of the Universe attained the subtle essence of the universe and became productive.
The myriad things attained the subtle essence of the universe and became prosperous.
The sages attained the subtle essence of the universe and became wise.
All became what they are by attaining the subtle essence of the universe and hence their true nature.
Extinction happens to one who violates his true nature.
Without being pure, Heaven would cease to be.
Without being stable, Earth would burst into bits.
Without maintaining their potency, spirits would disperse.
Without being productive, the vast Valley of the Universe would become exhausted.
Without being reproductive, the myriad things would perish.
Without fortifying themselves with integral virtue, sages would stumble and fall.
Greatness is rooted in plainness,
just as the low forms the foundation of the high.
Realizing this, the ancient sovereigns were content to style themselves as desolate, unworthy, and needy.
Therefore, one who does not separate his being from the nature of the universe follows the Integral Way.
He has no wish to sound like jingling jade pendants in order to court a good name,
nor like the rumbling of a stone rolling from a cliff in order to create a bad name.
Each one should work on one’s own subtle spiritual integration with the subtle essence of the universe.”

Laozi, Translated by Hua Ching Ni, 1995, Chapter 39 

More and more cosmolocal human scale ecologies of care are being woven at human pace. Small and slow is beautiful.

Love

Faithful words may not be beautiful,
Beautiful words may not be faithful.
Those who love do not quarrel,
Those who quarrel do not love.
Those who know are not learned,
Those who are learned do not know.
The riches of the self-controlled man are in the Inner Life.
When he spends for others, he has more for himself.
When he gives to others, he has much more for himself.
Heavenly Tao blesses all and hurts no one.
The way of the self-controlled man is to act and not to fight.

Laozi, Translated by Isabella Mears, 1916, Chapter 81  

Co-creating ecologies of care beyond the human allows us to experience beauty in a world that is completely out of control. Whether we like it or not, we are all subject to human cognitive and emotional limits. This means we all have the capacity to live in a household with up to around 5 people that constitute our most intimate relationships, to collaborate with around 15 close lifetime friends on a weekly basis, and to maintain up to 50 further friendships. All these genuine relationships that we maintain, if they are in a healthy state, are based on a foundation of mutual trust, compassion, and mutual aid – and not on the transactional logic of the invisible hand of the market.

For the purpose of understanding the purpose of our life, the trustworthy relationships we maintain constitute the bus on which we are travelling through life. Sitting in a bus and the delusion of having a driver who is “in control” are dangerous distractions. Instead of rearranging the seating order in a powered-up bus, it is time to board a de-powered bus or lifeboat. The chances of survival in a bus driving over a cliff are slim, and the chances of having fun along the way are zero. It is time to slam on the brakes, stop at the cliff, and get out the climbing gear, and to have some fun along the way.

“The world in reality is a beautifully interconnected world, and it’s interconnected through many many layers. It’s interconnected through consciousness, which is why we are spiritual beings in human form. But the plants outside my window are spiritual beings in plant form. But the plant of the lychee is in lychee form, and the tree of the mango is in mango form. They are just different expressions of one spiritual interconnected consciousness in the world.”

Vandana Shiva

Love is the art of living in a world that is completely out of control. We are part of Gaia. Our sensitivities serve a purpose, they equip us with love and compassion for all of Gaia. Is is easy to become overwhelmed. Love is the timeless language of life.

UPDATE: A few days after writing this article the following interview with philosopher and psychiatrist Thomas Fuchs appeared in my inbox. As part of the millions of human scale community co-creation initiatives in the modern cultural compost heap, more and more people are rediscovering timeless wisdom and indigenous understanding about the wonder of being alive.

Onwards, together, at human scale!

Gaia loves making senses

Photo by Yoann Boyer on Unsplash

Core ideas within Buddhist and Daoist spiritual traditions are reflective of the commonalities found across many human scale indigenous cultures. A compassionate frame of love as vulnerable mutual knowing is compatible with a panpsychic relational philosophy. Everyone wants their experience to be taken seriously. We are embodied spirits, compelled to make sense of this world, and we can only do so in good company.

Life

Life creates conditions conducive to life – Janine Benyus

This simple definition or observation strongly hints at the fact that dynamic process of life consists of feedback loops.

Life is entirely entirely relational, it is sacred, cyclical, fleeting, compostible, nested, regenerative, and it forever remains mysterious for all participants.

Spirits

Any high-dimensional space that provides a reasonable description of Gaia, i.e. all of life, including the potential of homo ecologus, is best conceptualised entirely relationally, from the very bottom layers of physics upwards.

Life consists entirely of relationships, which are feedback/learning loops, and these in turn, in aggregate, constitute the building blocks of what in our human animal scale perception is experienced as consciousness. There is no shortage of people who conceptualise life this way. This becomes very obvious when studying Eastern spiritual and philosophical texts. 

As humans, with our human limitations, we will never be able to scientifically “prove” to any quantifiable level of certainty that consciousness emerges in this way, but science will also never be capable of disproving that consciousness emerges and exists in this way. This in no way means that science is useless, it simply highlights the limits of science, which are part of the limits of human comprehensibility. In the same way, in the abstract symbolic universe of mathematics there are statements can’t ever be proven to be true or false, and we are not even equipped to identify all such statements.

At the spatial and temporal scales that are relevant for biological and ecological systems, the smallest feedback loops emerge between molecules, resulting the mind boggling complexity found in cell biology and the molecular genetic code. These feedback loops scale up to the largest feedback loops between bioregional terrestrial and marine ecosystems within Gaia. The widely popular anthropocentric conceptions of “consciousness” at best generalise to animals with brains, but exclude all other feedback loops in living systems from contributing to the lived experiences of consciousness at much smaller and much larger spatial and temporal scales.

Powered-up (positive) feedback loops are those feedback loops in which, over time, more information (whether molecules or in a more abstract code) piles up in some living cells or beings than in others. Such powered-up feedbacks are always temporary phenomena relative to the life spans of the living cells or beings involved. 

The bodies of human animals grow to a certain scale, and then they stay intact for a human lifetime. During the lifetime of a human animal all the molecular feedback loops within the human body (between cells, between organs, etc.) are maintained in a de-powered (balanced) state, fed by external energy from living food, resulting in “waste” that consists of building blocks that are ready to be reassembled into new life by thermonuclear energy of the sun.

Similarly, social feedback loops between human animals grow into relationships, and healthy relationships then stay intact for a human lifetime. Throughout life, all the feedback loops within a healthy relationship are maintained in a de-powered state, fed by shared lived experiences and shared understanding, resulting in cultural output that consists of building blocks that are ready to be absorbed by the local ecology of care, and integrated into new relationships within the local ecology of care.

Panpsychism

A universe conceptualised entirely in terms of dynamic feedback/learning loops leads to a panpsychic philosophy in which consciousness is omnipresent, at all levels of scale, which is compatible with Eastern spiritual traditions such as Buddhism and Daoism. It invites us to consider non-anthropocentric viewpoints, it alerts us to the cultural bias that is inherent in modern industrialised notions of “intelligence” and “success”, and it draws attention to the lower and upper limits of human scale, including our cognitive limitations and emotional limitations.

Spiritual traditions

Buddhism also known as Buddha Dharma, is an Indian religion[a] and philosophical tradition based on teachings attributed to the Buddha, a wandering teacher who lived in the 6th or 5th century BCE.[7] It is the world’s fourth-largest religion,[8][9] with over 520 million followers, known as Buddhists, who comprise seven percent of the global population.[10][11] It arose in the eastern Gangetic plain as a śramaṇa movement in the 5th century BCE, and gradually spread throughout much of Asia. Buddhism has subsequently played a major role in Asian culture and spirituality, eventually spreading to the West in the 20th century.[12]

According to tradition, the Buddha instructed his followers in a path of development which leads to awakening and full liberation from dukkha (lit. ’suffering or unease’[note 1]). He regarded this path as a Middle Way between extremes such as asceticism or sensual indulgence.[17][18]

Buddhism focus on minimising suffering and unease corresponds directly to the strong active desire of hypersensitive neurodivergent people to minimise cognitive dissonance. It also hints at the social problems that arise when a culture has normalised or even insists on maintaining high levels of cognitive dissonance over extended periods.

Taoism or Daoism is a diverse philosophical and religious tradition indigenous to China, emphasizing harmony with the Tao 道 (pinyin: dào; Wade–Giles: tao4). With a range of meaning in Chinese philosophy, translations of Tao include ‘way’, ‘road’, ‘path’, or ‘technique’, generally understood in the Taoist sense as an enigmatic process of transformation ultimately underlying reality.[1][2] Taoist thought has informed the development of various practices within the Taoist tradition and beyond, including forms of meditation, astrology, qigong, feng shui, and internal alchemy. A common goal of Taoist practice is self-cultivation, a deeper appreciation of the Tao, and more harmonious existence.

Taoist ethics vary, but generally emphasize such virtues as effortless action, naturalness, simplicity, and the three treasures of compassion, frugality, and humility.

Daoist virtues and treasures align with the sensitivity profiles of many neurodivergent people and constitute a timeless critique of all anthropocentric empire building attempts going all the way back to the early Warring States period (c. 450 – c. 300 BCE), including a call for disengaging from and subverting such attempts.

Taken together, the core ideas within Buddhist and Daoist spiritual traditions are reflective of the commonalities found across many human scale indigenous cultures, including the virtues and operating principles found in egalitarian hunter gatherer societies. Foundational Daoist texts such as Zhuangzi also emphasise the important role of humour in subverting and weakening anthropocentric empire building attempts.

Love

All my work is rooted in caring deeply for the Earth, loving her deeply, and therefore never letting harm come to her… So i decided to tell the story of of my love for the Earth, which is staying alive, my love for life, my deep passion for life, because part of what has been exiled is life itself… I realized that what connects life to is love. The microorganism is giving love to the plant, the bee is giving love to the flower… The world in reality is a beautifully interconnected world, and it’s interconnected through many many layers. It’s interconnected through consciousness, which is why we are spiritual beings in human form. But the plants outside my window are spiritual beings in plant form. But the plant of the lychee is in lychee form, and the tree of the mango is in mango form. They are just different expressions of one spiritual interconnected consciousness in the world.

– Vandana Shiva

The extent to which we are alive emerges from the products of mutual trust, commitments, and shared understanding and experiences in all our relationships.

By virtue of their scale and design, so-called “relationships” with abstract super-human scale anthropocentric institutions are devoid of genuine shared understanding and experiences. The more a culture forces people to trust and “invest in” such “relationships”, the less capacity we have for genuine relationships with living beings, the less our lives are shaped by mutual trust, and the less alive we are.

Once we understand these dynamics, and consciously reorient our lives towards human scale, the prospect of “collapse” of institutions can be understood from a sober perspective – as the expiry of a social license that was inherently invalid all along. There is so much for us to learn from indigenous societies that have not yet been fully crushed by the lie of homo economicus. This reminds me of Eduardo Kohn’s important book on anthropology beyond the human. Here is a good introduction:

We can understand relationships as continuous multi-modal de-powered dialogues within ecologies of care, including the resulting entanglements of our inner worlds.

A few days ago I listened to Richard Watson’s reframing of evolution, corresponding to what I refer to as collaborative niche construction and the compassionate framing of conscious evolutionary design

It is refreshing to hear more voices arguing for reframing evolution in collaborative terms. This has become rare in the modern world, even though Kropotkin wrote about it quite eloquently over 100 years ago.

The compassionate frame of love as vulnerable mutual knowing is compatible with a panpsychic relational philosophy of the universe based on feedback/learning loops and the life affirmative language of ecologies of care.

Sensitivity profiles

All humans have unique sensitivity profiles that are shaped by our neurological baseline dispositions as well as all our lived experiences in the specific ecological contexts we have been embedded in. This is especially true for hypersensitive neurodivergent people, many of whom have experienced and been sensitised by traumatic experiences in a social world in which they are systematically marginalised, pathologised, and sometimes criminalised.

Our individually unique nervous systems and sensitivities develop and evolve over the course of our lives. 85% of neurodivergent adults often or always feel overwhelmed and misunderstood, and over 60% often or always feel disrespected and unsafe. Our overall sense of wellbeing is determined by alignment between our sensitivity profiles and the ecology of care we are embedded in (or not).

The official diagnostic criteria for “autism” are deeply entangled with symptoms of complex trauma. Those who identify as Autistic and many other neurodivergent people clearly have uncommon baseline sensitivity profiles from birth, but then traumatic lived experiences in the modern hypernormative industrialised world pile on top. In the end it is impossible to say where “autism” stops and where “trauma responses” begin.

The conclusion is that every human is a unique repository of lived experiences. The paradigm of the modern medical model that is focused on diagnosing and treating individuals is limiting in many ways, and unless these limits are fully acknowledged, it can result in significant harm, especially amongst those who are intersectionally marginalised.

Everyone wants their experience to be taken seriously. Simplistic and pathologising diagnostic labels and therapies centred on decontextualised individuals will never be up to the job. Our unique sensitivity profiles, which encompass our entire nervous systems, in no way limited to our brains, shape our unique way of sensing and making sense of the world.

Those who have been actively involved in the neurodiversity and disability movements for a number of years, in particular neurodiversity activists who are committed towards genuine paradigmatic change, are advocating for intersectional solidarity beyond labels, and are taking issue with the cookie cutter categories found in the DSM that gloss over the uniqueness of every lived experience.

I relate to the following conversation with Minna Salami on multiple levels, especially given her transcultural context that spans Nigeria, Germany, Sweden, and other cultural environments.

Powered-up relationships (persistent unbalanced feedback loops) between humans generate cognitive dissonance, which is experienced as a dis-ease that demands to be resolved. There is ample evidence that ignoring or suppressing cognitive dissonance for extended periods results in mental, spiritual, and bodily diseases.

I have been testing this theory of cognitive dissonance for a number of years. It explains my own experiences, and it seems capable of explaining the experiences of many others I have shared the theory with. Interestingly, the theory nicely fits together with the results of Michael Tomasello’s experimental developmental psychological research, as well as with Camilla Power’s biological and cultural anthropological research.

Those humans who are labelled “hypersensitive” seem to be the ones who have a conscious awareness of cognitive dissonance and are compelled to take/avoid specific actions in order to reduce cognitive dissonance. Those humans who are not “hypersensitive” seem to be the ones who are able to tolerate cognitive dissonance over extended periods, and may not be able to connect the feeling or source of cognitive dissonance with their mental, spiritual, and bodily diseases. 

Hypersensitivities and the uniqueness of sensitivity profiles hints at differences in the levels of conscious lived experience of specific events, and it leads towards a theory of compatible vs. incompatible sensitivity profiles.

The psychological bell curves associated with the Devil’s Sadistic Manual (DSM) effectively define the bandwidth of “culturally acceptable” human sensitivity profiles, and they discount and pathologise “culturally unacceptable” human sensitivity profiles.

Culture co-evolution

All major evolutionary milestones in the history of Gaia have co-evolutionary characteristics, including lessons from the the emergence and co-evolution of biological cells and the subsequent co-evolution of multi-celled organisms. 

The empirical knowledge we have about cell biology teaches us a lot about the complementary roles of abstract symbol systems and semantics in co-evolutionary processes, it teaches us that evolutionary processes are inherently co-evolutionary, i.e. ecological processes rather than species-specific biological processes.

The semi-permeable membranes of cells provide a model for co-evolutionary processes between multiple living organisms that has been empirically “road tested” for billions of years by Gaia.

With the formal foundations of category theory, model theory, and denotational semantics, we are equipped to precisely articulate the interdependencies between abstract symbol systems and semantics, including the co-evolutionary processes that act on symbol systems and semantics.

Co-evolutionary processes between multiple cultural organisms are steeped in a paradigm of conscious collaborative niche construction rather than in mindless and extremely energy intensive and wasteful head-to-head competition.

Culture co-evolution at human scales entails the following:

  1. The emergence of cultural practices between two regularly interacting human animals. Balanced relationships and de-powered dialogues are best understood and visualised as a feedback loop that results in a convergence and entanglement of our internal mental models and greater levels of shared understanding and compassion.
  2. Within a human family or household that includes n human animals there are up to 1/2 n * (n – 1) relationships between human animals the co-evolution of relationships gives rise to additional cultural practices. 
  3. Empirically we know that healthy human cultural organisms consist of multiple families or households that collaborate and live together on daily or weekly basis to form a coherent economic resource sharing unit, i.e. a human scale cultural organism. Within a human scale cultural organism that includes m families there are up to 1/2 m * (m – 1) relationships between families that co-evolve and give rise to additional cultural practices.
  4. Relationships between families consist of relationships between specific people. So at the level of a human scale cultural organism of l human animals and m families there are a total of 1/2 l * (l – 1) relationships between human animals that co-evolve, plus 1/2 m * (m – 1) relationships between families that co-evolve.
  5. Furthermore, empirically we know that human cultural organisms maintain collaborative relationships with a number of other human cultural organisms, which in turn consist of relationships between specific people, resulting in the co-evolution of interacting cultural organisms.

This provides us with a human scale framework to think and reason about cultural evolution with an entirely collaborative frame of omni-directional learning.

From within a co-evolutionary frame it becomes obvious that all head-to-head competitions are best understood as short-term and energy wasting distractions that are best clamped down on as soon as they become detectable within a family, within a cultural organism, or between cultural organisms.

These are the cultural foundations that are top of mind in egalitarian hunter gatherer societies, and the resulting cultural practices are the product of 300,000 years of culture co-evolution. This tells us everything we need to know about the priorities of values in healthy life affirming cultures, and it explains the continuously growing popularity of the Open Space approach to omni-directional learning introduced by Harrison Owen in the 1980s.

Hunter gathers and the work of academics like Eduardo Kohn expand the above co-evolutionary frame to relationships beyond the human. The collaborative frame beyond the human is also clearly visible in the observations and writings of Pëtr Kropotkin from 1902.

The cognitive and emotional limits of human scale become visible and obvious in the non-trivial challenges of preventing and de-escalating head-to-head competitions and conflicts between cultural organisms. However, there are well-documented examples of egalitarian societies that have apparently been successful at minimising head-to-head competitions and conflicts between cultural organisms over hundreds and thousands of years. We would do well to learn from such cultures, and then to apply what we learn to the design of digital communication, collaboration, and design tools for the next 200 years and beyond. The number of initiatives heading in this general direction has been slowly but steadily growing over the course of the last 20 years. The work of Brett Victor is another example of an initiative that has been going for 10+ years.

Beyond human scale, we can relax and have faith in Gaia’s wisdom. This is very much in line with the spirit of Open Space. Where invited, we can provide palliative care to the dying super-human scale institutions, including relevant education towards safe and viable exit paths for the inmates.

The human spirit within Gaia

Humans evolved to make sense of the world at human scales:

  1. The human nervous system is a sense making organ that evolved to integrate at human scale into a human scale cultural organism, within which culture operates mainly as an energy saving tool. 
  2. Human cultural organisms save energy by engaging in collaborative niche construction with a conscious primary focus on group wellbeing, and this has allowed humans to colonise and adapt to nearly all terrestrial ecosystems on the planet. 
  3. Collaborative niche construction often even extends to relationships between local human cultural organisms, but it does not scale beyond the cognitive and emotional limitations of human scale. Therefore conflicts easily emerge when the local group size or the local density of groups exceeds these limits. Maintaining egalitarian collaborative relationships between human scale groups is stretching the limits of the human capacities for language and culture.

As part of an Open Source human scale heritage for future generations of humans, it is precisely in the context of collaborative niche construction that transparent and appropriately designed digital technological guardrails around the human capacities for language and culture could become the tools that extend the reliability of human collaborative niche construction to larger scales, without centralising any decision making powers in the hands of strongmen.

It is time to replace the 10,000 year old misguided faith in power drunk strongmen by a scientifically enlightened faith in 4+ billion years of Gaia’s evolved wisdom.

Radical egalitarianism is the architecture of the adaptive intelligence of the human species. This architecture differs significantly from the nervous systems of other primates, because other primates do not have comparable capacities for language and culture.

  1. The primate nervous system is a sense making organ that evolved to integrate into small flexible competitive alliances within the context of a social dominance hierarchy, within which culture operates mainly as a social power amplifier within conflicts. 
  2. Primate alliances amplify social power to weaken the position of social power at the top of the hierarchy, this is the paradigm of “collaborate only to compete”, which introduces an element of opportunistic cooperation that is only just sufficient for maintaining overall group coherence.
  3. Primates do not consciously trust the collective intelligence of the group, and the primary focus of their mental faculties is the navigation of competitive social dynamics within a “collaborate only to compete” paradigm. This limitation, compounded by their lack of symbolic language, prevents them from developing a collective primate group scale repository of cultural wisdom and collective understanding of the local bioregional ecosystem that persists, is transmitted reliably, and evolves over the course of many generations.

If we think of human nervous systems as outlined above, it becomes obvious that:

  1. The course of evolution of the human capacities for language and culture has optimised for continuous collaborative niche construction based on stable relationships within human cultural organisms.
  2. Human gene-culture co-evolution will have favoured the dimensions of variability and diversity that we observe between individual humans today. Human neurodiversity is best studied and understood at human scale.
  3. It only makes sense to explore adaptive levels of human diversity vs maladaptive levels of human diversity or uniformity by comparing human scale cultural organisms.

It is absurd to attempt to define “normal” or “adaptiveness” at the level of individual humans. 

These observations give us a framework for positioning and reasoning about internalised ableism. WEIRD societies have become detached from the evolutionary roots of our capacity for culture. We are surrounded by Guy Debord’s Spectacle. Not only is hardly anything ever is what it seems to be, from an atomised individualistic position, surrounded by self-interested homo economicus, we can only anchor ourselves in the non-human biological world, and we have to treat all human cultural construction with suspicion.

This is a world where, in the absence of trust based human scale ecologies of care, institutionalised BS in the form of corporations led by strongmen is the only accessible anchor point for the social world, especially given that nearly all digital means of communication have been seized by corporations.

In the cultural metamorphosis that is in progress, Gaia is the only true authority. Every year she speaks with greater authority to all of us.

Becoming aware of cultural bias

To become consciously aware of cultural bias across all human endeavours, it helps to think of as academia as consisting of two subsystems that are connected via a learning / feedback loop, roughly as follows:  

Human cultural output as part of Gaia

  1. the humanities
  2. mathematics
  3. statistics and engineering

Human attempts at understanding Gaia

  1. global studies and political science
  2. the earth sciences
  3. physics
  4. chemistry
  5. ecology
  6. all of biology minus WEIRD bias in evolutionary biology
  7. the medical sciences minus WEIRD psychiatry
  8. the social sciences minus WEIRD psychology

With these distinctions in mind we can critically examine our understanding of Gaia in terms of the humanities, the mathematical disciplines, and the statistics and engineering that are framing our scientific investigations. We can become explicit about all the cultural assumptions that underpin the sciences. Mathematics stands out as the one discipline that is religiously focused on making all assumptions explicit.

Distinguishing human cultural outputs from empirical scientific human attempts of understanding Gaia brings internalised ableism into the focal point of a critical lens, linking it to the modern human predicament, and exposing the dangerous levels of pseudoscience in the dark triad of “scientific” disciplines hinted at in the conversation “Artificial Intelligence, Dark Patterns, and the Digital Economy”  with Stuart Mills:

  1. WEIRD economics (economics & business administration)
  2. the psychologically “normal(ised)” WEIRD human (psychiatry & psychology)
  3. digital automation of WEIRD behaviour (computer science & data science)

The questionable social license of this triad of WEIRD disciplines mainly tends to be constructed by referencing results from the other two elements of the triad, and manifests in a language that normalises violence.

The cultural challenge in engineering is an active disinterest in making all assumptions explicit, and instead, as needed, relying on WEIRDly convenient assumptions baked into the dark triad of “scientific” disciplines to advance the arrow of “progress”. This is reflected in the “shut up and calculate” attitude to unknowns and the glaring absence of any sensible scale aware precautionary principle.

A perhaps less obvious dimension of completely “normal” internalised ableism manifests in the age bracket in which homo economicus is considered to be “productive” or “useful”, i.e. employable and exploitable for profit, roughly the period between the ages of 20 and 65. Everyone outside this age bracket is by default considered to be an economic burden in modern society, including the “costs” of educating the under 20s and taking care of the over 65s.

The religion of economics has legitimised an obsession with maximising the quantifiable economic “utility” that can be extracted from a human life. How else could anyone ever come up with the absurd notion of “net worth”?

Within the frame of maximising economic utility, in-depth intergenerational dialogues beyond those that are part of the indoctrination system are undesirable. Homo economicus thrives in environments of stratified age cohorts (generations X, Y, Z, …)  that are competing against each other, thereby reducing valuable bidirectional intergenerational learning, and creating opportunities for marketing and selling age cohort specific commercial services and products.

Reviving trust in humanity

Nothing in the atomised modern social world makes sense anymore, because human scale cultural organisms, including understanding of the life sustaining and adaptive importance of such organisms have been eroded from living memory. The human spirit has been broken, i.e. faith in humanity and faith in Gaia has been shaken to the core.

All the dynamics that characterise a breakdown of honest communication in good faith, or a lack of experience with de-powerd dialogue / non-violent communication manifest in fairly obvious symptoms:

  1. Using persuasive techniques to encourage another to adopt an opinion (ABA and the entire behaviourist bag of tricks) – rather than listening and engaging in deeper compassionate dialogue to understand the other.
  2. Casting doubt on observations and assessments of another, in domains or contexts in which the other is more intimately familiar with the context – rather than listening and respecting the contextually informed observations of the other.
  3. Ignoring questions that express a desire from another to understand motivations and expressed feelings – rather than openly sharing motivations and feelings.
  4. There are likely further symptoms …

The competitive frame of homo economicus fully normalises the compulsion of being seen as “independent and strong”. Fears of exposing vulnerabilities pave the path for a culture of ubiquitous mistrust and mental health problems. This is the cult(ure) of internalised ableism.

This state of affairs leaves modern humans in a desolate, isolated position from which extending deep trust to other humans has become seemingly impossible for many. Amongst other things, we see this reflected in the AutCollab Research data, which clearly shows how much Autistic and otherwise neurodivergent people would love to help others, including strangers in need, but at the same time many are [very] afraid to dare ask for help.

The deep indoctrination in the myth of homo economicus has also made modern humans distrustful of themselves. The vast majority of attempts that people undertake to become “successful” within the dominant cultural frame leaves people to conclude deep down that “there must be something wrong with me” and likely “I did not try hard enough”

The result is an epidemic of self hate and shame. 

The effects of self hate are amplified by the social standards and pathologising labels documented in the Devil’s Sadistic Manual (the DSM). David Mackler focuses on self hate inflicted by parents on children, but there are many other avenues within the toxic social system that lead towards self hate.

To make matters worse, on the few occasions where people “succeed within the system”, they must find a way of rationalising and justifying their “success”. This entails suppressing any negative feelings they may have developed on the path towards success, which in many cases involved ethical corner-cutting and grandiose perception management in order to “win” the culturally prescribed competitive social game. In other words, becoming successful usually involves suppression of our innate human compassion for others and in some cases knowingly inflicting harm on others in order to “win”. 

The result is an epidemic of deeply suppressed guilt hidden underneath outwardly narcissistic behaviours in order to survive in a toxic life denying society.

Yet another perverse effect of the predicament of internalised ableism is seen in some of the WEIRD therapies devised to address the pathologies listed in the DSM, which basically teach therapists techniques for:

  1. Making people feel better about themselves by identifying other people who have harmed them, which inevitably involves some attribution of blame, and thereby to some extent it distracts from clearly seeing the systemic patterns of intergenerational trauma that are at work.
  2. Encouraging people to believe that working on “themselves” will eventually allow them to become “successful”, and thereby pushing people back into the environment that is ruled by the toxic rules for “success”.

These toxic patterns will never seize to be perpetuated until the ideology of homo economicus is discarded. Growing numbers of WEIRD therapists are leaving their “professions” or are seeking to leave their “profession”. Over the years I have offered peer support to quite a number of therapists and recovering therapists. I deeply feel their pain.

Everyone in the WEIRD world is to some extent entrapped by the system. Even those who are (re)learning local human powered subsistence level ways of communal living and surviving, minimising their consumption, often rely on some level of financial “investments” to sustain themselves, and thereby end up with one foot or at least a few toes in the toxic system, contributing to its continuation.

A healthier way to think about our remaining entanglement with homo economicus is to understand it as a form of palliative care for dying institutions, by incrementally equipping the inmates with viable exit paths. We can encourage the dying process of institutions as they are incrementally abandoned and become entirely obsolete.

2025 is the UN International Year of Cooperatives. Cooperatives Build a Better World, showcasing the enduring global impact cooperatives have everywhere. This theme puts a spotlight on how the cooperative model is an essential solution to overcome many global challenges.

Buddhist and Daoist values and virtues can provide overarching guidance along the way:

  1. Minimise the human and non-human suffering on the downwards slope of homo economicus, and 
  2. Maximise joy as part of the metamorphisis of human scale cultural organisms in the cultural compost heap.

An obvious way of minimising human suffering is to share the framing and reasoning outlined above with emerging human scale ecologies of care:

  1. to equip people to be more gentle with themselves
  2. to reassure them that you know that they are doing the best they can within the bounds of their human cognitive and emotional limits, 
  3. and to remind them that everyone can contribute to the metamorphosis by letting go of internalised ableism, by appreciating and actively supporting the work of those who are the agents within the metamorphosis, and by relying on non-violent resistance as needed to prevent avoidable harm and to support the dying process of the system.

Our nervous systems are deeply connected at human scale. We are embodied spirits, everything is connected. Interfaces limit our humanity. We evolved to be fully present with each other, without interfaces.

A lot of what I have been writing about over the course of the last two years can be understood as an attempt of making the insights of neurodivergent people like DJ White with unique life paths more accessible to a somewhat broader audience, i.e. the audience of all those who are part of one of the millions of emergent human scale cultural organisms that are growing in the cultural compost heap. Beyond alignment with DJ White’s advice on committing to a sacred mission at human scale, I relate to his concerns for the oceans.

My re-examination of social systems transcends old categories. It uses a new method of analysis (the study of relational dynamics) that draws from a larger data base than conventional studies. It looks at a much larger, holistic picture that includes the whole of humanity, both its female and male halves; the whole of our lives, not only politics and economics but where we all live, in our family and other intimate relations; and the whole of our history, including the thousands of years we call prehistory.

Looking at this more complete picture makes it possible to see interactive relationships or configurations that are not visible otherwise. There were no names for these social configurations, so I called one the domination system and the other the partnership system.

Once we understand these configurations, it becomes clear that the real struggle for our future is not religious vs. secular, East vs. West, South vs. North, right vs. left, etc. If you think about it, societies in all these categories were, and are, repressive, violent, and unjust.

The real struggle is within societies in every one of these categories, between people who want to move to a more caring and equitable world and those who still believe insensitivity, cruelty, and destructiveness – and all the misery they lead to – are “just human nature” – the inevitable result of original sin or selfish genes.

We’re all familiar with relations of domination and submission from our own lives. We know the pain, fear, and tension of relations based on coercion and accommodation, of jockeying for control, of trying to manipulate and cajole when we are unable to express our real feelings and needs, of the tug of war for that illusory moment of power rather than powerlessness, of our unfulfilled yearning for caring and mutuality, of all the misery, suffering, and lost lives and potentials that come from these kinds of relations.

Most of us have also, at least intermittently, experienced another way of being, one where we feel safe and seen for who we truly are, where our essential humanity and that of others shines through, perhaps only for a little while, lifting our hearts and spirits, enfolding us in a sense that the world can after all be right, that we are valued and valuable.

Our human yearning for caring connections, for peace rather than war, for equality rather than inequality, for freedom rather than oppression, can be seen as part of our genetic equipment. The degree to which this yearning can be realized is not a matter of changing our genes, but of building partnership social structures and beliefs.

In the domination system, somebody has to be on top and somebody has to be on the bottom. People learn, starting in early childhood, to obey orders without question. They learn to carry a harsh voice in their heads telling them they’re no good, they don’t deserve love, they need to be punished. Families and societies are based on control that is explicitly or implicitly backed up by guilt, fear, and force. The world is divided into in-groups and out-groups, with those who are different seen as enemies to be conquered or destroyed.

In contrast, the partnership system supports mutually respectful and caring relations. Because there is no need to maintain rigid rankings of control, there is also no built-in need for abuse and violence. Partnership relations free our innate capacity to feel joy, to play. They enable us to grow mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. This is true for individuals, families, and whole societies.


From Partnership 101, Riane Eisler, 2021

Making sense of the world

We are all compelled to make sense of this world, and we can only do so in good company at human scales. We evolved to experience cognitive dissonance as discomfort and to strive towards eliminating it at human scale.

It is only when looking at the time scale of human evolutionary history that we can recognise powered-up civilisations as a cultural disease instead of confusing them with a misguided “arrow of progress”, and in the process tricking ourselves into believing that “progress” can be the result of homo economicus and tools designed in the image of homo economicus, amplifying the worst possible human impulses.

The term “intelligence” has been shoehorned into a very WEIRD anthropocentric notion of “success” or “progress” that is designed to compel humans to “live up to” the doctrine of the cult leaders of homo economicus. When “intelligence” (artificial or otherwise) has been reduced to anything that helps us justify and maintain our addictions in the face of growing levels of cognitive dissonance, can we sink any lower?

It is terribly easy to design tools that surpass human capabilities. We have been doing this for several hundred thousand years. It seems this has been forgotten. We are “great” tool makers, and always have been. Great in quotes, because our cognitive and perhaps even more so our emotional limitations can get in the way of us understanding the full ecological implications of deploying our powered-up tools.

Advanced tools in the hands of power addicts have always been a bad idea. As the saying goes, “a fool with a tool is still a fool.” We have have made the mistake of worshipping the human capability for advanced recursive tool design as “intelligence”. The result is a human social world devoid of wisdom and growing levels of cognitive dissonance.

Wisdom is the capacity to understand the difference between the human capability for advanced recursive tool design and human ecological understanding.

Gaia is calling for a conscious paradigmatic shift in the design of our tools away from the life denying religion of homo economicus towards a life affirming religion of homo ecologus. In the same way that badly designed digital tools can amplify the worst human impulses, well designed digital tools hold the potential to amplify the noblest of human impulses on our 200+ years journey of coming down from the carbon pulse.

Fellow Autist DJ White urges us to at least try to gently land the airliner of industrialised civilisation in a suitably flat corn field instead of hoping for some miracle to refill the fuel tanks while continuing at full throttle.

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Autistic, Authentic, and Autonomous ecologies of care beyond the human grow organically, at human scale, at a human pace, one trusted relationship at a time. Join us!

Autistic human animals – a factor in cultural metamorphosis

Autistic culture is a world of infinite diversity beyond the neuronormative imagination. Every Autistic relationship is unique, and many of us are traumatised. We need appropriate tools to invest in deeply understanding each other. Cultural metamorphosis requires radically reframing everything we understand about cultural adaptivity in terms of co-creating ecologies of care.

In the times we live in the demand for peer support and reliable emotional support routinely outstrips the available supply. This is reflected in overall mental health statistics, in the level of burnout, and we also see it in the quantitative and qualitative results of AutCollab Research. This article is motivated by the common reality of Autistic emotional exhaustion and lack of adequate peer support, as well as by the massive trust problems created by homo economicus.

My writing, trying to make sense of the cruel dystopian world we have been born into, and trying to articulate potential avenues that allow us collectively to jointly co-create ecologies of care, takes a lot of energy, in particular emotional energy. No one can do this alone. I certainly can’t and I don’t pretend I can. I need faith in humanity to write what I write, and this faith is based entirely on a small number of amazing Autistic human animals in my immediate ecology of care. For this I am immensely grateful every day.

The modern world needs more intersectional solidarity across all dimensions, more dialogues, more transparency, and more compassion. In short we need to invest in deeply understanding each other, and this is what we are increasingly seeing on the margins of society.

In the socially toxic world of homo economicus, many of the basic relationship building, maintenance, and repair skills have been lost or have become rare. To relearn these skills, we need an Autistic Relationship Manual (an ARM), connected to a helping hand and a compassionate heart, which can be only provided by our uniquely amazing Autistic peers. This article can be thought of as an ARM.

Cultural metamorphosis

Cultural metamorphosis is a radical form of collaborative niche construction that requires us to reframe everything we understand about the cultural adaptivity that is at our disposal at human scale. 

Homo economicus has pushed all life affirming human cultures beyond the cut-off points of the anthropocentric bell curve. The hump of the anthropocentric bell curve has become a hypernormative cultural dead zone paralysed by sanctified institutionalised BS.

Cultural healing requires the kind of deep and profound shift in trust from established institutions towards mutual aid and the community co-creation at human scale that indigenous Mexican scholar Yuria Celidwen talks about: 

We need commitment, we need community. We need to create spaces of trust. But for that, there’s tremendous work that we need to be doing. But I don’t think that any of that work will be possible, should we not have that commitment–that commitment that no matter how challenging and tremendously difficult it will be to reckon with these narratives and to dismantle these narratives. Because seeing the horror in the eye of all these narratives that we live by comes with tremendous understanding. It will leave us very fragile, very vulnerable, and most, of course, are not willing to do that, because we don’t feel safe. But if we are able to stand the heat and create these spaces, if we commit to do this kind of work for the benefit of the planet, then we may be able to learn that we can fly.

This shift in trust is already happening outside established institutions. It can only happen via self-selected and self-organising groups. I sense this is what we are already starting to experience on the intersectional margins of modern societies.

The objective of the Autistic Relationship Manual is to get people to start talking again, to catalyse further intersectional dialoges, and to let go of unwarranted fears and unwarranted shame, whether this is due to trauma or inhumane hypernormative culturally imposed expectations.

Metamorphosis back to human scale can be imagined as a cultural development stage for global intersectional and neurodivergent solidarity beyond the human, undoing some of the harm perpetuated in throughout the colonial and neocolonial era, at least for the generations alive today.

In the context of cultural metamorphosis, Autistic human animals are the imaginal cells within human scale cultural organisms. Globally, there are a few hundred million of us, spread across all continents and bioregional ecosystems, and this number does not even include the many hundred million of otherwise neurodivergent human animals. Autistic human animals tend to be highly concerned about social justice and tend to be the ones who point out toxic in-group competitive behaviours. We assist each other in co-creating unique Autistic relationships, households, and human scale cultural organisms. We co-create our unique families in our own space and time.

Yes, real change takes real courage. It shakes the very foundations of people’s understanding of the world. In difference to what Adam Curtis is hoping for, what we are seeing at the grassroots level are millions of beautifully diverse small green shoots at human scale. This is deep change, beyond any centralised powers of control.

In the context of healthy egalitarian human ecologies, Autistic human animals are best understood as the agents of a well functioning cultural immune system within society.

Autistic

The unusual heightened baseline sensitivity profiles of Autistic human animals means that they have a reduced capacity for maintaining cognitive dissonance.

Autistic human animals are unconstrained by culturally defined gender norms and have the capacity to relate deeply to other human and non-human living beings. Their sensitivity profiles limit their ability to think hierarchically and engage in transactional human busyness.

In the hypernormative culture that dominates the modern world, it is hard to explain to non-Autistic people what the immersion in healthy Autistic culture feels like and what the development of healthy sacred lifetime relationships between Autistic people feels like. In mainstream society people don’t understand how Autistic human animals support each other, love each other, and care for each other in ways that go far beyond the culturally impaired neuronormative imagination.

Human

It should not require mentioning, but in the hyper-normative modern social world, it must be stated and emphasised that Autistic human animals are fully human.

As humans we share an evolved capacity for developing and maintaining cultures and languages. These capacities allow humans to collaborate in flexible and complex ways based on shared intentions, a shared understanding of each other, and a shared understanding of our ecological context.

Our capacities for culture and language allow us to establish and maintain commitments to each other and commitments across human scale groups. Such verbal or written commitments constitute an effective human scale cultural framework for coordinating human social affairs.

Breaking our commitments makes us physically, mentally, and spiritually sick. Humans evolved this way. This is how we have become cultural organisms. Fully acknowledging this evolutionary heritage we must conclude:

Every relationship is sacred. No one should ever be discarded. This also extends to non-human living beings. No life should ever be discarded. We honour Gaia by appreciating all the living food she provides us with by committing to nurturing and helping all those living beings that sustain us.

Beyond our capacity for culture and language humans have an evolved capacity for pair bonding within the context of human scale groups, which can be understood as networks of sacred relationships, each of which encapsulates unique shared experiences.

Animals

In the anthropocentric modern social world, it must be reiterated that all human are animals.

Just like all other animals, humans engage in sexual activities, and we do so in very diverse ways. As human animals, our capacities for culture and language have greatly increased the complexity of our sexual imagination, and this plays out in the infinite complexity in sexual behaviour and rituals that are found in different cultures.

Please note that Western Educated Industrialised Rich and Democratic (WEIRD) cultures have not “cornered the market” of cultural gender identities and sexual preferences. Attempting to impose WEIRD cultural norms on other groups is a form of neocolonialism.

Similar comments apply to the cultures of all super-human scale groups such as modern nation states and corporations. Such modern legal fictions are incompatible with our human evolutionary history, and “universally applicable” social norms defined by such entities are causing untold harm on a daily basis.

Acknowledging that humans are animals includes acknowledging the absolute cognitive and emotional limits shared by all humans. In terms of our cognitive and emotional capacities and limitations, we are all much closer to each other than most of us are ever ready to admit.

Being conscious animals helps us regain some urgently needed humility, and should encourage all of us to honour Gaia on a daily basis.

Relational building blocks

Every relationship between humans is sacred, and every relationship is unique. There are no cookie cutters that work for everyone. However there are relational building blocks that can be used to articulate the unique commitments, preferences, and needs that define a relationship.

The ability to extend trust

The ability to extend trust is defined by the health of the ecology of care we are embedded in. Autistic human animals who are embedded in Autistic culture and a reasonably healthy ecology of care tend to extend deep trust, especially to other Autistic human animals.

In our times this is an increasingly rare sacred gift, which is easily exploited in unsafe environments dominated by internalised ableism. Carefully nurturing and protecting these gifts is a collective responsibility within Autistic cultural organisms. There is beautiful work for us to do.

Too many Autists end up isolated, in particular those who have a calling to be activists, who are so sensitive that they can not bear all the suffering in the world. No one chooses to be highly sensitive. No one chooses a calling. We are born this way. And we are fully human animals, with human needs. We are Autistic. We are not broken. To thrive we need to be embedded in a healthy ecology of care.

Too many of us die completely misunderstood. Many of us remember dear friends who are no longer amongst us. 

Deep mutual trust is a priceless collective asset that is increasingly providing healthy Autistic cultural organisms with a unique collaborative advantage over traditional family systems and organisational forms.

Shared understanding

Some level of shared understanding is a prerequisite for any relationship to even get started. For example in this context it helps to know if the person you would like to form a relationship with is an Autistic human animal, as this can greatly reduce the effort and energy needed for communication.

Shared value priorities

Most humans, even across cultures, share many similarities in values. What really matters for relational health is transparency and clarity about the relative priorities of the values that matter most to us.

Shared interests

Shared interests are part of the bedrock of relationships between Autistic human animals, much more so than between non-Autistic human animals, who tend to have much broader interests in topics shaped by the surrounding culture, and a less deep interest or understanding of the topics they are happy to engage in.

When multiple interests are shared between Autistic human animals, it can result in unique friendships and romantic partnerships that go far beyond the limited neuronormative imagination of what is possible.

Complementary interests

Complementary interests are an optional part of the bedrock of relationships between Autistic human animals, more so than between non-Autistic human animals. Mutual respect and curiosity about complementary interests predisposes Autistic human animals towards collaborative niche construction and the formation of unique human scale cultural organisms.

Sexual preferences

Sexual preferences are an essential building block for all romantic partnerships.

Western Educated Industrialised Rich and Democratic (WEIRD) cultures have not “cornered the market” of sexual preferences. Attempting to impose WEIRD cultural norms on other groups is a form of neocolonialism.

Relax! When two Autistic animals meet, be prepared to be surprised and delighted!

Gender preferences

Gender preferences are an optional building block for romantic partnerships with Autistic human animals.

Hardly anything in the biosphere is binary. Yet the entire global digital edifice is built from zeros and ones. What could possibly go wrong? A substantial number of Autistic human animals identify as non-binary and have difficulty comprehending the concept of culturally defined gender norms for ways of pair bonding.

Western Educated Industrialised Rich and Democratic (WEIRD) cultures have not “cornered the market” of cultural gender identities. Attempting to impose WEIRD cultural norms on other groups is a form of neocolonialism.

In wider society gender expectations represent a minefield for Autistic human animals. A substantial number of Autistic human animals are equally uncomfortable with the both binary genders and corresponding cultural behavioural expectations. I have no idea of what others expect from me or what to expect from them if they identify as one of the two default binary genders. Every relationship is unique, and develops in a unique way. Cookie cutters don’t make sense to me.

Relax! When two Autistic animals meet, conformance with any WEIRD gender norms are often one of the least relevant aspects of the relationship.

Relational health

Every relationship between humans is sacred, and every relationship is unique.

The health of a relationship can be defined as the absence of cognitive dissonance in relating to the relationship from the perspectives of both parties to the relationship. It is sufficient for one person in a relationship to experience cognitive dissonance for the relationship to become strained.

The WEIRD modern social world many people were born into today has destroyed the collective ability for deliberation at human scale. As a result modern life is experienced as incoherent from the individual perspective, which is subconsciously attempting to generate coherence at human scale. When that process fails, nothing seems to make sense anymore

The modern social world we live in can only be understood from the margins, because the very notion of sense making has been confused. This is no surprise, because our capacity for sense making operates at human scale.

Essential sacred commitments

There are no cookie cutters that work for everyone. However there are essential commitments that are part or the foundation of all healthy relationships.

  1. Availability – both parties are committed to a comparable level of their availability to the relationship, which is determined by level of intensity of the relationship, which in turn is shaped by agreed mutual commitments.
  2. Full transparency – both parties need are committed to full transparency across all aspects of the relationship, which are determined by level of intimacy of the relationship, which in turn is shaped by agreed mutual commitments. Of course full transparency means that some things may become impossible, and then one or more relationships in an ecology of care may need to evolve, including shifts in the circles of intimacy as needed. There is no need to discard any relationship. A binary all or nothing approach is a symptom of living in a toxic transactional culture.
  3. Compassion – both parties are committed to mutual compassion across all aspects of the relationship to an extent that reflects the level of intimacy of the relationship, which in turn is shaped by agreed mutual commitments.
  4. Fairness – both parties are committed to egalitarian norms of fairness across all aspects of the relationship.
  5. Conflict prevention & resolution – both parties are committed to promptly sharing and addressing cognitive dissonance when it occurs in any aspect of the relationship.

Unique sacred commitments

Beyond the five essential commitments, the foundation of every relationships is defined by further bespoke sacred commitments that reflect the uniqueness and the level of intimacy and maturity of the relationship.

Jointly developing and evolving sacred commitment is an important part of collaborative niche construction that requires us to

  1. Communicate our needs and preference unambiguously
  2. Learn to respect the unique needs and preference of others
  3. Use dialogue to arrive at a point of shared understanding that eliminates cognitive dissonance for all parties involved

If cognitive dissonance remains in a relationship, it indicates a difference in sensitivity profiles. Reflect on whether it is conceivable that preferences converge over time or whether the cognitive dissonance is sustainable on an ongoing basis – it likely isn’t.

Therefore resolve cognitive dissonance by increasing your shared understanding, and rely on genuine compassion to adapt your preferences. The result is a unique relationship, defined by a unique set of mutual commitments and mutual respect.

Communication skills

Once relational health is understood in terms of absence of cognitive dissonance in a relationship, it becomes clear that all relationship problems can be analysed and understood in terms of communication failures.

Such failures need to be addressed by mastering and applying the essential communication skills needed to co-create, nurture, and as needed repair relational health.

  1. De-powered dialogue – is the skill to engage in dialogue that remains free of social power dynamics, i.e. both parties actively avoid unilaterally imposing arbitrary demands or making use of coercive techniques. This skill can also be understood as the commitment to non-violent communication. Continuous dialogue in combination with commitments to transparency and compassion for each other allows almost all relationship problems to be worked out.
  2. Consultation – involves the practice of always asking the other party for advice before making any decision that may affect the other party or the scope of the relationship in a significant way. The practice of consultation does not imply an expectation that all advice received must be followed, it is best understood as a commitment to mutual learning and as a tool for activating the compassion needed to maintain the relationship.
  3. Conflict resolution – involves the consistent application of the conflict resolution strategies and tools that have been agreed in mutual commitments. In the case of reoccurring conflicts, it may be necessary to revisit and as needed update mutual commitments to avoid cognitive dissonance from becoming established.
  4. Open Space facilitation – is an essential skill when embarking on economic partnerships. Deliberation in open space is the foundation for omnidirectional learning, for arriving at consensus based decisions without generating cognitive dissonance, and it allows groups to address potentially wicked problems.
  5. Care circle facilitation – is an essential skill for the activation of compassion and related skills for reducing cognitive dissonance and restoring emotional energy levels.

The social motivation of Autistic human animals is deeply rooted in the desire to share knowledge and in the desire to learn, and this has big implications for the communication protocols that are used in Autistic culture. Very similar to hunter-gatherer societies, egalitarian Autistic cultural organisms are highly expert in group deliberation and decision-making which respects both difference and unity.

The topic of communication problems and failures in the context or relationships is broad and deep. It is complicated by internalised ableism, i.e. the communication habits for “success” mandated by homo economicus.

Hyper-competitive cultures value abstract social status symbols more than developing a shared understanding. This leads to entirely predictable yet unavoidable communication challenges that define Autistic social experiences. Ambiguity and plausible deniability is essential to “win” in social games. The objective of clear communication and the desire to be understood gets replaced by a desire to be perceived in a certain way, and a desire to “influence” people in certain ways for personal advantage.

When modern humans spend 8 to 16 hours per day in hyper-competitive work places and in consumer oriented digital spaces, ambiguous and deceptive forms of communication start to bleed into all aspects of life, resulting in a form of spiritual bankruptcy in which human spirits have been fused to the misguided fiction of homo economicus, resulting in chronic “normalised” cognitive dissonance.

Energy management

Our cognitive and emotional limits and reserves can be understood, quantified, and communicated in terms of energy spoons, for example by agreeing that 1 spoon = 1 hour of dedicated time.

Human minds are the tools that connect the physical dimension of our existence to other living creatures, and to a rich internal spiritual world, which integrates our own perceptions into a seemingly coherent representation of the external world around us. Human minds can develop amazing capabilities, but at the same time, our cognitive and emotional capacities are limited.

All our activities affect the levels of three complementary energy reservoirs:

  1. Our reservoir of emotional (relational) spoons
  2. Our reservoir of creative (internal) spoons
  3. Our reservoir of labour (physical) spoons

The above diagram illustrates how these energy reservoirs are connected to dialogues, communication in open space, and routines in the physical environment to regulate emotions and stress.

  1. We recharge our creative and emotional (relational) batteries by exhausting our physical batteries
  2. We recharge our creative and physical batteries by exhausting our emotional (relational) batteries
  3. We recharge our emotional (relational) and physical batteries by exhausting our creative batteries
  4. Additionally Our emotional (relational) batteries can also be recharged when all participants contribute comparable numbers of emotional spoons to a dialogue or a dedicated circle of care

Sacred relationships

You have a full relationship driver’s license when you have established one or more lifetime friendships, partnerships, or romantic partnerships.

Sacred relationships are the fundamental building blocks of life. This extends to all living beings that are part of Gaia. When it comes to relationships between humans, there are three different categories of relationships that we can trace back to our evolutionary heritage.

  1. Romantic partnerships are the pair bonds that originally served the purpose of sexual reproduction.
  2. Partnerships are the pair bonds that originally served the purpose of egalitarian resource sharing within the context of human scale bands of hunter gatherers.
  3. Friendships are the pair bonds that originally served the purpose of omnidirectional learning and mutual aid between human scale bands of hunter gatherers.

Note that these categories intentionally avoid the arbitrary distinction between “work” and the rest of life, which has only been invented to make the inhumane fiction of homo economicus tolerable for large parts of our lives. The resulting alienation and required split in our daily modus operandi of social affairs is a major contributor to the so-called mental health crisis, alongside the human created metacrisis that now has become and existential threat for our species and for many other species.

In this Autistic Relationship Manual (ARM) we define relationship driver’s license levels that can help us to incrementally relearn basic relationship building, maintenance, and repair skills and minimise human and non-human suffering during the unique cultural metamorphosis that is unfolding.

Since all human relationships involve two people, certification at any level is incredibly straight forward, a particular level is reached if the two humans that constitute the relationship certify the level to each other.

Certification of a learner license is a simple commitment to each other to learn from and with each other on the journey towards a full license.

Certification of a full license is the set of all the commitments to each other that are reached after seven years on a learner license.

Lived experience shows that any relationship that is still intact after 7 years is a lifetime relationship or has the potential to be a lifetime relationship. This holds for romantic partnerships as well as economic partnerships and friendships.

The guidelines articulated in this article are based on more than five decades of lived experience, including the development of an organically growing number of lifetime friendships, a long term romantic partnership that got reconfigured into a local economic partnership, and over 12 years of nurturing and operating a cosmolocal egalitarian human scale worker coop, i.e. the collective experience of a lifetime economic partnership between close friends.

The key to relational health is mastery of the relationship repair and reconfiguration skills needed to reduce and eliminate cognitive dissonance experienced by one or both humans in the relationship. Cognitive dissonance manifests in emotional pain. If allowed to persist it can become a chronic disease and a silent killer of a relationship.

The three categories of scared relationships usually build on each other, i.e. a friendship can evolve into an economic partnership, which in turn can evolve into a romantic partnership. Evolution is ongoing, and transitions between categories can occur on both a learner license or on a full license, and in both directions, depending on whether the level of intimacy and depth of collaboration is going up or down.

Across the board, along the journey so far, all relationships that completely expired and discontinued were relationships with institutions and humans trapped in the hypernormative world of homo economicus, i.e examples that illustrate the transactional and ultimately self-destructive nature of homo economicus.

Mastery of relationship repair and reconfiguration skills allows mature relationships that have lasted at least 7 years to be maintained indefinitely. It is a matter of being able to identify and address cognitive dissonance in a timely manner, on an ongoing basis, and as needed to step up or step down the intimacy level of the relationship to eliminate cognitive dissonance.

This relational approach to life is incompatible with the transactional cultural frame of homo economicus.

Relearning and mastering the relational approach to life is at the core of the cultural metamorphosis that the human species is currently undergoing.

Sensitive Autistic animals see and feel the pain of others, this compels us to help, this compels us to fight for social justice and for the overall wellbeing of Gaia. We see the trauma behind internalised ableism. We are in pain because we feel the pain of others.

Within the modern world, hypersensitive Autistic human animals are traumatised from a very young age. In particular all children are exposed in Homo Economicus from a very young age, by well intentioned parents and educators, before we learn anything substantial about Gaia and the living world. This is possibly the most cruel, dehumanising, and life denying part of the modern world. 

So far, metamorphosis is confined to millions of embryonic human scale sprouts growing in the compost heap of homo economicus, engaging in omnidirectional learning. Increasingly these sprouts are connecting, resulting in the evolution of cosmolocal networks of friends on the margins of modern societies.

Friendship

You have a full friendship license if you have one or more lifetime friends in accordance with your emotional support needs.

Be honest with yourself and others when your friendship is at risk of expiring.

A friendship only expires if you have allowed cognitive dissonance to fester and become chronic. As needed join a circle or care for peer support in relationship repair and reconfiguration skills. Doing this early enough or on-demand can help preserve and nurture your precious friendships, for example by learning how to evolve the commitments that underpin the friendship to eliminate the cognitive dissonance that strains the relationship.

Partnership

You have a full partnership license if you have one or more lifetime friends that you collaborate with on livelihood co-creation and egalitarian resource sharing.

Be honest with yourself and others when your partnership is at risk of expiring.

A partnership only expires if you have allowed cognitive dissonance to fester and become chronic. As needed join an open space for peer support in partnership repair and reconfiguration skills. Doing this early enough or on-demand can help preserve and nurture your precious partnership, for example by learning how to evolve the commitments that underpin the partnership to eliminate the cognitive dissonance that strains the relationship.

Romantic partnership

You have a full romantic partnership license if you have one or more romantic partners that you share your life with in accordance with your emotional support needs and sexual preferences.

Be honest with yourself and others when your romantic partnership is at risk of expiring.

A romantic partnership only expires if you have allowed cognitive dissonance to fester and become chronic. As needed join a circle or care for peer support in relationship repair and reconfiguration skills. Doing this early enough or on-demand can help preserve and nurture your precious friendships, for example by learning how to evolve the commitments that underpin the romantic partnership to eliminate the cognitive dissonance that strains the relationship.

Therapeutic relationships

You don’t yet have the full relationship driver’s license if you are still on a learner license, i.e. you have yet to establish one or more lifetime friendships, partnerships, and romantic partnerships.

As needed, join a circle of care to learn how to muster the courage to embark on a learners license for friendship or romantic partnerships, or join a creative open space collaboration to learn how to muster the courage to embark on a learners license for economic partnerships.

Therapeutic friendship

A therapeutic friendship is a form of learning by doing in which you incrementally learn how to co-create and nurture lifetime friendships to meet each others emotional needs.

Be honest with yourself and fully transparent with your friend as soon as cognitive dissonance emerges. This is an opportunity for both of you to learn basic relationship repair and reconfiguration skills.

The bedrock of all relationships is the ability to engage in deliberative dialogue to confirm a shared understanding of the shared value priorities and the shared interests that define the friendship, and then to articulate this shared understanding in terms of mutual commitments.

As needed join a circle or care for peer support in relationship repair and reconfiguration skills. Doing this early enough or on-demand can help preserve and nurture your precious friendship.

Therapeutic partnership

A therapeutic partnership is an on-boarding process in which you incrementally learn how to co-create livelihoods and nurture lifetime egalitarian resource sharing partnerships.

Be honest with yourself and fully transparent with your partners as soon as cognitive dissonance emerges. This is an opportunity for all of you to learn basic relationship repair and reconfiguration skills.

A partnership only expires if a team has allowed cognitive dissonance to fester and become chronic. Partnership health is maintained by operating an ongoing advice process on an ongoing basis regarding all decisions that can affect others in major ways, and by regularly meeting in open space to coordinate activities and as needed revisit priorities to adapt to changes in the wider ecological context.

As needed join an open space for peer support in partnership repair and reconfiguration skills. Doing this early enough or on-demand can help preserve and nurture your precious partnership, for example by learning how to evolve the commitments that underpin the partnership to prevent cognitive dissonance and misunderstandings from building up.

Therapeutic romantic partnership

A therapeutic romantic partnership is a form of learning by doing in which you incrementally learn how to co-create and nurture lifetime friendships that include meeting each others sexual needs and needs for intimate affection.

Be honest with yourself and fully transparent with your romantic partner(s) as soon as cognitive dissonance emerges. This is an opportunity for all of you to learn basic relationship repair and reconfiguration skills.

A romantic partnership only expires in case you allow cognitive dissonance to fester and become chronic. As needed join a circle or care for peer support to learn about relationship repair and reconfiguration skills and, ideally jointly, explore how to apply these skills to your romantic partnership.

Doing this early enough or on-demand can help preserve and nurture your romantic partnership, for example by learning how to articulate emotional needs, manage and regenerate your emotional energies, and jointly evolve the commitments that underpin the romantic partnership to eliminate any cognitive dissonance that strains the relationship.

Toxic relationships

Your relationships are at risk of becoming toxic if you don’t have a relationship driver’s license and are too afraid to embark on a learners license, yet still proceed to establish friendships, partnerships, and romantic partnerships.

In this scenario you need to learn to be more honest and compassionate with yourself and the people you attempt to co-create relationships with.

Be gentle with yourself. Don’t beat yourself up. You are a sacred Autistic human animal. You are part of Gaia, and there are always people who deeply care about all aspects of your wellbeing. You may just not yet be clear about who these people are or where or how to find them.

It is when “relationships” become things to acquire and potentially discard that things become toxic. In the fast-paced hyper-competitive world of homo economicus the art of evolving, reconfiguring, and repairing relationships has been lost or is underdeveloped.

Homo economicus takes a transactional approach to all aspects of life, and thereby it fully “normalises” economic and emotional exploitation. This traumatises hypersensitive Autistic human animals and sets them up for recurring exploitation and the disastrous effects of chronic cognitive dissonance throughout life.

A commitment to activism, unlimited compassion for all living beings, and a seemingly self-destructive ability to extend and re-extend deep trust is the only healthy viable survival strategy. In a healthy society hypersensitive Autistic human animals help prevent the worst parts of our evolutionary heritage from overshadowing the strong uniquely human collaborative tendencies that distinguish us from other primates.

To be clear, the emergence and prevalence of toxic relationships is entirely a cultural issue, it is an issue of extreme social inequalities, hyper-competitive social norms, and an issue of (neo)colonialism. It is not an issue that can be blamed on specific individuals. Many people live in seriously toxic cultural environments. The emotional pain of trauma prevents them from being honest with themselves and others. They know of no other patterns, and deep down shame is a big issue. Sadly, in the modern world, psychologically genuinely safe relationships have become rare.

In a genuinely safe relationship there is no need to keep fears to yourself, or to feel ashamed to ask questions or articulate your needs.

As needed join a circle of care to learn how to muster the courage and learn the basic skills to embark on a learner license for friendship or romantic partnerships, or join a creative open space collaboration to learn how to muster the courage to embark on a learner license and learn the basic skills for operating economic partnerships and egalitarian worker coops.

Toxic friendship

A friendship that is at risk of becoming toxic lacks one or more of the essential sacred commitments to meet each others emotional needs.

Don’t lightly throw away your friendships! Learn how to repair, reconfigure, and upgrade your friendships before they become toxic beyond repair.

Toxic partnership

An economic partnership that is at risk of becoming toxic often lacks one or more of the essential sacred commitments towards egalitarian resource sharing.

Embarking on a genuine economic partnership, especially with more than two people, is possibly one of the most difficult ventures that modern humans can attempt, as it involves unlearning all the toxic cultural assumptions that have been shaped by the religion of homo economicus.

And yet, or rather precisely for that reason, it is becoming an increasingly relevant basic life skill within the compost heap of modern industrialised societies.

To avoid partnerships from becoming toxic, it is necessary to learn how go through fire, to have difficult conversations that most people never dare to have, to either come out with all relationships intact at the other end, or to know how to arrive at a consensus about the relationships within the partnership that have become toxic beyond repair. In this process, all affected parties need to come to the table, and appropriate peer support from those with relevant lived experience needs to be in place to bear the emotional load.

Toxic romantic partnership

A romantic partnership that is at risk of becoming toxic lacks one or more of the essential sacred commitments to meet each others sexual needs and needs for intimate affection.

Embarking on a romantic partnership is the second most difficult venture that modern humans can attempt, only slightly behind embarking on a (multi) lifetime economic partnership, as it involves unlearning many of the toxic cultural assumptions that have been shaped by the religion of homo economicus.

Relearning how to co-create, nurture, and repair loving and caring romantic partnerships is becoming an increasingly relevant basic life skill within the compost heap of modern industrialised societies.

To avoid a romantic partnerships from becoming toxic, it is necessary to learn how go through fire, to have difficult conversations that many people never dare to have. In this process, both parties need to come to the table, as needed with appropriate peer support from those with relevant lived experience, to bear the emotional load.

In a genuinely psychologically genuinely safe romantic partnership there is no need to keep your fears to yourself, or to feel ashamed of anything that may have happened to you, that you may have done, or that you may feel.

For Autistic human animals it is important to be fully aware of the beautiful infinite diversity and possibilities of Autistic relationships. This can not be reiterated often enough. We are not limited to the WEIRD culturally defined sexual preference norms and gender norms.

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The world in reality is a beautifully interconnected world, and it’s interconnected through many many layers. It’s interconnected through consciousness, which is why we are spiritual beings in human form. But the plants outside my window are spiritual beings in plant form. But the plant of the lychee is in lychee form, and the tree of the mango is in mango form. They are just different expressions of one spiritual interconnected consciousness in the world.

– Vandana Shiva

The ability to relate deeply is the inability to conduct transactional busyness

Underneath the surface of internalised ableism, no one wants to be seen and heard by many. Everyone prefers to be understood and loved deeply by a few, and everyone wants to love and help. This is what makes us sacred human animals. Continuous dialogues about commitments make life sacred. This is how humans create meaning for each other and with each other. This is the experience of life as a process of becoming.

Following the recent article on the inability of many Autists to think in terms of social hierarchies, a timely submission for the next NeurodiVerse Days of Intersectional Solidarity in December 2024 landed in the AutCollab inbox:

I’m the founder of a neurodivergent community and also a therapist and indigenous person. I’m interested in how to promote mutual aid within our community, when there is a lot of interpersonal trauma including difficulty with trust for many. 

The social challenges described and foreseen in Guy Debord’s and George Orwell’s work have become a highly disturbing reality, especially for cultural minorities and intersectionally marginalised populations. Early indoctrination in the belief in homo economicus attempts to transform humans into soulless machines. In particular, for many Autists, and possibly for everyone, the more we have an ability to relate to other humans and non-human living beings the less we are able to conduct transactional busyness.

Underneath the surface of internalised ableism, the following observation applies to all sober humans.

No one wants to be seen and heard by many. Everyone prefers to be understood and loved deeply by a few, and everyone wants to love and help. This is what makes us sacred human animals.

Commitments make us uniquely human

There is one healthy way forward, which is accessible on the basis of mutual trust and shared values, which involves a shift towards shared beliefs that represent sacred commitments at human scale:

Sacred commitments between specific people or across human scale groups can be verbal or in writing. They only scale up to the limited numbers of relationships that we can maintain. As needed we can jointly update these commitments to reflect evolving needs or constraints in the wider ecology we are embedded in. For those who identify as Autistic, a significant number of beliefs held fall into this category, especially agreements with family members, friends, and colleagues.

The massive trust problems created by homo economicus, the implications of which are well explained by the combination of Debord and Orwell, are cultural beliefs based on what others have encouraged us to believe, including beliefs that we have absorbed from from our social environment subconsciously, i.e. beliefs for which we can’t recall the origin. For those who do not identify as Autistic, the majority of beliefs held may fall into this category.

Unilateral commitments with ourselves act as our spiritual commitment to life and to Gaia.

Breaking our commitments makes us physically, mentally, and spiritually sick. Humans evolved this way. This is how we have become cultural organisms.

Bilateral commitments that are offered by one party are sacred invitations to others, as part our spiritual commitment to and recognition of the sanctity of all relationships with living beings. Both parties can make sacred invitations, and then they can be brought together, as needed via deliberative dialogue, in love and mutual respect and understanding, into the sacred form that becomes a spiritual commitment to each other.

In contrast to the practices in the industrialised factory model of society, there are no simplistic cookie cutter commitments. Every commitment is tailored to a specific relationship, either with ourselves – and by extension with Gaia, or with others.

By sharing the commitments that we make with ourselves and with others within our ecology of care, we are able to better understand each other, trust each other, and rely on each other. This is of course easier said than done when the wider cultural context is dominated by individualism and mutual distrust.

Deliberative dialogue

Continuous dialogues about commitments are a beautiful part of lived Māori culture. This is how we can all honour life and Gaia.

This is what makes life sacred. This is how humans create meaning for each other and with each other. This is the experience of life as a process of becoming.

Explicit social agreements beyond human scale have severe limitations. This is why Māori have to engage in the cultural practices of collective action they have developed.

In hierarchically structured societies, agreements such as laws issued by regional or national authorities apply to large groups of people, and by necessity have been developed with limited input from those who are affected. Such agreements invariably cause untold harm that for the most part remains invisible to the authorities. Humans did not evolve to live in hierarchically structured super-human scale societies. Pretending that we can maintain such structures without causing untold harm is a form of anthropocentric hubris.

Trauma is propagated between generations. We have to find ways of breaking the cycle without destroying those who are the most sensitive, who are the ones capable of nurturing ecologies of care not based on power and manipulation. The question of the evil of coercive power has been with me since I was a child. Coercive power is the root of all evil. Those who are capable of resorting to coercive power on a regular basis are the ones destroying and killing the entire planet. There is infinite timeless wisdom in the social norm against the emergence of any social power gradients. When civilisations erase that norm, unimaginable suffering unfolds.

Autistic people often make sacred commitments to themselves at a young age to minimise cognitive dissonance. When we make sacred commitments to other people we often learn that not everyone honours their commitments, or rather we notice how many others seem to go through life without any genuinely sacred commitments or firm convictions.

In the modern socially hyper-competitive world experience with the practice of de-powered deliberative dialogue is very limited. Life without sacred commitments is experienced as empty and meaningless.

The religion of Homo economicus systematically generates lost souls, searching for meaning without a solid foundation that allows meaning to be found.

Co-creating ecologies of care

Sacred commitments based on a basis of deep mutual trust and shared values are the foundation of all healthy cultures.

De-powered dialogue to deepen shared understanding is the tool to maintain and evolve commitments on an ongoing basis, along the way deepening love, compassion and mutual trust in a virtuous cycle, even through the most difficult times. All indigenous cultures know this.

This is also what Māori culture is gifting to the world in these difficult times, which humans collectively have inflicted on Gaia in their culturally generated ignorance and arrogance.

Intersectional solidarity across indigenous rights movements, the neurodiversity movement, and the disability rights movement is at the core of healing from the cultural cancer that has caused the metacrisis.

This is not theory, this is consistent with our lived experiences in depowered egalitarian worker coops. De-powered dialogue, omnidirectional learning, and consensus based decisions shape our daily practice. This experience was the first part of my healing in a world dominated by the religion of homo economicus. 

Hunter-gatherers also engage in deliberative dialogue and reach decisions by consensus. It is beautiful. This is the art of living at human scale, as cultural organisms.

De-powered deliberative dialogues in a safe environment co-created by shared commitments allow us walk each others minds. In these dialogues we share what think, how we think, and what we believe in. We can also do this in writing. The important part is the commitment to ongoing dialogue, to share our inner worlds with each other. Of course all of this is completely incompatible with the religion of homo economicus. Yet this sharing is what our nervous systems evolved for! It is no surprise that many Autistic people are continuously operating at or beyond their emotional limits.

Furthermore, the more time we spend stuck in the digital world, separated by “interfaces”, the more the essential ability to extend deep trust has become an increasingly rare gift in our time.

Our nervous systems are deeply connected. We are embodied spirits, everything is connected. Interfaces limit our humanity. They are non-living anthropocentric machines. We evolved to be fully present with each other. This is what we know and feel deep down in our hearts.

Co-creating ecologies of care is sacred work. We can only do it together.

Onwards!

The inability to think hierarchically is the ability to think and live relationally

Many Autistic people have great difficulties to think of the world in hierarchical ways. From what we know about our evolutionary path as humans, this is a reflection of innate human collaborative cultural capabilities in combination with a much reduced capacity for maintaining cognitive dissonance on an ongoing basis, which in turn can be traced to uncommon sensitivity profiles that fall outside the bell curve of hypernormativity.

When Autists learn about the social expectations that are attached to participating in and operating in hierarchically organised structures of social power, we have difficulty comprehending that such structures are considered acceptable. We are consciously aware of the pain and the potential we harm we can cause by exerting social power over others, as well the pain and cognitive dissonance that we experience when authorities impose arbitrarily demands on us that are incompatible with our unique individual sensitivity profiles.

Within the cultural frame of internalised ableism, the Autistic reluctance to exert social power over others is interpreted as a social deficit, i.s. as an inability to be entrusted with so called “leadership” responsibilities, and at the same time, the Autistic reluctance to submit to arbitrary social power is interpreted as a social deficit, i.e. as non-compliance, as disagreeableness, and as disrupting the “natural” social order.

This explains why in the context of some concrete social situations Autistic people are dismissed as being “weak or incompetent leaders”, and in other social contexts and situations the same Autistic people are dismissed and punished for being “aloof, arrogant, insensitive, and inappropriately competitive”. In many cases, both conclusions are completely misguided.

Instead, Autistic people are much better understood as vital parts of the cultural immune system of the human species. In the modern world Autistic people are well positioned to reimagine healthier collective ways of being and much healthier, human scale egalitarian cultural organisms.

The modern world is dominated by the state religion of Homo Economicus, in which the majority of people experience social hierarchies as a “law of nature”, justified as needed by correspondingly culturally biased evidence from disciplines such as economics, evolutionary biology, or Western psychology. The state religion of Homo Economicus is an outgrowth of a cultural heritage with roots in misguided anthropocentric interpretations of cultural frames found at the core of monotheistic Abrahamic religions. These interpretations have unfortunately risen to great heights in over the course of colonial and neocolonial history.

Traumatised Autistic people

Within the modern world, hypersensitive Autistic people are traumatised from a very young age. In particular all children are exposed in Homo Economicus from a very young age, by well intentioned parents and educators, before we learn anything substantial about Gaia and the living world. This is possibly the most cruel, dehumanising, and life denying part of the modern world. 

Especially if such early exposure to Homo Economicus is combined with social power dynamics in patriarchal and otherwise abusive family systems, children are severely traumatised. In such a context all children are at great risk of developing harmful trauma coping mechanisms, and this of course includes Autistic children.

Due to the unusual baseline sensitivity profiles and reduced capacity for maintaining cognitive dissonance of Autistic children, it makes sense that traumatised Autistic children are more likely than other children to develop a deep distrust of all humans, to the point where they become unable to extend deep trust to anyone, including their closest family members.

Such highly traumatised Autistic children end up completely isolated. Their coping mechanism can be understood in the same way as the harmful coping mechanisms exhibited by traumatised people who are not Autistic, including bullying and extreme attempts at exerting control over family members, and thereby perpetuating inter-generational trauma. Autistic people are no less and no more likely than others to perpetuate trauma, and those who do, tend to differ from other abusers in terms of their reduced ability to maintain cognitive dissonance. This means their controlling agenda is completely open. Usually their desire for social control is limited to their immediate family system, and does not extend to the wider social sphere.

Much more often, due to their unusual sensitivity profiles, reduced inability to maintain cognitive dissonance, refusal to participate in social games in wider society, as well as refusal to submit to arbitrary unjustifiable demands from social authorities, Autistic people end up at the receiving end of bullying and other forms of abuse.

The level of early childhood trauma experienced by many Autistic people can severely impact their ability to extend trust to others and develop intimate relationships. Luckily this has started to change since the invention of the Internet, which has enabled Autistic people worldwide to connect and learn from each other. The Internet enabled many of those who were unable to relate to culturally “well adjusted” people to find, connect, and develop lifelong relationships based on compatible sensitivity profiles.

Sadly some positive developments have been compromised by the rise of profit-oriented commercial social media in the public sphere, with all its well known polarising and traumatising effects, including the active and deeply misguided encouragement to develop “super-human scale” social networks of “friends”.

Many Autistic people can’t help but viscerally feel the trauma and the pain they see, cutting right through all the layers of internalised ableism that others may have developed as a protective shield to cope in a cruel and dehumanising social world.

Our compassion with all living beings allows us to nurture unique relationships, and heal communities in ways that that have been suppressed and forgotten in hypernormative, life denying cultures.

Autistic culture

In recent years, thanks to innate reluctance or inability to participate in social games, Autistic people have shifted and are increasingly shifting towards genuinely human-scale online spaces for cosmolocal community co-creation, peer support, and egalitarian relationship building on Autistic terms, beyond the influence of the dominant culture of Homo Economicus®.

The Autistic inability to think hierarchically turns out to be the ability to think and live entirely relationally. We see this in the level of interest and growing participation in the human scale Ecologies of Care support model, and in the growing worldwide interest in the egalitarian NeurodiVenture worker coop model for engaging with the external social world.

In the hypernormative culture that dominates the modern world, it is hard to explain to non-Autistic people what the immersion in healthy Autistic culture feels like and what the development of healthy sacred lifetime relationships between Autistic people feels like. In mainstream society people don’t understand how Autistic people support each other, love each other, and care for each other in ways that go far beyond the culturally impaired neuronormative imagination.

NeurodiVerse : human scale cultures created by neurodiversity within the human species
(a) the universe of NeurodiVentures
(b) the set of all neurodivergent people

Our evolving web of relationships, mutual aid, and peer support initiatives is best understood in terms of emergent Ecologies of Care beyond the human.

There is the saying that “It takes a village to raise a child.” The Autistic Authentic Autonomous translation of this saying is “For an Autistic person it takes a human scale Autistic family to feel loved and alive.”

Most Autists are not born into healthy Autistic families. We have to co-create our families in our own space and time. In a healthy culture Autistic children are assisted in co-creating their unique Autistic families, but in our modern civilisation this cultural knowledge has been lost and is suppressed.

In many indigenous cultures children with unique qualities are recognised, given adult mentors with similarly unique qualities, and grow up to fulfill unique roles in their local community, connected to others with unique knowledge and insights, perhaps even in other communities.

If we are embedded in an ecology of care, we can thrive and share the pain and the joy of life.

Understanding a cultural organism as a set of relationships

In Autistic culture we understand a human scale cultural organism as a set of relationships, recognising that all humans have cognitive and emotional limits. We therefore intuitively know and deeply appreciate that small is beautiful. There is a human scale that is comprehensible, intimately integrated into Gaia.

Beyond this scale, we intuitively understand that cultural institutions amount to anthropocentric hubris, especially if such institutions are shaped by permanent hierarchical structures of social power. 

As humans we have the ability to appreciate the interdependencies and the beauty of the diversity of the unique and complementary relationships within every healthy cultural organism, including all the richness of interdependencies with other cultural organisms.

All healthy relationships contribute to the wellbeing of the cultural organism. There are no permanent social power differentials, and no particular relationship is more important than any other.

Furthermore, in a healthy cultural organism, there is a reasonable backup for any relationship that is potentially critical for group survival.

The self is a product of relationships. Anyone who has ever felt completely isolated knows this. Then the world shrinks to the relationship with oneself. But no one is completely isolated.

We are all part of Gaia, in relationship with Gaia.

Imprisonment in isolation, including isolation from Gaia, is an unimaginably cruel form of torture, a violation of a sacred human right. Social isolation in an urbanised environment is much worse than social isolation in a natural environment with access to plants and animals. In fact, being integrated into Gaia is a sacred right that applies to all living beings.

So-called “individual” wellbeing is a derivative of the health of all the human and non-human relationships a person is involved in. What really counts is relational health and communal health at human scale.

Understanding the modern social world

The modern social world we live in can only be understood from the margins, because the very notion of sense making has been confused. This is no surprise, because our capacity for sense making operates at human scale.

When a culture has destroyed the collective ability for deliberation at human scale, life is experienced as incoherent from the individual perspective, which is subconsciously attempting to generate coherence at human scale. When that process fails, nothing seems to make sense anymore.  “The Con : Fusion of Debord & Orwell” into which everyone alive today in the modern world was born, was succinctly articulated in 1986.

There is not much constructive to be learned from a growing cancerous mass that is destroying all cultures. All we can do is analyse the symptoms of the cancer, i.e. we can analyse and describe the dissonance between theory and practice of the institutions of our society. But this ability to recognise and describe cancer is far from being an ability to “cure” it. Below are three sources that describe different aspects of the cancer that are perpetuating paradigmatic cultural inertia.

The legal engineering behind the power of capital, explained by Matt Kennard.

The government machine that backs capital with raw violence explained by Jeffrey Sachs.

The cultural diseases that emerge if the limitations of human scale are not understood as the sacred bedrock of cultural organisms explained by George Tsakraklides.

George Tsakraklides does not make any mention of scale, but accurately describes what happens when anthropocentric hubris comes to dominate globally:

The idea that a small group of individuals can form a “government” that represents the best interests of its people, has been one of the biggest leaps of faith humanity ever took. Arguably, as our societies grew, we had no choice but to form these governments ••• The pooling of resources in practice often meant the accumulation of these resources within the hands of the few ••• Governments significantly expedited the exhaustion of resources, widened inequality to previously unimaginable levels, and alienated almost every citizen, who sooner or later felt the cold, heartless hand of indifference and discrimination from the very people who had been elected to “represent” them ••• It doesn’t take much effort to argue that government represents neither people, nor a privileged class of humans. It represents, defends, and protects the entity behind every single one of humanity’s decisions: money and wealth ••• Despite being an abstract, mechanistic, non-DNA based entity, money behaves very much like a life form: it too needs to secure its future existence, which it does by pursuing profit. Through the creation of money, humanity unintentionally gave rise to a new life-form which eventually parasitized it.  The role of government in this symbiosis has been, and remains, to be a puppet.  ••• Like any biological life form, they (governments) will do anything to survive.  It was a mistake to create institutions which attained so much power and autonomy that they eventually became super predators of society.  Both government and money behave as selfish life forms which need to survive and procreate. 

The popular perception that governments exist to “maintain order” is as false as the definition of order itself.  Order of what? For whose benefit? At what cost?  Order is open to multiple interpretations, rules and prohibitions which become vehicles for societal control.  Order is the favorite word of fascists •••The most dangerous aspect of all forms of government and power is that they despise change.  They want to keep everything the same: the same economy, the same players, the same mistakes.  This is how they ensure that their sponsors will not be unseated from positions of power.  The downside of this is that the most serious existential threats are only ever addressed at the level of pantomime theatrics •••If anything, governments are effectively Reality Management Authorities, servicing the need of the most powerful to maintain social narratives which control the production and distribution of wealth.  Governments are the visible manifestations of the psychonomy, enabling the most controlling, psychotic and unstable personalities to thrive and attain leadership positions ••• A successful leader today is more of an ideological chameleon than a mission-driven decision-maker.  Their most critical skill is masterfully dancing around the bullets of the psychonomy’s crossfire, pretending to be a peace maker ••• By managing people and agendas and keeping the wild jungles of the power ecosystem from closing in on them, politicians can secure their tenures as sitting representatives of the corporatocracy •••Stubbornly protecting their corporate bosses, governments simply hasten and amplify recurring convulsive episodes of economic and social seizure.  The wealthy elites have been consulted.  The PR agencies have been briefed.  And the casualties have already been selected, before the guns are fired •••Governments can easily be classified as existential threats.  Their dithering, inertia, inaction and procrastination create all of the horrifying conditions for small, once addressable issues to grow and one day become terminal, impassable predicaments.  Because of their inability to handle change even when it knocks on their door, RMAs are incapable of addressing the worst type of change: an existential threat.  In the face of a polycrisis, RMAs will typically avoid, deflect, distract and postpone, while at the same time weaponize the crisis for propaganda.  As looming threats grow, the government will spend all of its energy to do what it does best: reality management •••The priority of politics during an existential threat has always been to create, curate, and broadcast narratives which regurgitate the lies this civilisation desperately needs to keep calm and carry on living its fantasies.  When a collapse begins to register, it is already too late. This is because collapse is only the very last stage in a long process; a stage which, however, is irreversible: it can only be observed and endured.  As the crisis enters free-fall, the RMA goes quiet: leaders literally disappear, retreating into their pre-built bunkers and golden parachutes. Social services vanish, silence falls across the political spectrum, and the public is abandoned.  The government who we all thought would come to our rescue, was indeed merely a glorified PR machine ••• Following so many failed COP meetings attended by all these RMAs, it would be delusional to nurture even the slightest bit of hope in any government to solve the existential threat of the climate crisis and civilisational overshoot •••From the much larger Gaia perspective, authority and power are meaningless human constructs. The only authority and power on this planet belong to nature, and physics.

I agree with the conclusion. To sum up WEIRD paradigmatic inertia in one sentence, I frame the “iron law of social design” as follows: 

The universal iron law of social design: everything is allowed to change – as long as the established structure of social power is maintained or strengthened.

I have witnessed this dystopian hypernormative law play out in many corporations and large government departments.

Where to from here?

Humans are part of nature. We have evolved to operate, survive, and thrive as cultural organisms at human scale, especially in challenging / marginal environments. We still have this capacity, but it has been eclipsed by a global cultural cancer. So, when cultural reforms are futile, what options do we have for re-booting healthy cultural organisms?

The cancer can not be reformed, but there are many little sprouts of new human scale ways of being emerging in the cultural compost heap. The dying process of a cultural cancer is the unavoidable metamorphosis we are undergoing. 

Some of the inmates of dying institutions may consciously choose to jointly exit, and metamorphise into a life affirming organism, or they may eventually be forced to leave involuntarily by the social circumstances. In the former scenario the emerging human scale organism may, amongst other things, offer palliative care for the dying institution from the outside – i.e. assistance with exit path for the remaining inmates, alongside the provision of new life regenerating gifts as part of Gaia. This is a kind of life affirming logic that is not accessible via the dystopian logic of Homo Economicus. 

Biologists who have not read broadly enough about our cultural evolutionary past, i.e. biological and cultural anthropology, tend to extrapolate from other primates, and arrive at the confusion of humans with Homo Economicus, ending up discounting human imagination and the innate collaborative tendencies that distinguish us from other primates.

The most compelling biological metaphor I have found to date to gain a sense of what might play out in the realm of culture is the metamorphosis of a developing insect. Life is fractal. 

Metamorphosis is one of the most profound restructurings of a biological organism. As humans we are far too limited in our abilities to foresee exactly how such a pattern maps and is already playing out in terms of human cultural organisms.

However, transposing the steps of metamorphosis onto modern human cultures suggests a path that includes: 

  1. A non-growing developmental stage for human scale groups to seek a safe space, and as needed construct a protective physical/cultural shelter for the group.
  2. Internal collaborative niche construction to develop new internal functional structures and external functions that are adaptive to the anticipated cosmolocal ecological conditions going forward.
  3. Cultural reproduction. The final stage would be the adult, or ‘imago’ form of a human scale group, where new external and internal functions are fully operational, and able to feed the group, including reproduction of the group culture. This would not need to involve physical reproduction, but rather knowledge and skills transfer to other cosmolocally related human scale group, and especially groups within the same bioregion experiencing comparable ecological conditions.

As established super-human scale institutions decay and become unreliable, not dissimilar to what is the case in many so-called “less developed” countries, individuals and small groups will inevitably stop entrusting their entire livelihoods and lives to such institutions, and gravitate towards some expression of the rough pattern outlined above. 

Of course we have no way of predicting when and where such developments will emerge. What we can do is to offer education to prepare communities for this possibility in a life affirming way, reiterating what Joseph Tainter observed in his seminal work in 1988. For the majority of an oppressed and impoverished population so-called “collapse” of dysfunctional and resource intensive institutions can be a liberating experience. This of course assumes that communities are educated and equipped with locally adapted subsistence level life skills.

This presents WEIRD countries with an overdue opportunity for radically new forms of cosmolocal collaboration with communities in the Global South. As part of the global metacrisis that Gaia is facing, the populations in WEIRD countries will increasingly experience a need for education in subsistence level life skills – a kind of proactive “development” assistance in reverse, and a re-balancing of the extreme levels of global and in-country social inequities and injustices that dominate the entire modern world.

Metamorphosis back to human scale can be imagined as a cultural development stage for global intersectional and neurodivergent solidarity beyond the human, undoing some of the harm perpetuated in throughout the colonial and neocolonial era, at least for the generations alive today.

Human cultural adaptivity

Our best bet is to relearn and remember everything we can muster about the cultural adaptivity that is at our disposal at human scale. 

This requires the kind of deep and profound shift in trust from established institutions towards mutual aid and the community co-creation at human scale that indigenous Mexican scholar Yuria Celidwen talks about: 

We need commitment, we need community. We need to create spaces of trust. But for that, there’s tremendous work that we need to be doing. But I don’t think that any of that work will be possible, should we not have that commitment–that commitment that no matter how challenging and tremendously difficult it will be to reckon with these narratives and to dismantle these narratives. Because seeing the horror in the eye of all these narratives that we live by comes with tremendous understanding. It will leave us very fragile, very vulnerable, and most, of course, are not willing to do that, because we don’t feel safe. But if we are able to stand the heat and create these spaces, if we commit to do this kind of work for the benefit of the planet, then we may be able to learn that we can fly.

This shift in trust is already happening outside established institutions. It can only happen via self-selected and self-organising groups. I sense this is what we are already starting to experience on the intersectional margins of modern societies.

As part of co-creating health cultural organisms we are uncovering and documenting knowledge that is useful for human scale groups, engaging in omnidirectional learning between emerging theories and cosmolocal practices, learning by doing, and heading into an uncertain but much more life-affirming collective future at human scale, sharing all our joys and pains of life in ways that have been systematically denied by the life destroying logic of Homo Economicus.

The following clip from an Adam Curtis’ interview has aged well.

Certainties we can count on:

  1. Humans have cognitive and emotional limits. Implications: Small is beautiful. There is a human scale that is comprehensible, intimately integrated into Gaia. Beyond this scale, cultural institutions amount to anthropocentric hubris. 
  2. The last human won’t be a capitalist.
  3. This list is evolving, contribute your observations at the next NeurodiVerse Days of Intersectional Solidarity!

There is no recipe book. There are only timeless life affirming human scale values and our innate capacity for relational thinking.

Onwards!

Healing – Resisting internalised ableism

In the Western Educated Industrialised Rich Democratic (WEIRD) world we live in what philosopher Guy Debord attempted to describe as The Society of the Spectacle. The reality presented to us via the media and public social media has been engineered to fit the exacting standards of Homo Economicus®. All the people alive today in Westernised countries, i.e. all the people in WEIRD countries and in the countries aspiring to WEIRD standards, have been born into The WEIRD Spectacle of internalised ableism. 

Internalised ableism

The less WEIRD a country, the lower the fidelity of The Spectacle, and the more there is still some room for life beyond The Spectacle. I have lived all my life in The Spectacle, in the ruins of the WEIRD empire. I also call it the WEIRDT empire: Western Educated Industrialised Rich Democratic Theatre. Everything in this theatre is about perception – there is very little substance or connection to the biophysical and ecological context outside the theatre.

The institutions of the WEIRDT empire pretend that all aspects of life can be categorised and understood in terms of normality – by the hump of the bell curve.

But the living planet does not conform to anthropocentric normality, it is chaotic, it is beautifully and awesomely diverse. Like many neurodivergent people, I am highly sensitised to the language people use, in particular to the semantic possibility space that is created and bounded by the use of specific terms and by the conscious avoidance of other terms. In WEIRD politics the language of economic growth and war dominates. Growth economics is a euphemism for neocolonialism, genocide, and ecocide. Only 100 years ago, barely anyone was writing about the “need” for “economic growth”.

The most deadly wars today are economic wars. Social inequalities, in particular unequal access to high quality healthcare and lack of access to healthy ways of life result in a rise in chronic diseases, a several-fold increase in the risks of global pandemics, and in the premature death of millions.

My Autistic mind compels me to reduce cognitive dissonance. If I leave cognitive dissonance to fester, it promptly generates migraines or other symptoms of physical disease. Via my work, usually in the transdisciplinary context of small groups of people with complementary domain specific expertise, I have learned to ask clarifying questions and to ask for examples, and zero in on potential misunderstandings and ambiguities. This co-creates bridges of shared understanding across discipline and domain boundaries, which are essential for anyone who attempts to do anything that (re)connects us to Gaia, i.e. to the sacred living world beyond The WEIRD Spectacle. 

I was fortunate to have been exposed to the foundations of logic, i.e. the foundations of philosophy, and then studied mathematical thinking tools for four years before becoming exposed to the commercial world of The Spectacle.

Indoctrination

By the time I was born, the anthropocentric WEIRD Spectacle manifested in terms of neocolonialism. It is fascinating to look back and reflect on how effective the indoctrination is. I grew up as a WEIRD alien, immersed in less WEIRD cultures within the ruins of the British Empire. This left cracks in my WEIRD indoctrination, and later it helped me to put my education to good use in terms of critical thinking tools and habits.

George Orwell had a somewhat similar background to mine in an earlier time. The above biographical clip is worthwhile listening to – ignore the embedded cringe-inducing commercial promotion. The conclusion is directly relevant to our times.

Once we appreciate that even our “educated” Western scientific worldview is not free from ideological bias, we can develop a better conceptual model of how individual and collective human belief systems and related bodies of knowledge evolve. It is helpful to distinguish the following categories of beliefs and related knowledge:

  1. Beliefs based on scientific theories backed by empirical evidence that we are intimately familiar with. Such beliefs may be affected by paradigmatic bias and the quality or bias inherent in the supporting evidence. We need to be cognisant of corresponding blind spots in our understanding of the world when applying such beliefs in our reasoning. Only a small minority of our beliefs fall into this category.
  2. Beliefs based on scientific theories backed by empirical evidence that we are not intimately familiar with. Such beliefs may be affected by paradigmatic bias and the quality or bias inherent in the supporting evidence. We have no idea of the potential blind spots in our understanding of the world when applying such beliefs in our reasoning. In the few cases where the theories have been developed by trusted friends and colleagues within our personal competency network, we can decide to rely on their understanding of the limits of applicability and potential blind spots. If we are “educated”, a sizeable minority of our beliefs fall into this category.
  3. Beliefs based on personal experiences and observations. We know that no human can maintain more than 150 relationships with other people, and that all our assumptions about the lives and needs of humans are based on the very small set of people that we relate to. For those who identify as autistic, a significant number of beliefs held fall into this category. By definition, we don’t understand all the people that we “don’t relate to”. Thus, making any decisions that potentially affect the lives of many hundred to several billion people without explicit consent of all those potentially affected (a daily occurrence in government institutions and corporations), must be considered the pinnacle of human ignorance.
  4. Beliefs that represent explicit social agreements between specific people regarding communication and collaboration. Such sacred commitments can be verbal or in writing, and they only scale up to the limited numbers of relationships that we can maintain. As needed we can jointly update these commitments to reflect evolving needs or constraints in the wider ecology we are embedded in. For those who identify as Autistic, a significant number of beliefs held fall into this category, especially agreements with family members, friends, and colleagues. In hierarchically structured societies, agreements such as laws issued by regional or national authorities apply to large groups of people, and by necessity have been developed with limited input from those who are affected. Such agreements invariably cause untold harm that for the most part remains invisible to the authorities. Humans did not evolve to live in hierarchically structured super-human scale societies. Pretending that we can maintain such structures without causing untold harm is a form of anthropocentric hubris.
  5. Beliefs based on what others have told us and what we have been encouraged to believe by parents, teachers, and friends, … and politicians and advertisers, including beliefs that we have absorbed from our social environment subconsciously, i.e. beliefs for which we can’t recall the origin. For those who do not identify as Autistic, the majority of beliefs held may fall into this category.

All categories of human beliefs are associated with some level of uncertainty regarding the validity and applicability to a specific context at hand. A belief in the universally competitive nature of humans clearly falls into the fifth category. When beliefs related to neoliberal ideology are reflected in laws (category 4. above), they are internalised as cultural norms by large parts of the population, and when the externalities of hyper-competitive profit maximising behaviour hit with full force, Homo Economicus® has become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I was employed for 13 years before I could no longer bear to be part of The Spectacle of the corporate world, which is an Orwellian world of social perception management. The Spectacle is not survivable for sensitive neurodivergent people who are unable to maintain “quasi unlimited” levels of cognitive dissonance on an ongoing basis.

WEIRD indoctrination and enculturation in cruelty and violence goes very deep. I remember being taught at home and in school in the 1970s that animals can’t have “thoughts”, and that any feelings or consciousness they may have are not in any way comparable to human lived experiences. This was taught to us as “science” in biology classes. To top it off, in middle school we learned how to dissect dead frogs and we were given live laboratory mice to conduct experiments with. It tells us something about so-called WEIRD “normality” that such experiences remain etched into our memories, and that we can’t ever unsee or unlearn them. 

Deep down we know we are part of Gaia. This is why we enjoy immersing ourselves in the natural world. This is why we are able to build mutual trust with non-human animals, including wild animals. Living beings recognise each other as being part of the sacred cycle of life. We know that each living being enjoys being alive and enjoys exploring the world. Of course as humans we most deeply relate to animals that are roughly human scale – it is at that scale that we can communicate, and, if we take the time, build genuine relationships across species, from domesticated animals to wild birds, octopuses, fish, and mammals of all kinds. 

When animals eat other animals, it is only to cover their basic survival needs. Humans have the same inhibitions. We evolved to know intuitively that all lives and all our relationships are sacred. The human capacity for culture and spoken language evolved on top of this biological backdrop. This is something that to this day is not part of the WEIRD indoctrination system – because it clashes with the WEIRD neocolonial narrative of technological progress. 

The WEIRD indoctrination system makes sure that all children are indoctrinated in Homo Economicus® from a very young age, before we learn anything substantial about Gaia and the living world. This is possibly the most cruel, dehumanising, and life denying part of WEIRD cultures. 

The pill of Homo Economicus® is sweetened by punishing children with rewards for compliance. In this way children learn to collaborate only to compete. 

“Pay for merit, pay for what you get, reward performance. Sounds great, can’t be done. Unfortunately it can not be done, on short range. After 10 years perhaps, 20 years, yes. The effect is devastating. People must have something to show, something to count. In other words, the merit system nourishes short-term performance. It annihilates long-term planning. It annihilates teamwork. People can not work together. To get promotion you’ve got to get ahead. By working with a team, you help other people. You may help yourself equally, but you don’t get ahead by being equal, you get ahead by being ahead. Produce something more, have more to show, more to count. Teamwork means work together, hear everybody’s ideas, fill in for other people’s weaknesses, acknowledge their strengths. Work together. This is impossible under the merit rating / review of performance system. People are afraid. They are in fear. They work in fear. They can not contribute to the company as they would wish to contribute. This holds at all levels. But there is something worse than all of that. When the annual ratings are given out, people are bitter. They can not understand why they are not rated high. And there is a good reason not to understand. Because I could show you with a bit of time that it is purely a lottery.”

W Edwards Deming (1984)

If we learn about Homo Economicus® before we are encouraged to listen deeply to our intuition, and before we learn about Gaia and collaborative ecological niche construction within and between species, then we are primed to view any other narrative that deviates from or that contradicts Homo Economicus® with suspicion. In the commercial digital world of Homo Economicus®, where the very means of communication have been seized by corporations, and where universities have become dependent on corporate funding, it has become easy to sideline the growing body of scientific evidence that contradicts Homo Economicus®. 

Since we are immersed in information overload, evidence such as what we know about the innate collaborative inclinations and sense of fairness of human toddlers and about the pivotal role of highly egalitarian societies in the evolution of the human capacity for language and culture does not even need to be hidden. It is completely sufficient for algorithms and institutions to deprioritise such evidence.

I am learning that not only have humans lived in highly egalitarian human scale bands for most of 300,000 years, but also that such bands maintained ongoing collaborative and dynamically evolving relationships with other bands across large bioregions, routinely coming together for omni-directional learning. Amongst other things such gatherings also allowed new groups to form. Apparently it was common for families or individuals to join another group. Important to note the absence of a hierarchical super-structure between groups, and the dynamism of ongoing relationships between groups.

All of this fits well with my own experience with egalitarian human scale worker coops, and with the interest from other small groups of neurodivergent and disabled people in adopting a similar model, including ongoing collaboration between groups.

We still have access to all our innate collaborative capabilities. If we care to listen to our guts, hearts, and minds, we can (re)learn everything we need for co-creating ecologies of care beyond the human.

The ripples of collaborative niche construction and intersectional solidarity are spreading. More and more small cosmo-local bands of marginalised people are coming together to catalyse intersectional solidarity.

Actually, the WEIRD empire is not in control. Gaia has a perfect 10,000 year track record of clamping down on anthropocentric empire building attempts, making room for new forms of life to emerge from the compost heap. She is probably asking herself in some planetary language that is beyond human comprehensibility: Can this species recover from cultural cancer? Data from climate science and biodiversity research gives us a glimpse of Gaia’s language.

Healthy human scale cultural development

At least some of the developmental patterns of cells and organs within insects seem to translate to the developmental stages and metamorphosis of healthy human cultures. The world of insect metamorphosis is amazing. The big cycle of life within Gaia is fractal, very similar phenomena reoccur at very different scale and in different contexts. In this case patterns at level of cells and organs within a metamorphosing insect seem to reoccur at the level of human scale cultural development.

The more I learn about this topic and weave it together with anthropological evidence, and with experiences from worker coops of neurodivergent and otherwise disabled people, the more I get the impression that Homo Economicus® relates to a cancer that has arrested the development of human cultural organisms at the larval stage, resulting in a perpetual production of growth hormones. 

Humans need to (re)learn how to stop perpetuating hierarchically structured systems of social control, striving for infinite growth like a cancer. We also need to (re)learn how to reproduce and evolve peacefully, along the lines of what we know about the ongoing lifetime collaborative relationships and some of the amazing conflict resolution strategies practiced within and between hunter gatherer bands. 

The global mono-cult is an empire that has the developmental maturity of a teenager. An individual human that keeps eating like a teenager will become morbidly obese, develop chronic diseases, and end up dying prematurely. 

The Pentagon Wars is the favourite movie of one of my former Autistic colleagues who spent many years in large government departments. This movie, which is based on a true story, is a good illustration of the teenage stage of cultural development in WEIRD societies. Given all the deadly wars that are in progress and that have been stoked for decades, this movie is too painfully close to reality for me to genuinely enjoy.

We need to learn how to deactivate the growth hormone of Homo Economicus®, which is capital constructed as interest-bearing debt. Gaia is showing us all the examples we need for fully rejoining the sacred cycle of life. 

The challenge of deactivating the growth hormone of Homo Economicus® is not a new one. It is an instance of the same Homo Empire® challenge faced by the inmates of the warring states in what is now China over 2,000 years ago. Hence my appreciation for the timeless wisdom embedded in Daoist philosophy.

All indigenous cultures honour Gaia. They all operate on time horizons that span at least 7 generations into the future, and draw on collective knowledge and wisdom that extends at least 7 generations into the past. How does this compare to the WEIRD addiction to quarterly results and infinite growth?

Every human is a uniquely valuable repository of lived experience and insights.

Dialogues are uniquely valuable, they allow us to walk each others minds, and via clarifying questions and other thinking tools, we converge on shared understanding and shared mental models for specific domains or experiences. Linear language is a poor communication tool, but dialogue transforms it into a very powerful communication and collaboration tool. 

Of course dialogues only catalyse shared understanding when sharing freely and honestly, and it fails miserably as soon as one or both parties have any hidden self-serving agenda – which is the default in the world of Homo Economicus®. This is why I am incapable of buying into the competitive “logic” of markets.

Institutionalised learning disability

Institutionalised social power is the privilege of not needing to learn, it leads to collective stupidity, it is a form of collective learning disability.

Markets invariably generate collective stupidity, because by definition participants have incentives not to share unlimited amounts of information. By definition, unconstrained markets are the anti-thesis of collaborative niche construction.

There are encouraging signs in some less WEIRD, and more communally oriented societies. By WEIRD standards Japan is an economic basket case, with a shrinking and ageing population, and a GDP growth that is probably averaging around zero over the last 20 years. We need to hear more stories from the less WEIRD world to understand what modern life can be like in a context of shrinking economic busyness, shrinking population, and correspondingly shrinking ecological footprint.

Such examples illustrate how the growth hormone of Homo Economicus® can be deactivated. The referenced example also illustrates the significance of small scale autonomous local communal decision making, which is the opposite of the centralised models that still operate in the ruins of the British Empire. There is no need at all for glorious leaders. Acknowledging the extent of the cultural cancer is going to be hard for some people to swallow. Patriotism and professionalism are key ingredients of fascism.

Too many professionals have “only been doing their job” and have been following “orders” or “best practices” for too long, without listening deeply to their innate ethical compass, which has been systematically and thoroughly suppressed by the WEIRD indoctrination system.

  1. The biggest fears of Neurodivergent, LGBTQIA+ and Disabled people relate to unmet healthcare needs, their work environment, their parents, and disrespect by healthcare professionals. Data from our participatory research shows the large overlap and the intersectionality between Autistic communities, and the LGBTQIA+ and Disabled communities.
  2. Results from our survey on psychological safety and mental wellbeing indicate that the biggest fears of Neurodivergent, LGBTQIA+, and Disabled children – and especially those who also belong to cultural minorities, relate to classmates, parents, and teachers. 97% indicate often or always having anxiety, and 80% indicate often or always feeling depressed.
  3. Our individually unique nervous systems and sensitivities develop and evolve over the course of our lives. 85% of neurodivergent adults often or always feel overwhelmed and misunderstood, and over 60% often or always feel disrespected and unsafe. Our overall sense of wellbeing is determined by alignment between our sensitivity profiles and the ecology of care we are embedded in (or not).

Advocating for a “better” command and control hierarchy is no solution, it only sows the seeds for yet another empire building attempt. Collectively we can work towards revoking the social license for maintaining and strengthening life destroying powered-up institutions.

Sensitive Daoist thinkers saw this clearly over 2,000 years ago. The documentaries by British film maker Adam Curtis are also excellent educational resources for those who have the stomach to face the reality of toxic cultural inertia.

Full economic eclipse

In-depth discussions of Adam Curtis’ Hypernormalisation and Century of the Self should be part of every high school curriculum, and they should be mandatory menu items in the curriculum of medical schools and all other institutions entrusted with any aspect of human wellbeing.

Acknowledging reality is only the first step. Economic eclipse is a product of many decades of WEIRD indoctrination and propaganda. Gaia is nowhere to be seen:

Economic eclipse has been causing untold harm for decades, and it inevitably ends in economic collapse. As we are collectively moving out of full economic eclipse, the beauty of Gaia as well as the delusion of hypernormality is revealed. Sobering up is going to be painful for the addicts who remain in denial.

Capital is not a hand that feeds, it is a drug that kills. Gaia has nurtured and fed humans for 300,000 years.

We need commitment, we need community. We need to create spaces of trust. But for that, there’s tremendous work that we need to be doing. But I don’t think that any of that work will be possible, should we not have that commitment–that commitment that no matter how challenging and tremendously difficult it will be to reckon with these narratives and to dismantle these narratives. Because seeing the horror in the eye of all these narratives that we live by comes with tremendous understanding. It will leave us very fragile, very vulnerable, and most, of course, are not willing to do that, because we don’t feel safe. But if we are able to stand the heat and create these spaces, if we commit to do this kind of work for the benefit of the planet, then we may be able to learn that we can fly.

Yuria Celidwen

This is the voice of Gaia, exposing the life denying doctrine of Homo Economicus®:

We deeply appreciate the wonder of life, and we can clearly see the global mono-cult for what it is. We are fully human. We are alive.

Knowing a bit about all of the above may help you to remain sane, and to see, enjoy, and where possible, nurture the growing cracks in The WEIRD Spectacle. Most importantly, we must acknowledge that we can not regain sobriety alone, in self-isolation, and we can only relearn to be fully human at a scale that is compatible with our biological cognitive and emotional limits, neither at smaller scales, nor at larger scales.

Healing

Healthy cultural organisms do not consist of:

  • Isolated individuals
  • Atomised nuclear families
  • Incomprehensibly complex groups and institutions

The world in reality is a beautifully interconnected world, and it’s interconnected through many many layers. It’s interconnected through consciousness, which is why we are spiritual beings in human form. But the plants outside my window are spiritual beings in plant form. But the plant of the lychee is in lychee form, and the tree of the mango is in mango form. They are just different expressions of one spiritual interconnected consciousness in the world.

I’ve studied quantum theory. We realised that the particles in the world are really not the basic reality. The basic reality is potential and energy, and it’s only when you try and measure it, then it shows up as a particle, or it shows up as a wave, but the reality really is that which connects, the non-separability problem. My PhD thesis was on non-separation, non-locality, and quantum theory. We knew [this] 100 years ago in physics, and yet an obsolete physics of more than 100 years ago is being used to shape and and divide a very interconnected world. So dualism today is not just epistemologically so wrong, it is not just ontologically so wrong, it is spiritually just not the right way to think of the world, but it is now becoming a threat to human life, preventing people from living with each other in diversity with love. And that’s why we have to spread the message of non-dualism, of interconnectedness, of oneness through love, and we have to be the practice...

All cultures had economies but it wasn’t the first organising principle, it was a byproduct of good living… Where did that wealth come from? It was an economy, but it was not an economy of extraction. It was not an economy of domination, it was an economy of living. If you go to the roots of the word economy, economy according to Aristotle is the art of living. Our civilisation has very deep spiritual foundations, and through spirituality you know that the diversity in the world is really different expressions of the same oneness… Let all the beings flourish

– Vandana Shiva

The relational nature of the big cycle of life is obscured as long as long as we attempt to define cultural organisms as groups of people or even groups of living beings beyond the human.

Wherever you are, most of the inmates at the grassroots level are humans trying their very best. Appreciate those who are able to see and attempt to widen the cracks in The WEIRD Spectacle, and tread carefully when confronted with the institutionalised internalised ableism of Homo Economicus®. 

Understanding your Autistic child

In the current Aotearoa New Zealand Autism Guideline the existence of Autistic culture is not mentioned with a single word. Understanding Autistic people and Autistic culture is still a secondary concern. Civil society activists and child rights’ defenders from around the world are now joining together to create the Rights-Centric Education network. Some compare Autistic life in a hypernormative culture with living life in Hard Mode. We have a long way to go until Autistic culture is as acceptable as gay & lesbian culture.

Understanding Autistic culture

Understanding Autistic people and Autistic culture is still a secondary concern.

A few days ago I had a look at the latest edition of the Aotearoa New Zealand Autism Guideline. Whilst the document mentions the importance of ethnic minority cultures, the existence of intersectional Autistic culture – in analogy to the cultures that exist in LGBTQIA+ communities – is not mentioned with a single word. 

There are major improvements in the updated guideline since we started our campaign towards a comprehensive ban of Applied Behaviour Analysis (ABA) and all related forms of “conversion” therapy, but the primary focus is still centred on so-called “behaviours of concern”.

This puts all the social pressure on either changing the behaviour of the Autist, or on changing the local micro-environment of the Autist at home, in education, and at work. All of this is woefully inadequate to prevent a hypersensitive Autist from becoming overwhelmed, depressed, and disillusioned with life in our hyper-normative hyper-busy industrialised society. Modern societies offer only a very limited number of “socially acceptable” life paths for Autistic people. The few healthy life paths that might be viable are mostly out of reach economically for the vast majority of the population.

In the 400+ page Aotearoa New Zealand Autism Guideline, the following paragraph sticks out:

Autistic children and young people will need to be taught the unwritten rules of the school life, such as what to do where, when and with whom. These rules tend to change depending on the circumstances and autistic children and young people will not usually be able to generalise what they have learned to different situations. Even autistic students with less obvious support needs may not understand things that others may know intuitively.

This gets close to the heart of the problem in our society. It frames the issue in terms of Autistic deficits – in the “good old” and convenient pathology paradigm!

We live in a deeply troubled society where there is no consistent set of “unwritten rules of the school life”. The “rules” are not only context specific, but “the appropriate context” is usually dictated by so-called “authorities”, and these authorities are entitled to “change the written and unwritten rules” at any time, usually to protect their position of social dominance.

Here is my Autistic philosophy / approach to life, which took me more than five decades of lived experience to be able to put into somewhat appropriate words:

collaborative niche construction = creative collaboration committed to nurturing life, to minimising suffering beyond the human, consciously constrained by human cognitive and emotional limits, and by the biophysical limits of the Living Earth – the organism that is the source of all life, capable of joy and suffering like all other living beings.

It took me over four decades to figure out that the “unwritten rules of the school life in industrialised societies” amount to:

anthropocentric progress = creative collaboration to compete, unconstrained by human cognitive and emotional limits.

On the one hand, as children we are taught to share and be nice to people – these are the spoken and written explicit rules, but on the other hand, the (re)actions we encounter in our social environment incrementally teach us the above “unwritten rule” of powered-up hierarchically organised so-called “civilisations”. Of course no official “autism guideline” will ever spell out the horrible unwritten rule in this clarity, because this would expose the dehumanising house of cards of this so-called “civilisation”.

Autistic culture rejects the “unwritten rule” of powered-up “civilisations”. In earlier times Autists where known as Daoist philosophers etc. They were recognised as having unusual life paths that collided with the views of the dominant “authorities”, but they were not pathologised!

The dominant parenting / education / indoctrination system severely traumatises and breaks the spirit of many Autists. This results in traumatised Autists who are tormented by internalised ableism. Then modern society blames these Autists for “behaviours of concern”! The trauma inflicted by the unmentionable “hidden rule” is not mentioned in any mental health guideline or in the Devil’s Sadistic Manual (DSM). I am crying as I write this, as I have read so many horror stories of lived experiences from Autistic people, and as I know how much all the Autistic people in my ecology of care are struggling.

The latest Aotearoa New Zealand Autism Guideline is good example of how to use “positive” language and a behaviour-centric approach to skirt around all the fundamental social problems – which are of course political. Autistic people are now recognised to have motivations and some right to self-determination. Maybe we are human after all? But it is obvious that in many cases the assessments and judgements of professional “authorities” and care givers are the dominant perspectives.

It can’t be emphasised enough that even though Autistic ways of being are diverse, this does not mean that there is no Autistic culture. Autistic people form communities. Autistic people need to be embedded in healthy Autistic culture to thrive. The cognitive dissonance caused by the “hidden rule” of powered-up civilisations is literally killing many of us – we know this from the suicide and mental health statistics.

Our friends at ICARS have produced a report (data from the UK) that reveals what is actually going on in our society in terms of restraints and seclusion. There is similar data from schools in Australia gathered by Autistic activists. All of this is consistent with our global participatory research into the cultural and psychological safety of Autistic and otherwise neurodivergent children.

Civil society activists and child rights’ defenders from around the world, who have been engaged in educational practice that prioritizes the rights of young people, are now joining together to create the Rights-Centric Education network to implement a so-far-not-implemented UN Proposal to establish a Rights Based Quality Assurance System for Schools, beginning with a Declaration calling for practices of education be overhauled to ensure Child Rights in Education are respected, protected, and fulfilled.

Compulsory (i.e. Imposed) Education emerged in the 1700’s in an era where Children were seen as chattel, and it had to be publicly funded because it was targeting people who weren’t going to pay for an education they did not choose. Nothing much has changed in education in spite of social perceptions having evolved from seeing children as chattel, to objects of charity, to objects of rights, and finally the recognition (at least on paper, in 1989, with the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child) that children are the subjects of their own rights.

While there has been much work done on the Right TO Education – and there is indeed a problem with many children still denied access to education – hardly any attention has been paid to Rights IN Education. Consequently many violations are routinely perpetuated on children in the name of education. These violations are commonplace in state schools, private schools, and homeschooling – and because they are mainstreamed, most people don’t even realize that they constitute violations.

– Rights-Centric Education: Kinder Republic (Pvt) Ltd, Democratic Socialist Republic of Sri Lanka; Lada Center, Republic of Slovenia; Riverstone Village, South Africa; Autistic Collaboration Trust, Aotearoa New Zealand; Uniting for Children and Youth, Canada; Flourishing Education, UK.

We have a long way to go until Autistic culture is as acceptable as gay & lesbian culture. If the words Autistic and autism in the latest Aotearoa New Zealand Autism Guideline were replaced by gay & lesbian, there would be a public outcry. How about “early intervention” for “behaviours of concern” of gay & lesbian children? We are facing very similar struggles to the trans communities, only we are still further behind in gaining acceptance.

The psychological idea of mirroring is too often dumbed down to socially appropriate verbal and non-verbal expression of emotion, which really just signals that someone seems to be listening, but which is no reliable indicator of genuine shared understanding.

Certain conditions need to be met for mirroring to reflect shared understanding and genuine compassion. 

It is only when/if listener has had any comparable lived experiences that may result in a similar emotional state or experience that the speaker/communicator can feel genuinely understood. This is what Autistic people focus on. It is not enough “to be listened to”. We want to feel understood, and we are not convinced that this is achievable by verbal and non-verbal expression of emotion alone.

Linguistically, the words used in a story attempt to communicate one or more frames, i.e. the active mental models and emotional state of the communicator. To be effective, mirroring by the listener needs to reflect back a story with frames that have some overlap with the frames of the speaker/communicator. And as Quinn points out in the above video, this is not about outcompeting each other, it is about showing a genuine attempt of understanding, with an implicit invitation to the speaker/communicator to offer clarifications in case the listener has misunderstood the essence of the story. The listener may also respond with one of more clarifying questions to a story before offering a comparable experience – and this is not to be confused with a dismissal or downgrading of the story. Lastly, the listener may respond by admitting that they have never experienced anything that seems remotely comparable – and again, this is not to be confused with a dismissal or downgrading of the story.

All of the above makes sense in a setting of psychological safety, where two people trust each other, and where the intent of communication is to learn from and with each other, and to assist each other – which is the innate human impulse of naive toddlers who have not yet been socialised by the cult of homo economicus.

But we live in a transactional society dominated by mutual mistrust. In the competitive logic of homo economicus, the “naive” Autistic attempt of offering compassion and assistance often backfires. And that sits at the core of the Double Empathy Problem documented by Autistic scholar Damian Milton. The motivations of Autistic people are routinely misunderstood. And conversely, Autistic people often fail to take into consideration how the competitive logic of homo economicus reframes all that is being said in the minds of culturally “well adjusted” listeners. 

To add to the complexity, isolated and traumatised Autistic people whose spirit has been broken, who are not embedded in a neurodivergent ecology of care, may come to the conclusion that no one can ever be trusted, and end up behaving in ways that are comparable to the ways in which other highly traumatised people behave.

How does all of this play out in terms of Autistic life paths? The answer can be deduced from the answers of two closely related questions.

Do we buy into the cultural narratives that surround us?

Based on the daily lived experience of the Double Empathy Problem, it should not come as a surprise that almost by definition Autistic people don’t buy into or don’t fully buy into the mainstream cultural narratives that surround us. This can take many forms.

Many of those who find supportive Autistic community and mutual support become passionate advocates and activists for social change. Many committed environmentalists and climate activists identify as Autistic. The list of examples of openly Autistic activists is long, and the list of not-openly Autistic social activists is even longer.

Many of us end up in burnout for a range of reasons, often connected to the cognitive dissonance imposed on us by a hypernormative society governed by the unmentionable “unwritten rule of the school life in industrialised societies”. In the interview below Professor Guy McPherson outlines the aggregate effects of the “unwritten rule”. Unsurprisingly his conclusions are not very popular in wider society amongst culturally “well adjusted” people.

I don’t agree with all of Guy McPherson’s conclusions, mainly because my estimate of the limits of human cognitive abilities is lower. Therefore I am less convinced about the claims we can make about what the future holds for the human species and the other living beings on this beautiful Living Planet that gave birth to all of us. At the same time, I have more faith in the ability of the Living Planet to heal itself, and more faith in the potential that unfolds when humans (re)discover our capacity for collaboration at human scale.

Whether humans are still around in 200 years is anyone’s guess. What matters in my book is that we can strive to minimise human and non-human suffering. Along the way we can aim to minimise the depth of the current mass extinction event, regardless for how long the human species continues to be around. Struggling together, and appreciating every day in small life-affirming cosmolocal ecologies of care is the beauty of collaboration at human scale.

Do we buy into the competitive framing of evolutionary processes?

Those of us who have had the good fortune to gather some experiences within a genuinely life-affirming and de-powered cosmolocal ecology of care are no longer able to accept the toxic notion of homo economicus as so-called “human nature”.

Neurodiversity activists point out that there are many human natures. Every human is unique, and throughout life accumulates uniquely valuable lived experiences. Furthermore, framing evolutionary processes in terms of collaborative niche construction instead of competition is grounded in what we know about the collaborative tendencies of human toddlers.

The sacred cycle of life includes the joy of birth, the art of living well, and the process of dying and nurturing the living planet in good company. In contrast to the global mono-cult of capitalist patriarchy, this timeless wisdom is well understood within the Hindu, Buddhist, and Daoist philosophical and spiritual traditions.

The framing of life in terms of collaborative niche construction is much more compatible with Eastern traditions, with Joseph Tainter’s pioneering analysis of patterns of civilisational collapse, and with indigenous cultures, all of which understand the planet as a regenerative system of relationships between living entities.

Healthy Autistic collaborative niche construction

Collaborative niche construction is the evolutionary process of reducing cognitive dissonance, a process of omni-directional sensing and learning, which can only emerge in an adequately de-powered, non-overwhelming, and life affirming, i.e. holotropic and syntropic environment.

Quinn Dexter has produced excellent explanatory videos on so-called Pathological Demand Avoidance, elaborating on how the Double Empathy Problem often plays out.

There are very good and compelling reasons why many Autistic people are drawn towards Autistic and otherwise neurodivergent collaborations, and at least somewhat reluctant to engage on neuronormative terms. Life is not a performance!

In small societies without abstract formal authorities, everyone learns from everyone. The relational complexity of life, and the effects of the current de-humanising economic paradigm can’t easily be condensed into words. We need good Autistic and neurodivergent company to co-create unique ecologies of care based on sacred relationships and mutual aid at human scale.

One of the commenter’s on Quinn’s video on deconstructing PDA compares Autistic life in a hypernormative culture with “living life in Hard Mode” in a video game.

The Autistic Collaboration community grows organically, at human scale, at a human pace, one trusted relationship at a time, in the form of self-organising small groups that collaborate on specific initiatives, contributing to the wellbeing of Autistic and otherwise neurodivergent and intersectionally marginalised people.

Join us for the NeurodiVerse Days of Intersectional Solidarity in October!

Being part of the Earth in good company – our shared humanity

The human capacity for language serves to improve understanding and trust, fostering collaboration instead of competition. This contradicts capitalist interpretations of evolution and supports the notion of human collaboration. Society’s hierarchical structure and wealth creation methods perpetuate exploitation, leading to societal sickness. To heal, we must rediscover faith in humanity and focus on building trustworthy, life-affirming relationships within human-scale ecologies of care.

Being human

Framing evolutionary processes in terms of collaborative niche construction instead of competition is grounded in what we know about the collaborative tendencies of human toddlers.

The notion of life as a competitive game only found its way into the science of biology by interpreting Darwin’s theory of evolution through the cultural lens of capitalism. The complementary perspective of life and evolution as a cooperative game as described by Pyotr Alexeyevich Kropotkin in Mutual Aid: A Factor of Evolution (1902) was largely ignored in so-called “developed” capitalist societies throughout most of the 20th century.

Through the lenses of evolutionary biology and cultural evolution, small groups of 20 to 100 people are the primary organisms within human society – in contrast to individuals, corporations, and nation states. The implications for our civilisation are profound.

Humanity is experiencing a phase transition that is catalysed by a combination of new communication technologies, toxic levels of social inequalities, and existential crises. It is time to put ubiquitous global digital connectivity to good use, to curate and share the lessons from marginalised perspectives, and to reflect critically on the human evolutionary journey and on the possibilities and limitations of human agency.

In the book The Beauty of Collaboration at Human Scale I argue that becoming conscious of human cognitive and emotional limits, and recognising that these limits are just as real, immutable, and relevant for our survival as the laws of physics may allow us to embark on a path of radical energy descent.

The journey of exponentially accelerating cultural evolution presented in this book covers several hundred thousand years, from the origins of humans right up to the latest significant developments in the early 21st century, as outlined in this article. I wrote this book to equip communities and individuals with conceptual tools to create good companies that are capable of pumping value from a dying ideological system into an emerging world.

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Being part of a healthy cultural organism

The human capacity for language would not have given us any adaptive ecological advantage if it did not primarily serve the purpose of improving our ability to understand, trust, and rely on each other, such that every human in a cultural organism to some extent contributes unique capabilities and lived experiences to the cultural organism.

Healthy cultural organisms do not consist of:

  • Isolated individuals competing against each other
  • Atomised nuclear families
  • Incomprehensibly complex groups and institutions

In fact, the relational nature of the big cycle of life is obscured as long as long as we attempt to define cultural organisms as groups of people or even groups of living beings beyond the human. The very notion of groups of living beings makes no sense.

Humans and all other conscious beings make sense of the world in entirely relational terms. If we care to pay attention, we even relate to the food we eat and to many things that in the Western Educated Industrialised Rich Democratic (WEIRD) world are not considered to be alive. The extent to which we feel healthy, well, and alive is a direct reflection of the health and aliveness in all our relationships, and the extent to which we are able to minimise cognitive dissonance across all our relationships.

We do not arrive at values and preferences in isolation, but within our dynamically evolving social context. Values are best understood as a second order cultural process, the derivative that emerges from our attempts of minimising cognitive dissonance across all our relationships.

The “self” is a WEIRD cultural artefact that denotes the “sovereign” individual, an abstraction, which according to neocolonial / neoliberal dogma, we should value above all else. It is much healthier to understand the self in terms of our deeply held values, which are the product of our lived experience in the ecology of care that we are embedded in – which may or may not be in a healthy state.

In a healthy ecology of care our values are closely aligned with the values of those we engage with on a daily basis. In an unhealthy ecology of care, our values may be shaped by the cognitive dissonance and the harm we are exposed to. Some of our values may then be consciously chosen in opposition to harmful experiences we have had to endure. If our ecology of care remains unhealthy, our values may eventually compel us to develop healthier relationships in a different social environment.

Appreciating the timeless patterns of human limitations

Our society has been constructed such that certain forms of exploitation are deemed acceptable / legal / necessary and such that other forms of bullying are deemed as unacceptable and illegal. Upon closer examination the boundary is an arbitrary one.

Laws and social norms in industrialised societies are shaped by the metaphor of society as a factory and the metaphor of people as machines more than most people realise.

WEIRD education is focused on turning playful and curious children into self-conscious individuals in a competitive world. Most of WEIRD psychology is concerned about developing a healthy “self” that is prepared to engage in the WEIRD game of “earning a living”, in competition with other self-conscious individuals. Increasingly WEIRD medicine is about treating the long-term effects of the chronic stress experienced by self-conscious individuals who are no longer embedded in a healthy ecology of care.

In the digital technoverse, biological life is perceived as becoming irrelevant. The unhelpful industrialised metaphor of “human biological machines” confuses first-order effects (the innate human inclination towards mutual aid and collaborative niche construction) with second-order effects (culturally transmitted “normalisation” of social power gradients).

Specifically, all societies that construct money as interest bearing debt and endow money with a quasi-ubiquitous fungibility to enable economic activity rely on the following four economic drivers or ways of “making money”:

  1. Creation and lending of money for a return on investment: We use interest-bearing debt issued out of thin air by banks to prime the economic pump, and to provide professional bankers with a reliable source of significant income.
  2. Speculation with land and real estate, and allowing people to inherit money: This enables people to “make” more money through lending for a return on investment, similar to banks, only that the means of individuals are more limited.
  3. Hierarchical structures of organisations that offer extreme monetary rewards at the top: This encourages people to systematically take credit for the work of others to get to the top.
  4. Creation of pyramid schemes that allow people to “extract value” from the work of others: This endorses and encourages harmful behaviours which benefit the individual over the group.

The common theme across these economic drivers is the willingness to exploit other people for personal gain, including the audacity to take personal credit for the results of others or for the results achieved as part of a team. Such exploitative interdependencies between people are considered “normal”, and bizarrely, we consider anyone who is able to survive comfortably by extracting money from other people as “independent”.

The four ways of making money are justified by a myth of meritocracy and circular reasoning – that people with a lot of money have “earned” the money and are entitled to a “fair” return on investment to cover their “risk” when lending some of it to others.

Realistic paths to “success” involve career climbing in hierarchical organisations or the related option of the creating and running a more or less legal pyramid scheme.

People with an intact moral compass tend to learn the hard way that all their attempts of investment, running charities or entrepreneurship only strengthen the status quo and amplify the economic inequalities. It is easy to see that honest people, and especially Autistic people, are systematically disabled in modern society, economically as well as socially, as many social norms are adaptations to the dominant economic paradigm.

Autistic people continuously work at the edge of their performance limit, which is often much higher than what non-autistic people are capable of sustaining, whilst not making a fuss about it. This invites exploitation. The social model of disability explains two of the most disabling aspects of being Autistic. To a significant extent Autistic experience can be described in terms of the downstream effects of:

  1. A much reduced capacity to maintain cognitive dissonance, including the inability to maintain hidden agendas over extended periods.
  2. Hypersensitivities, including in the social realm.

We find ourselves in a hypernormative global civilisation, with an anthropocentric performance-oriented culture and deep hierarchical structures of social power. It is revealing that the English language uses one word – perform – to refer to two different actions:

  1. To begin and carry through to completion; do. To take action in accordance with the requirements of; fulfill.
  2. To enact (a feat or role) before an audience.

The more competitive social power games a society allows, the more the meanings of these concepts converge. Performance becomes an obsession to conform to externally evaluated criteria.

In a highly competitive social environment in which some people are celebrated in terms of their “net worth”, and in which more and more experiences are commodified, mediated by purchasing power, life is no longer experienced as an ecological process, it is transformed into a performance before an audience that is measured and rated according to social expectations that are increasingly codified in and evaluated by abstract algorithms.

The conception of “intelligence” baked into Western culture and orthodox economic ideology is anaemic.

“I do believe we have to start thinking imaginatively about systems that are fundamentally differently organized. Shifts do happen in history. We’ve been taught for the last 30 to 40 years that imagination has no place in politics or economics, but that, too, is bullshit. I think we need a rebellion of what I call the “caring class,” people who care about others and justice. We need to think about how to create a new social movement and change what we value in our work and lives. People have a sense of what makes a job worthwhile; otherwise, they wouldn’t realize that what they’re doing now is bullshit. So we need to give this more articulation, and we need to unite with other people who want the same things. That’s a political project we can all get behind.

– David Graeber

Denying the timeless patterns of human limitations

Adam Becker, who has written a good book on the way engineering is practiced today, sums up the overall culture as: “Shut up and calculate!” This attitude to technology design has become accepted practice in most domains of engineering, and especially in the domains of machine learning, finance, and financial engineering. This is a culture of normalised denial.

Gary Stevenson does an excellent job of explaining the systemic nature and the lived reality of wealth inequality and social power gradients:

  1. What is wealth? – Gary Stevenson
  2. What is wealth inequality? – Gary Stevenson

The normalisation of the harm caused by social power gradients and powered-up relationships is the terminal disease that plagues all empires. Since we live in the context of the convulsions of dying empires, it is important to understand the cultural dynamics that are unfolding.

Social power differentials have a strong addictive potential for those who the system enables to wield social power over others. Wielding power via asset ownership is especially addictive and dangerous, since the power wielded is often indirect. Often the asset owner is insulated from the consequences for those at the receiving end of power by several levels of indirection, making it easier for the asset owner to remain in denial.

In the discipline of economics denial and obscuring harm is institutionalised and legitimised by refering to harm as “insignificant externalities”.

Addressing wealth inequality is not enough to heal all the human and non-human suffering caused by the energy and resource intensive ways of life that have been enabled by the exploitation of fossil fuels.

Eliminating wealth inequality without a fundamental shift in our values and in the cultural practices that define our daily lives, without a radical reduction in consumption and a radical shift in the ways that we relate to the living world will not reverse ecological overshoot and the sixth mass extinction.

We are currently using nature 1.7 times faster than our planet’s ecosystems can regenerate.

Even slowing down busyness significantly will not be enough. An equal distribution of wealth in an energy hungry materialistic consumer society will still wreck the planet.

The modern addiction to convenience and consumption comes in many different flavours. More is always better. Quantity is what counts. Quantity can be commoditised. Quantity can be sold as progress. Quality is systematically discounted by the religion of the invisible hand. Enough is no longer part of the Western Educated Industrialised Rich Democratic (WEIRD) vocabulary. The most obvious candidates for commodification and addiction:

  • Material consumption
  • Work
  • Substances and foods
  • Sex
  • Gambling
  • Entertainment, including “news”

The not-so-invisible hand is explicitly involved in ensuring that all these aspects of modern life are packaged in formats that maximise addictive potential.

This civilisation is finished. Rather than playing around with yet another “better” configuration of powered-up institutions, perhaps we are better served by practicing de-powered dialogue, and by learning how to de-power all our relationships – without asking any so-called authority for permission. The revolution will not be nudged!

Living in a sick, addicted culture

In our hypernormative society neurodivergence takes on a political dimension. Framing neurodivergence as pathological allows ideas from neurodivergent people to be dismissed as insignificant – simply because they are ideologically inconvenient.

In an interview a few years ago George Lakoff mentions his experience with John Nash, pointing out that John Nash had been working on co-operative game theory, and that this was a major reason for him being sidelined and locked up in a psychiatric institution.

I have been co-creating and working with formal and informal models of human collaboration in a broad range of domains for over thirty years. All along, the market based competitive models used by economists never made any sense to me, as they assume a level of cruelty and lack of compassion beyond what I could imagine. Developing and applying competitive models of human “collaboration”, i.e. “shutting up and calculating” would literally hurt my brain.

For a long time I did not realise the extent to which homo economicus acts as a very effective filter that guarantees that only adequately indoctrinated and compliant disciples of the god of the invisible hand gravitate to positions of power. Homo economicus has become a self-fulfilling prophecy, it is a collective hypernormative cultural choice, not a law of nature. The modern play book of anthropocentric civilisation building rests on the following frames:

  1. All of life is a competition, which is framed as evolution.
  2. Humans are declared to be superior to all other life forms, therefore we are declared to be more competitive, i.e. more evolved, which is framed as intelligence.
  3. For human groups larger than a household to collaborate, it is essential to control human behaviours by constructing hierarchically structured abstract human institutions with coercive powers, which are framed as authorities.
  4. Anthropocentric hierarchical structures of coercive powers and addictions to exercising such powers are justified by framing them as meritocracies – entitling small elites to make decisions that affect many thousands, millions, or billions of people and other living beings.
  5. Effective coercive control over humans and all other living beings is deemed to be desirable – it is framed as progress.
  6. Within the anthropocentric frame of progress, the right to earn a living, i.e. the right to exist, is framed as the freedom to submit to the authority of powered-up institutions, and in return being able to meet our emotional and bodily needs by choosing options from menus pre-configured by the institutional landscape.
  7. The option to choose specific members from the elite class to head some of the pyramids of institutionalised social power is framed as democracy.
  8. The option to establish non-democratic powered-up institutions, and to profit from such pyramid schemes at the expense of others is framed as the god of the invisible hand of the market.
  9. The busyness, stress, addictions, energy use, waste, and ecological harm generated by the freedom to submit to authorities and consume from pre-configured menus is framed as economic performance.
  10. The refusal to submit to authorities and consume from pre-configured menus is framed as being uncivilised, underdeveloped, primitive, or illegal.

What could possibly go wrong?

The first element in the stack of ten anthropocentric frames above is the product of the cultural bias of the religion of economics.

The innate collaborative tendencies of human toddlers that have not yet been fully socialised contradict the assumptions baked into homo economics. Replacing homo economicus with what we now understand about the human species radically transforms all the frames for understanding cultural evolution. A frame of collaborative niche construction allows human potential to contribute to rather than extract from the living planet.

A production/consumption paradigm for what an economy is is a guarantee for ultimately destroying the planet and each other. Even when you talk about degrowth, if you’re working within that paradigm, you’re essentially doomed. We need to break away from that paradigm entirely. Care and freedom on the other hand are things you can increase as much as you like without damaging anything. So we need to think: what are ways that we need to care for each other that will make each other more free? And who’re the people who are providing that care? And how can they be compensated themselves with greater freedom? To do that we need to like, actually scrap almost all of the discipline of economics as it currently exists.

We’re actually just starting to think about this. Economics as it currently exists is based on assumptions of human nature that we now know to be wrong. There have been actual empirical tests of the basic sort of fundamental assumptions of the maximizing individual that economic theory is based on, and it turns out that they’re not true. It tells you something about the role of economics that this has had almost no effect on economic teaching whatsoever. They don’t really care that it’s not true.

But one of the things that we have discovered, which is quite interesting, is that human beings have a psychological need to be cared for, but they have an even greater psychological need to care for others, or to care for something. If you don’t have that you basically fall apart. It’s why old people get dogs. We don’t just care for each other because we need to maintain each other’s lives and freedoms, but our own psychological happiness is based on being able to care for something or someone. 

– David Graeber, From Managerial Feudalism to the Revolt of the Caring Classes, 2019

Being alive

Humans have only survived in the face of much stronger top predators in various ecosystems by being able to collaborate, and by using symbolic language to better understand each other’s intentions and to coordinate our actions.

Yes, eventually we displaced the top predators in all ecosystems, and we became the most prolific primate on the planet. But this would have been completely impossible if symbolic language had evolved primarily to allow us to engage in fierce competition with each other, and to deceive each other.

To better communicate how all these topics fit together, I have embarked on another book curation and distillation project. The overarching theme could be described as ‘The psychology of human scale ecologies beyond the human’, but I also want to highlight the key element that holds together all the threads, which has been systematically eroded in Westernised societies: the notion of trust, including the role of trustworthy, sacred relationships within the context of human scale ecologies of care beyond the human, resulting in the working title ‘Trust in Human Scale : Ecologies of care beyond the human’.

The biological evolutionary heritage of our capacity for culture and symbolic thought and language is directly linked to – and dependent – on our ability to fully trust each other in life and death situations.

Generalising to an ecological context beyond the human, Janine Benyus summarises the evolutionary process of life as follows:

In the natural world the definition of success is the continuity of life. You keep yourself alive and you keep your offspring alive. That’s success, but it’s not the offspring in this generation. Success is keeping your offspring alive 10 000 generations and more, and that presents a conundrum, because you cannot, you’re not going to be there.

What life has learned: To take care of your offspring 10 000 generations from now. So what organisms have learned to do is to take care of the place that’s going to take care of their offspring. Life has learned to create conditions conducive to life, and that’s really the magic heart of it.

Life creates conditions conducive to life.

Janine Benyus

The book will build on the foundations laid in the book on the beauty of collaboration at human scale that I collated in 2021, covering the scope outlined in the sections below.

Being part of the living planet

There is no shortage of small human scale initiatives that re-conceptualise human societies in comprehensible, compassionate, and life affirming ways.

The world in reality is a beautifully interconnected world, and it’s interconnected through many many layers. It’s interconnected through consciousness, which is why we are spiritual beings in human form. But the plants outside my window are spiritual beings in plant form. But the plant of the lychee is in lychee form, and the tree of the mango is in mango form. They are just different expressions of one spiritual interconnected consciousness in the world.

I’ve studied quantum theory. We realised that the particles in the world are really not the basic reality. The basic reality is potential and energy, and it’s only when you try and measure it, then it shows up as a particle, or it shows up as a wave, but the reality really is that which connects, the non-separability problem. My PhD thesis was on non-separation, non-locality, and quantum theory. We knew [this] 100 years ago in physics, and yet an obsolete physics of more than 100 years ago is being used to shape and and divide a very interconnected world. So dualism today is not just epistemologically so wrong, it is not just ontologically so wrong, it is spiritually just not the right way to think of the world, but it is now becoming a threat to human life, preventing people from living with each other in diversity with love. And that’s why we have to spread the message of non-dualism, of interconnectedness, of oneness through love, and we have to be the practice...

All cultures had economies but it wasn’t the first organising principle, it was a byproduct of good living… Where did that wealth come from? It was an economy, but it was not an economy of extraction. It was not an economy of domination, it was an economy of living. If you go to the roots of the word economy, economy according to Aristotle is the art of living. Our civilisation has very deep spiritual foundations, and through spirituality you know that the diversity in the world is really different expressions of the same oneness… Let all the beings flourish

Vandana Shiva

Collectively we can tap into a wealth of knowledge and timeless indigenous wisdom.

Having faith in the living planet

Lived experience in nurturing and maintaining mutual trust at human scale is the key ingredient for being at ease in a seemingly unpredictable world. Being able to rely on each other is at the core of the evolutionary heritage of our species.

Mutual trust is a biophilic ecological phenomenon of emergent local predictability that is not limited to humans. In a dynamic ecological context, enduring relationships of mutual trust constitute the ingredients of a life affirming ecology of care that is integrated into the regenerative cyclical flow of life.

Mutual trust is the priceless currency of living systems.

Healing

Healing starts with rediscovering our faith in humanity. The sacred cycle of life includes the joy of birth, the art of living well, and the process of dying in good company, and thereby giving back nutrients to the living planet.

The neurodiversity, disability, and indigenous rights movements are part of the cultural immune system of human societies, responding to the mechanistic, hypercompetitive, and rule based approach to social arrangements imposed by the learning disabled mono-cult with a holistic social justice approach.

We heal by following our heart. We reduce cognitive dissonance by being human – by sobering up, by rejecting the life denying mono-cult, by seeing the beauty in all living beings.

Along the way, instead of abusing the discipline of mathematics to shut people up, and to calculate ever more perverse ways of out-competing each other, we can rediscover and revive the much older framing of mathematics as the beautiful art of explanation, within a collaborative frame of omni-directional learning. Below is a good example, also highlighting the inherently collaborative nature of mathematical discovery.

Whether A♾tistic dreamers are able to establish alternative ecologies of care beyond the human is no longer up for debate. We have nothing to lose. We deeply appreciate the wonder of life, and we clearly see the global mono-cult for what it is. 

We are A♾tistic. We are fully human. We are alive.

Further reading on WEIRD cultural bias

  1. Sowing the seeds for ecological and intersectional communal wellbeing
  2. Autistic people are not for sale
  3. The massive cognitive and emotional blind spot at the core of modernity
  4. Understanding power and de-powering
  5. Coherent theories of human ways of being
  6. From pseudo-philosophical psychiatrists to openly Autistic culture
  7. Collaborative niche construction
  8. The continuously shifting justifications for pathologising non-conformists
  9. Include all Conversion Therapies in Legislative Ban
  10. The purpose of human cultures
  11. Reclaiming the essence of humanity
  12. Replacing control with ecologies of care
  13. Autistic people – The cultural immune system of human societies
  14. Active disablement of minorities

The massive cognitive and emotional blind spot at the core of modernity

In our modern world the notion of tribalism is associated with many negative connotations, and especially with tribal bias, which is assumed to be an undesirable trait. A closer analysis reveals that the modern bias against tribalism is the result of conveniently sloppy research and a collective cognitive and emotional blind spot related to the collaborative potential of networked egalitarian human scale cultural organisms.

The trouble with tribalism

The article Tribalism is Human Nature (2019) in the journal Current Directions in Psychological Science illustrates the perspective from which the Western discipline of psychology engages with tribalism:

Although tribal loyalties inspire many noble behaviors, they can impel humans to sacrifice sound reasoning and judgmental accuracy for group belonging and commitment. In other words, tribal loyalties can lead to tribal biases…

If beliefs are held fervently, compel strong emotional displays, or are costly to hold, they might function as honest (and thus trustworthy) loyalty signals. Perhaps perversely, dogmatism and resilience to contrary evidence likely enhance the persuasiveness of the signal, because they show that one is strongly dedicated to the group’s ideology in spite of potential consequences (e.g., being wrong about a difficult to answer question)…

Sincere beliefs generally lead to better and more zealous arguments than cynical hypocrisy. Therefore, people are motivated to favor and believe information that promotes their group’s interests and to resist information that opposes their group’s interests because it makes them more persuasive proponents of their group’s cause…

Humans are tribal creatures. They were not designed to reason dispassionately about the world; rather, they were designed to reason in ways that promote the interests of their coalition (and hence, themselves). It would therefore be surprising if a particular group of individuals did not display such tendencies, and recent work suggests, at least in the U.S. political sphere, that both liberals and conservatives are substantially biased—and to similar degrees. Historically, and perhaps even in modern society, these tribal biases are quite useful for group cohesion but perhaps also for other moral purposes (e.g., liberal bias in favor of disadvantaged groups might help increase equality). Also, it is worth noting that a bias toward viewing one’s own tribe in a favorable light is not necessarily irrational. If one’s goal is to be admired among one’s own tribe, fervidly supporting their agenda and promoting their goals, even if that means having or promoting erroneous beliefs, is often a reasonable strategy…

We conclude that tribal bias is a natural and nearly ineradicable feature of human cognition, and that no group—not even one’s own—is immune.

Refreshingly, at least the conclusion is broadly compatible with anthropological evidence, and the article does acknowledge several beneficial aspects of tribalism. The introductory sentences of the article however point towards a cultural bias in the premise underlying the researchers’ understanding of human evolution:

Humans evolved in the context of intense intergroup competition, and groups comprised of loyal members more often succeeded than those that were not. Therefore, selective pressures have consistently sculpted human minds to be “tribal,” and group loyalty and concomitant cognitive biases likely exist in all groups. Modern politics is one of the most salient forms of modern coalitional conflict and elicits substantial cognitive biases.

The highlighted assumption is a product of the internalised ableism commonly found in the science of biology. Only culturally well adjusted people in hierarchically structured empires understand the entire living world as inherently and primarily competitive, and have trouble imagining genuinely collaborative relationships between groups.

Around the margins of empires, we find no shortage of examples of egalitarian collaborative cultural environments, even though in our current time, the majority of humans do find themselves trapped in a social landscape of powered-up institutions.

Egalitarian collaborative groups operate highly effective conflict resolution strategies that prevent conflicts from escalating rather than on a naive denial of conflict.

Furthermore, the outlined reasoning about the ways in which beliefs within and between tribes play out lacks depth and nuance, by completely ignoring the role of human diversity within tribes and by glossing over the distinct ways in which different categories of beliefs shape human cultures. For example, persuasion by others is not necessarily the main source of beliefs.

The negative connotations of tribalism only materialise when tribes expand beyond human scale, or when tribes that have not developed a culture that nurtures egalitarian relationships between groups run into each other in resource constrained environments.

Humanity can no longer afford tribal warfare at any scale. This insight is not new. There is no shortage of counter examples.

Cultures that genuinely appreciate human diversity are well equipped to adapt to changing conditions, by establishing collaborative, egalitarian relationships between groups – with neurodivergent non-conformists from various groups establishing and maintaining the unconventional connections that catalyse the dialogue between groups.

In other words, tribes that don’t dehumanise non-conformists are well equipped to benefit from the cultural exchanges within the inter-tribe networks of non-conformists. This is consistent with what we know about the diversity of human evolutionary history, but this knowledge is only very rarely acknowledged in modern hyper-normative societies that are powered-up by super-human scale corporations and nation states.

The cognitive and emotional blind spot

More than 250 years of life in industrialised societies that no longer offer visceral experiences of being an integral part of a human scale cultural organism that operates an ecology of care has created a big cognitive and emotional blind spot:

  1. Abstract group identities (such as brands, nation states, etc.) dominate the social landscape.
  2. Relational group identities are limited to tiny “atomised” nuclear families, which are far too small to serve as viable survival units.

The analogy of the development of a cataract is a good metaphor – modernity makes us blind to our humanity and to the wonder of the big cycle of life.

Experience with human scale cultural organisms is now limited to small pockets of indigenous communities and to those who have (re)discovered the art of collaborative niche construction in egalitarian human scale worker co-ops.

In the Venn diagram of the acceptable cultures within the Overton window of the global mono-cult, indigenous, Autistic and other neurodivergent people are the complement set – they all reside on the slippery slope that runs all the way from “undesirable” to “non-human”, with “unacceptable” in the middle.

Implications

The implications are obvious to all those who live outside the hypernormative Overton window:

  1. Lack of experience with de-powered dialogue and deliberation in Open Space – the assumption that power dynamics are at work in all social interactions, leading to feelings of social isolation.
  2. Diffusion of toxic power dynamics into nuclear family relationships, leading to a lack of experience with nurturing and maintaining trustworthy relationships, amplifying feelings of social isolation.
  3. Experiencing human relationships to be even less reliable and trustworthy than the anonymous interactions with corporations and national governments – many people entrust Google with more information than their life partners.
  4. Ubiquitous real and perceived social power dynamics, prompting an obsessive focus on the WEIRD independence of the individual “self” – to some extent even pathologising healthy levels of mutual aid and interdependence at human scale.
  5. A hypernormative culture dominated by abstract institutions rather than by relational ecologies of care, resulting in a complete lack of experience with egalitarian relationships between human scale groups, hence all the negative stereotypes associated with tribalism.
  6. A feeling of paralysis and hopelessness, feeding the growth of the cognitive and emotional blind spot – modernity makes us blind to our humanity and to the wonder of the big cycle of life.
  7. Proliferation of addictive behaviours, to compensate for unmet emotional needs, which are as essential for our wellbeing as our needs for nutritious food and clean air.

A current small scale example from the Civil Aviation Authority in Aotearoa New Zealand illustrates how these implications impact many workplace cultures. The top comment on this report hits at the larger cultural problems, which are in fact not limited to this country:

This is not unique to CAA, most government agencies/departments have poor management and force good people out. It appears to be a New Zealand issue: 
Ministry of Justice 
Ministry of health 
Ministry of Primary Industries
Department of Corrections
Auckland councils
just to name a few.
And people are quitting in waves even at a time when jobs as hard to come by.
I see it everyday and deal with it myself
.

Toxic workplace cultures are common throughout the global mono-cult. They represent the visible tip of a toxic culture that runs through all aspects of modern life.

It is no accident that books such as ‘The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture‘ by Gabor Maté are popular.

Mutual aid and compassion in the here and now

AutCollab participatory research into cognitive dissonance shows that many Autistic and otherwise neurodivergent people are “experts” at beating themselves up for making mistakes or for repeatedly being taken advantage of by those who have less scruples in playing the “normal” competitive game of homo economicus, which prioritises “successful” perception management over honesty and integrity.

Once we understand the full effects of the toxic institutional landscape on all participants, and combine it with timeless Daoist wisdom, we are well advised to assume that everyone is doing their best based on their unique history and sensitivity profile, which includes the priorities of the values that they live by.

In a competitive environment the priorities of the values that culturally “well adjusted” people live by usually differs from what they openly disclose. We can accept this source of cognitive dissonance as a fact, without blaming the individuals, and without assuming that everyone plays the “normal” competitive game, so that we retain the ability to extend trust to others.

This approach allows mutual aid to flourish in the cracks of the global mono-cult. I adopted the approach of not blaming individuals many years ago. This has kept me going over the decades, even during the dark times. It enabled me to repeatedly re-engineer my environment to what I was learning about myself and my environment. It does not make life painless, but

  • not beating ourselves up,
  • and at the same time extending compassion to people who are products of a toxic system,
  • without engaging in futile debates with those who are not ready to learn,

saves a lot of energy. This is energy we urgently need to move beyond survival mode, to re-engineer our environment, and to make the big changes that genuinely reduce cognitive dissonance and heal the living planet.

By design, competitive cultures and especially digital social media trap us in futile debates and exploit our frustrations. Minimising exposure is essential for human wellbeing, in exactly the same way that wearing masks in public indoor spaces is essential for minimising the risks of catching COVID and other airborne diseases in this era of global pandemics.

This podcast by Rangan Chatterjee points people in the right direction, but as so many pieces of self-help advice for persisting in survival mode within the established institutional landscape, it stays clear of addressing the wider social issues. I always come back to W Edwards Deming’s brilliant synopsis of “collaboration” in a competitive social context:

“Pay for merit, pay for what you get, reward performance. Sounds great, can’t be done. Unfortunately it can not be done, on short range. After 10 years perhaps, 20 years, yes. The effect is devastating. People must have something to show, something to count. In other words, the merit system nourishes short-term performance. It annihilates long-term planning. It annihilates teamwork. People can not work together. To get promotion you’ve got to get ahead. By working with a team, you help other people. You may help yourself equally, but you don’t get ahead by being equal, you get ahead by being ahead. Produce something more, have more to show, more to count. Teamwork means work together, hear everybody’s ideas, fill in for other people’s weaknesses, acknowledge their strengths. Work together. This is impossible under the merit rating / review of performance system. People are afraid. They are in fear. They work in fear. They can not contribute to the company as they would wish to contribute. This holds at all levels. But there is something worse than all of that. When the annual ratings are given out, people are bitter. They can not understand why they are not rated high. And there is a good reason not to understand. Because I could show you with a bit of time that it is purely a lottery.

– W Edwards Deming (1984)

I know that I can only keep cognitive dissonance down to survivable levels if I am embedded in a small trustworthy ecology of care that rejects the cult of homo economicus and that is committed to collaborative niche construction.

De-powering

Incrementally (re)learning how to nurture trustworthy relationships is a process takes time. There is no secret sauce that can accelerate the process of nurturing mutual trust one relationship at a time.

Watch out for snake oil vendors in the fast-paced world of easy 10-step programmes and other silver bullets. Attempts of establishing a thriving cultural organism can easily fall short of expectations due to a lack of experience with deep trust, which acts as a catalyst for organic growth up to human scale.

The process of on-boarding newcomers into a human scale cultural organism gets easier once three or more people have formed a core circle of deep mutual trust, for example by jointly operating a worker co-op over several years.

We can all contribute towards a global knowledge commons about experiences with egalitarian relationships between human scale groups – this is the path towards culturally adaptive strategies that strengthen communal and ecological wellbeing, building on available experiences within indigenous societies, worker co-ops, chosen extended families, etc.

Collectively we can tap into a wealth of knowledge and timeless indigenous wisdom.

We need commitment, we need community. We need to create spaces of trust. But for that, there’s tremendous work that we need to be doing. But I don’t think that any of that work will be possible, should we not have that commitment–that commitment that no matter how challenging and tremendously difficult it will be to reckon with these narratives and to dismantle these narratives. Because seeing the horror in the eye of all these narratives that we live by comes with tremendous understanding. It will leave us very fragile, very vulnerable, and most, of course, are not willing to do that, because we don’t feel safe. But if we are able to stand the heat and create these spaces, if we commit to do this kind of work for the benefit of the planet, then we may be able to learn that we can fly.

– Yuria Celidwen

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Sowing the seeds for ecological and intersectional communal wellbeing

Many scientists don’t acknowledge the extent to which their disciplinary paradigms are influenced by the cultural frames of the colonial era. The so-called mental health crisis is a symptom of a terminally diseased institutional landscape. Neurodiversity and disability activists have been collaborating on coherent theories of human ways of being. Collaborative niche construction is the evolutionary process of reducing cognitive dissonance.

Completely normal ways of feeling unwell and distressed

The many ways in which atomised nuclear families depend on abstract institutions is considered normal, and all those who depend on assistance from others in unusual ways are pathologised.

The following interview with Eva Henje conducted by our friends at Local Futures outlines the alienating and dehumanising social experiences created by the global mono-cult that defines the institutional landscape that surrounds us:

Social power can be understood as the privilege of not needing to learn.

As we live through the current human predicament we are well advised to understand capitalism as a collective learning disability that actively contributes to human and non-human suffering. Michael Guilding offers a coherent and comprehensive explanation of how modern society and all earlier powered-up empires are based on the systematic hijacking of the evolved human fear response.

Michael Guilding’s explanation also reminds me of what a capitalist/investor once explained to me as “normal” or “human nature”, i.e. that people are driven exclusively by two forces: fear and greed. I suspect that this sad attitude is quite common amongst those who have navigated themselves into positions of social power within the mono-cult.

Traumatised populations driven by fear and greed are the culmination of the industrial factory model of society. This is a world of programmable “human biological machines” – the ultimate negation of the wonder of life.

Internalised ableism in the science of biology

The normalisation of internalised ableism runs deep.

Even well known biologists perpetuate the unhelpful industrialised metaphor of “human biological machines”, confusing first-order effects (the innate human inclination towards mutual aid and collaborative niche construction) with second-order effects (culturally transmitted “normalisation” of social power gradients), which are only present in dehumanising societies that are deeply troubled and sick.

In species with complex cultures, including whales, elephants, and humans, the naive distinction between two evolutionary survival strategies summarised below highlights the limitations of the paradigm used by some biologists and ecologists:

r-selection: On one extreme are the species that are highly r-selected. r is for reproduction. Such a species puts only a small investment of resources into each offspring, but produces many such low effort babies. Such species are also generally not very invested in protecting or rearing these young. Often, the eggs are fertilized and then dispersed. The benefit of this strategy is that if resources are limited or unpredictable, you can still produce some young. However, each of these young has a high probability of mortality, and does not benefit from the protection or nurturing of a caring parent or parents. r-selected babies grow rapidly, and tend to be found in less competitive, low quality environments. Although not always the case, r-selection is more common among smaller animals with shorter lifespans and, frequently, non-overlapping generations, such as fish or insects. The young tend to be precocial (rapidly maturing) and develop early independence.

K-selection: On the other extreme are species that are highly K-selected. K refers to the carrying capacity, and means that the babies are entering a competitive world, in a population at or near its carrying capacity. K-selected reproductive strategies tend towards heavy investment in each offspring, are more common in long-lived organisms, with a longer period of maturation to adulthood, heavy parental care and nurturing, often a period of teaching the young, and with fierce protection of the babies by the parents. K-selected species produce offspring that each have a higher probability of survival to maturity. Although not always the case, K-selection is more common in larger animals, like whales or elephants, with longer lifespans and overlapping generations. The young tend to be altricial (immature, requiring extensive care).

It is fascinating that the above definition refers to whales and elephants as examples of ‘K-selection’ without mentioning that these two species, not unlike humans, have an advanced capacity for culture, including the capacity for transmitting cultural norms across generations. The assertion that in such species “babies are entering a competitive world” is a projection of Western Educated Industrialised Rich Democratic (WEIRD) cultural bias onto other species. To date no one has been able to ask whales or elephants about whether they experience the world as competitive or collaborative, and even much less so to receive an answer to this question!

Only culturally well adjusted people in hierarchically structured empires understand the entire living world as inherently and primarily competitive.

Around the margins of empires, we find no shortage of examples of egalitarian collaborative cultural environments, even though in our current time, the majority of humans do find themselves trapped in a social landscape of powered-up institutions.

Many scientists don’t acknowledge the extent to which their disciplinary paradigms are influenced by the cultural frames of the colonial era. The so-called mental health crisis is a symptom of a terminally diseased institutional landscape. Vandana Shiva correctly identifies capitalist patriarchy as the cultural disease that is framing the entire living world as inherently and primarily competitive.

Reframing life in terms of collaborative niche construction

In order to appreciate the significant role that culture can play as part of evolutionary processes of gene-culture co-evolution, and to arrive at a deeper understanding of evolutionary processes, we must replace the misguided notion of K-selection.

At the very least, a less culturally biased and more nuanced understanding needs to distinguish between:

c-selection: On the one extreme are species with a capacity for culture that are highly c-selected. c is for compliance. Such a species puts only a small if any investment of resources into the development of new cultural knowledge and wisdom, and instead prioritises the production of adults that are well adjusted to the established culture. Such species are generally not very invested in protecting or rearing babies that do not seem to fit into the established cultural milieu. Often, the young are indoctrinated and expected to fend for themselves within a framework of abstract cultural institutions. The benefit of this strategy is that the emotional load of caregivers is significantly reduced, and everyone is encouraged to still produce some young, even if ecological conditions are deteriorating. However, each of these young has a high probability of mental unwellness and mortality, and does not benefit from the protection or nurturing of a caring parent or parents. Offspring in c-selected cultural species grow into replaceable, culturally well adjusted members of society, and tend to be found in ecologically degraded environments. Although not always the case, c-selection is more common in large scale societies, such as modern industrialised societies. The young are expected to become fully independent individual members of society.

C-selection: On the other extreme are species with a capacity for culture that are highly C-selected. C refers to Culturally adaptive, and means that the babies are entering a culturally diverse world, in a population at or near its local carrying capacity. C-selected reproductive strategies tend towards heavy investment in very few offspring, and tend welcome the discovery of new cultural knowledge and wisdom. Such species are generally invested in protecting or rearing all babies, even those that do not seem to fit into the established cultural milieu. C-selected cultural species encourage offspring to learn from the established cultural milieu, but even more so, from the ecological environment, and as a result have a higher probability of survival to maturity in times of rapid ecological changes. Although not always the case, C-selection is more common in small scale societies, like whales or human hunter gatherers. The curiosity of the young is nurtured in a diverse relational ecology of care, and the young are encouraged to engage in collaborative niche construction.

A framing of evolutionary processes that includes r-selection, c-selection, as well as C-selection strategies offers a more coherent explanation for the observed diversity within and between cultural species. The proposed ‘rcC-selection paradigm’ for evolutionary processes also encourages biological scientists to acknowledge that a purely biological and genetic categorisation of species demotes all the social sciences and all so-called non-scientific ways of relating to the world to being less “significant” for understanding the living world.

The naive ‘rK-selection paradigm’ obscures a [hypernormative] cultural bias against biological diversity, and especially against human cultural diversity. In the talk referenced above, Vandana Shiva reaches the same conclusion. She points out that the life denying ideology of capitalist patriarchy can be traced back to Francis Bacon, the father of Western science, to the British men who formed the East India Company, and to Adam Smith and Thomas Malthus, and that this shaped the cultural milieu in which Charles Darwin grew up.

In species with a capacity for complex culture, ecologically stable environments with abundant sources of food can incrementally tip the balance towards c-selection over the course of multiple generations. But this strategy only works as long as the environment remains stable. c-selection can fail rapidly and abruptly if the environment becomes less predictable. Conversely, highly dynamic and unpredictable environments are favourable to C-selection strategies.

The human capacity for language and cultural transmission over many generations, together with what we know from archaeological and anthropological research, as well as from more recent written historic accounts, tells us that human societies exist on a spectrum of C-selection and c-selection strategies.

C-selection strategies, i.e. adaptive cultures, have allowed humans to survive through ice ages, and may be the key factor that has assisted humans in displacing other primates in most bioregional ecosystems. Conversely, the ability to adopt c-selection strategies, i.e. hypernormative cultures, have enabled humans to build empires and large scale societies in which human cognitive capacity is diverted away from communal survival, and towards exploitation of abundant resources and social competition.

The rich diversity of small scale cultures, including the visual symbolic representations and cultural values that survived and thrived in the Australian continent for 65,000 years, points us towards the collective creative human potential and towards the deep ecological understanding that has been systematically obliterated and suppressed by capitalist patriarchy.

The big cycle of life

In a dynamic ecological context, enduring relationships of mutual trust are not only more stable than abstract indicators of social status, they also constitute the ingredients of a life affirming ecology of care that is integrated into the regenerative cyclical flow of life.

Mutual trust is the priceless currency of living systems.

The sacred cycle of life includes the joy of birth, the art of living well, and the process of dying and nurturing the living planet in good company.

In contrast to the global mono-cult of capitalist patriarchy, this timeless wisdom is well understood within the Hindu, Buddhist, and Daoist philosophical and spiritual traditions. Hindu cosmology for example conceptualises the entire cosmos and all of human history terms of cyclic ages, i.e. in terms of four ‘Yuga Cycles’, which is in stark contrast to the anthropocentric WEIRD conception of human history as a linear arc of progress, perhaps punctuated by a few setbacks along the way, to accentuate the framing of life as a competitive struggle.

The framing of life in terms of collaborative niche construction is much more compatible with Eastern traditions,

with Joseph Tainter’s pioneering analysis of patterns of civilisational collapse, and with indigenous cultures, which all understand the planet as a regenerative system of relationships between living entities.

All cultural species that maintain dominance hierarchies and abstract forms of social status are diverting energy from the regenerative cyclical flow of life towards head-to-head in-group competition and the suppression of diversity.

The dying process of terminally diseased institutions is only a perceived disaster from the viewpoint of elites who are addicted to social power, and from the viewpoint of the abstract institutions that represent these elites.

Omni-directional sensing and learning

“Collapse” of spurious cultural complexity is a liberating experience for most.

Over the course of the last 25 years, as part of a concerted effort of exposing the internalised ableism that is keeping entire societies locked into suicidal paradigmatic inertia, neurodiversity and disability activists have been collaborating on coherent theories of human ways of being. Cultures in which it is a taboo to draw attention to culturally prescribed cognitive dissonance are life denying cultures. Deeply troubled cultures.

Most people in Westernised cultures are not driven by greed, but the toxic cultural environment ensures that the vast majority is driven by fear. Those who find the courage to acknowledge their fears are tortured by cognitive dissonance.

Lived experiences from our participatory research:

What is the biggest source of cognitive dissonance in your life?

I feel like I don’t deserve to be treated in the way in which I’d treat other people. I often help strangers but would feel distressed if one offered to help me (and would politely turn down the offer of help, most likely). I would be unable to fire someone due to economic reasons, but if I was fired for those same reasons, I’d accept it and would feel sad and scared, but that it’s okay for me to be treated that way. Even when I do help people, I worry that I do it for the “wrong” reasons, so I didn’t know how to answer some questions. For example, I give money to homeless people and chat with them. I “feel really good” about this because I know that the money means they might be able to afford something they need, and that being spoken to is likely at least a bit humanising in a world which dehumanises them. Despite this, when I give money and chat to homeless people, I beat myself up after and tell myself that I’m only doing it because I’m virtue signalling or want to feel good about myself, even if I know deep down I do it because I want to be helpful and want people to be safe and feel cared for. Even if I did do it to feel good about myself, then at least that person would have some money they probably need. It’s hard to remember that, though. Even writing this is uncomfortable, as my negative self talk says that I’m only writing it to parade how “good” I think I am.

Wealth inequality and class differences that have no logical justification, having to accept that poor people suffering is normal even when it’s entirely avoidable.

Society expects that I should be able to ask for help whenever things get a little difficult but asking for help leaves me feeling very very unsafe and likely to be betrayed and have my request used against me as a weakness.

In healthy cultures our capacity to detect cognitive dissonance catalyses collaborative niche construction, and contributes to the co-creation of ecologies of care.

Collaborative niche construction is the evolutionary process of reducing cognitive dissonance, a process of omni-directional sensing and learning, which can only emerge in an adequately de-powered, non-overwhelming, and life affirming, i.e. holotropic and syntropic environment.

In recent years I have become increasingly intrigued by ai (shorthand for ant intelligence) as opposed to the hype of AI. ai is an awesome form of externalised collective intelligence beyond human comprehension. Some ant species can leave pheromone trails that can last for days – which I can confirm from personal experience, while others produce a pheromone trail that only lasts 10 minutes. Unintentional experiments from my kitchen reveal that once an ant has located a food source, that it only takes a few hours for a fully functional ai food logistics system to become established. On this planet ai goes a long way to ensuring that no food goes to waste. We could learn from that.

It is worthwhile listening to Bayo Akomolafe. I think he seriously underestimates ai, but he does a wonderful job of making Autistic ways of being and relating accessible to a neuronormative audience.

Taking stock

This year (2024), August 1st was Earth Overshoot Day, announced by the Global Footprint Network.

This is the date when humanity’s demand on natural resources exceeds Earth’s capacity to regenerate them in a given year. We are currently using nature 1.7 times faster than our planet’s ecosystems can regenerate. The Ecological Footprint Calculator is a useful tool for exploring our own ecological footprint and the huge disparities between the huge footprints of elites and the vastly smaller footprints of the majority of humans.

Daoist philosophers have warned humans for over 2,500 years that all forms of social power over others corrupts. Ignoring this warning has led to the current human predicament.

Rather than playing around with yet another “better” configuration of powered-up institutions, perhaps we are better served by practicing de-powered dialogue, and by learning how to de-power all our relationships – without asking any so-called authority for permission. The revolution will not be nudged!

Towards ecological wellbeing

Becoming conscious of human cognitive and emotional limits, and recognising that these limits are just as real, immutable, and relevant for our survival as the laws of physics may help us to fully appreciate the wonder of life.

Creating light, where all you could see is darkness.

– Sofía Gómez Uribe

There is no shortage of human scale initiatives that re-conceptualise human societies in comprehensible, compassionate, and life affirming ways. Collectively we can tap into a wealth of knowledge and timeless indigenous wisdom.

We need commitment, we need community. We need to create spaces of trust. But for that, there’s tremendous work that we need to be doing. But I don’t think that any of that work will be possible, should we not have that commitment–that commitment that no matter how challenging and tremendously difficult it will be to reckon with these narratives and to dismantle these narratives. Because seeing the horror in the eye of all these narratives that we live by comes with tremendous understanding. It will leave us very fragile, very vulnerable, and most, of course, are not willing to do that, because we don’t feel safe. But if we are able to stand the heat and create these spaces, if we commit to do this kind of work for the benefit of the planet, then we may be able to learn that we can fly.

– Yuria Celidwen

… and you can only do it with the help of friends who keep you safe. I don’t have a death wish, I have a depth wish.

– Stig Pryds

We are currently co-creating a comprehensive support model for Autists and otherwise neurodivergent and intersectionally marginalised people that is grounded in our collective lived experience, informed by what we are learning from the results of our ongoing participatory research