
There is a co-evolved natural pace to the flow of life at each of the different scales within the kingdoms of life. We currently live in a social world of magical thinking shaped by the cult of technological progress. The journey towards a healthier relationship with the ecosystems which we are part of starts with the introduction of new language and semantics. Co-creating ecologies of care beyond the human allows us to experience beauty in a world that is completely out of control.
Life
“Exalt not men, so that the people may not fight.
Prize not rare objects, so that the people may not steal.
Look not on desirable things, so that the people’s hearts be not troubled.
That is why the self-controlled man governs by stilling the emotions,
by quieting thought, by mastering the will, by increasing strength.
He always teaches the people to know the Inner Life, to desire the Inner Life.
He teaches the Masters of knowledge to cease from activity,
to act through activity of the Inner Life; then Inner Life will govern all.”
Laozi, Translated by Isabella Mears, 1916, Chapter 3
“Heavenly Love is like water.
Water blesses all things,
It does not hurt them.
It loves the lowly place that men dislike,
Therefore it comes very near to Tao.
The Master loves to dwell upon the earth.
In his heart he loves Infinity,
In his benevolence he loves giving,
In his words he loves sincerity,
In his government he loves peace,
In his business affairs he loves ability,
In his movements he loves punctuality.
The Master, indeed, does not fight,
Therefore his Inner Life increases.”
Laozi, Translated by Isabella Mears, 1916, Chapter 8
“To quiet down the heart to stay at a constant stillness,
To settle down the heart to remain in infinite emptiness,
All the myriad things are involved in constant motion, but I just gaze
into emptiness to unintentionally wait for the coming of the Mysterious Pass.
Yes, though all things flourish with myriad variations,
each one will eventually return to the very root of birth and death.
To return to the root needs constant stillness.
Only by staying in constant stillness can Congenital Nature be recovered.
To fully recover Congenital Nature is called ‘Chang.’
To know Chang is called enlightenment.
To no know Chang and to act blindly will result in disaster.
Only knowing Change, can one tolerate all;
Only tolerating all, can one be impartial.
By being impartial, can one be all-accomodating;
By being all-accommodating, one can equal Heaven;
By equaling Heaven, one can accomplish Tao, which lasts without death.
Only by accomplishing Tao, can one be rid of death and birth,
lasting eternally without any danger.”
Laozi, Translated by Hu Xuezhi, 2005, Chapter 16
“From great antiquity forth they have known and possessed it.
Those of the next level loved and praised it.
The next were in awe of it.
And the next despised it.
If you lack sincerity no one will believe you.
How careful she is with her precious words!
When her work is complete and her job is finished,
Everybody says: “We did it!””
Laozi, Translated by Charles Muller, 1891, Chapter 17
Language
The journey towards a healthier relationship with the ecosystems which we are part of starts with the most powerful tool at our disposal, the introduction and consistent use of new language and new semantics. We are curating timeless concepts for nurturing and describing ecologies of care.

| New language | Old language | Motivation for change |
|---|---|---|
| care | Co-create ecologies of care instead of economies of commodified goods and services – to create environments that are conducive to life | |
| catalyst | Grow competency networks and catalysts rather than leadership and leaders – to get things done and distribute decision making to where the knowledge resides | |
| competency network | Grow competency networks and catalysts rather than leadership and leaders – to get things done and distribute decision making to where the knowledge resides | |
| coordination | Coordinate rather than manage – to address all the cognitive load that can increasingly be automated and to avoid the perpetuation of social power gradients | |
| courage | Replace fear with courage – to explore new paths when old roads are crumbling | |
| creative collaboration | Provide a space for creative collaboration and divergent thinking rather than insist on best practices – to be able to adapt to rapid environmental change | |
| currency | Value the currency of knowledge and transparency of information rather than the liquidity of money and the protection of national interests – to be able to think and act outside the paradigm of industrialised imperialism | |
| ecologies | Co-create ecologies of care instead of economies of commodified goods and services – to create environments that are conducive to life | |
| gifts | Offer your gifts to the world instead of charging rent for economic utility – to make the seemingly impossible possible | |
| good company | Co-create good company rather than business – to focus on the people and things we care about rather than what is simply keeping us busy | |
| human scale | Appreciate human scale and individual agency rather than large scale and growth – to create structures and systems that are understandable and relatable | |
| individual agency | Appreciate human scale and individual agency rather than large scale and growth – to create structures and systems that are understandable and relatable | |
| learning | Learning about each other instead of assuming and perpetuating a fictional notion of normality – to increase shared understanding | |
| niche construction | Niche construction and symbiosis rather than competition and exploitation – to create organisations and services that are fit for purpose and valued by the wider community | |
| open source community | Create open source communities instead of walled gardens of intellectual property rights – to create a global knowledge commons and to maximise collective intelligence | |
| physical waste | Pay attention to physical waste rather than wealth – to focus us on the metrics that do matter | |
| repair | Help repair frayed relationships instead of profiting from the misery of others – to counteract the escalation of conflicts | |
| symbiosis | Niche constructionand symbiosis rather than competition and exploitation – to create organisations and services that are fit for purpose and valued by the wider community | |
| tacit knowledge | Share valuable tacit knowledge in good company instead of hoarding information and perpetuating the myth of meritocracy – to raise collective intelligence. | |
| transparency | Value the currency of knowledge and transparency of information rather than the liquidity of money and the protection of national interests – to be able to think and act outside the paradigm of industrialised imperialism | |
| trust | Visibly extending trust to people instead of drafting weaponised contracts – to release the handbrake to collaboration | |
| trusted relationships | Nurture trusted relationships instead of engaging in anonymous transactions – to minimise rather than encourage the creation of externalities | |
| values | Think in terms of values rather than value – to avoid continuously discounting what is priceless |
Our destination is beyond human comprehension, but ways of life that are in tune with our biological needs and cognitive limits are always within reach, even when we find ourselves in a self-created life destroying environment. All it takes is a shift in perspective, and corresponding shifts in the aspects of our lives that we value.
The delusion of control
“When people try to improve upon, and thus deviate from, the way Nature itself naturally functions,
they develop artificial codes of right and wrong.
When knowledge becomes highly abstract, men are deceived by mistaking abstractions for realities.
When instinctive family sympathies are replaced by rules for proper conduct then parents
become “responsible” and children become “dutiful”.
When corruption replaces genuine benevolence in government,
then loyalty oaths are demanded of officials.”
Laozi, Translated by Archie J. Bahm, 1958, Chapter 18
The delusion of anthropocentric control becomes obvious when considering the destablilising geopolitical role of the US government and the MAD logic that is at work to perpetuate the perception that everything is “under control”. If anything the ability to interfere with the lives of millions of people and the ability to nuke the planet can be understood as desperate acts of attempting to project an image of being in control. The $ Assured Destructive ($AD) logic of capital is just as MAD, and no less deadly over the lifespan of the next generation. However $AD logic remains hidden under a veil of obfuscation by the religion of economics and the cult of technological “progress”.
Last week I listened to an interview with actuary Sandy Truston about a recent risk assessment of planetary health. Sandy Trust does a good job at explaining a bias in the education of scientists – the reluctance to actively engage with uncertainty, to publish and write extensively about unknowns and unknowables, and to think hard about the potential implications of these limits, rather than staying within the comfort zone of confidence intervals and statistical “significance”.
Rather than face into reality,
deny, delay, distract, obfuscate,
absurd, of course, bizarre, even…
Not to avoid, not to prepare, not to change course.
Perhaps it has always been too much,
to expect this shift of consciousness,
to expect wisdom from the sapiens.
A civilization built on energy and materials,
and shared stories of collaboration,
just needed to heed the science,
to harvest energy from a different source,
to harness that ingenuity and adaptation,
all the busy endeavor, and drive,
to change the great systems of humanity,
food, education, finance, economy, transport, energy.
To change the beliefs of the humans,
those oh so carefully and expensively curated beliefs,
before they change the great systems of the planet.
That great miracle, the anti-entropic planet, Gaia,
the world system, billions of years of life,
gathering energy and creating order,
building organisms, ecosystems,
biomes, species, metabolisms,
life insanely complex,
delicate and delicious in its beauty.
A gift a bounty a resource to be exploited, conquered even,
for planes, holidays, Netflix,
celebrities and mangoes in December.
This is success, wealth, life, billions of years for this.
Things, stuff, distractions, ease, gossip, social media,
forget the yawning precipice of climate change,
Catching all the fish and replacing them with plastic,
forget the obesity, loneliness, sadness, and suicide,
the migrants, and the cities running out of water,
forget space junk and the sixth great extinction,
who needs the amazon when you have amazon.
Forget all this and more,
because well, because the economy, silly.
Forget the economy needs a society,
until AI trades bitcoins for the robots.
Society needs somewhere to live,
and food, air, water, shelter, community, meaning.
We saw a way at the branch we’re sitting on,
ignoring warnings it could bend or break.
It hasn’t yet.
Stop your wolf-crying antics.
Why can’t you be happy for the progress?
Look at all the people, the wealth, the technology.
Why can’t you see the future distress?
Heat, fire, flood, food and water shortages, the mess.
Quiet!
The football is on, and the celebrities are dancing.
Rather that than face reality.
Sandy Trust
The difference in the bias of working with statistics can perhaps be illustrated using Swiss cheese as a metaphor. Scientists focus on describing the substance of the cheese, pointing out the existence of holes, and perhaps speculating about the content of a particular hole within their discipline. A prudent actuary focuses on the holes, not only counting and measuring them, but also looking into how they are related and positioned, to understand the extent to which the integrity of the cheese may be compromised by the holes, all from a risk management perspective, i.e. exploring possible avenues to maximise the chances of ending up safe rather than sorry. I refer to this approach as the scale aware precautionary principle.
It is well understood that big industrial risks can’t really be quantified due to our limited insight into all the potential factors. Therefore, at the level of reinsurance, it is common practice to rely on the more predictable earnings from insuring small risks (individual households, health etc.) to subsidise the insurance of big high impact industrial risks. Average citizens always pay the ultimate costs when disaster strikes. Your premiums for next year pay for the industrial scale losses from last year. Once insurers are dealing with genuinely existential risks, this logic no longer pans out … The $AD risks are now such that it is now becoming next to impossible to make profits without insurance premiums exploding, making insurance unaffordable even for those with significant money.
We currently live in a social world of magical thinking in all layers of the cultural layer cake of enshitification.
“To conquer and rule the world, I think, is not achievable.
The world is like a sacred utensil, which cannot be taken and held.
Whoever tries to conquer it will fail.
Whoever tries to hold it will lose it.
Thus, the sage does not try this, so he can avoid failure.
The sage does not try to own the world, so he loses nothing.
Things can be fast or slow, warm or cool, strong or weak, light or heavy.
The sage avoids the excessive, extravagant, and grandiose.”
Laozi, Translated by Thomas Z. Zhang, Chapter 29
Collaborative niche construction
“Those who aid a government with the Way
Will not threaten the world with military power,
And are therefore returned with kindness in all affairs.
Where armies have stayed will grow only thorns and bush.
When military force dominates, an inauspicious year follows.
Wise leaders prefer natural results than uses of force.
And win victories that would result naturally.
They win without boasting about their valor,
Or feeling proud of their victories,
Or looking triumphant everywhere.
They win but feel guilty as if they were forced to it.
They win without military reinforcement.
Things that have become strong will begin to weaken.
That which weakens is against the Way.
What is against the Way cannot last long.”
Laozi, Translated by Liu Qixuan, Chapter 30
The fundamental mismatch between hierarchical anthropocentric ideologies and ideologies that embrace conscious collaborative niche construction beyond the human can not be over-emphasised. The former is best understood as a form of collective stupidity and the later is best understood as the natural flow of life that encapsulates 4+ billion years of Gaia’s wisdom.
Homo symbolicus is the result of co-evolutionary processes (within groups and between groups) within the context of a species in which the capacity for symbolic culture was emerging.
Humans applied their indigenous understanding of co-evolutionary processes within an ecological context, consciously engaging in co-evolution with plants and later animals. What modern anthropocentric humans fail to see is the extent to which “selective breeding” is a co-evolutionary process, to which the plants and animals are contributing as much as the humans. Indigenous societies have not yet lost this understanding. Co-evolution is what Riane Eisler describes as the partnership model. Did humans breed wheat, or did the wheat breed humans? Etc.
The WEIRD notion of “intelligence” is misguided, fundamentally misaligned with Gaia’s wisdom.
10,000 years of anthropocentric empire building attempts, i.e. head to head competition based on a myopic anthropocentric frame of evolution that is incredibly wasteful in terms of energy and resources, can be understood as a life destroying cultural disease. This life destroying cultural disease has now triggered co-evolutionary processes within Gaia. When looked at on evolutionary time scales these processes are kicking in incredibly rapidly, clamping down on the myopic mono-species frame of evolution.
“A weapon is a means that causes affliction; it should be discarded.
Therefore, he who follows Tao does not use weapons.
A good leader is yielding.
He uses power only for defense.
He exerts every effort to maintain peace.
To glorify oneself with military victory means to rejoice at killing of people.
Is it right to respect him who is glad about killing?
Respect leads to wellbeing.
Wellbeing contributes to the creative process.
Violence leads to afflictions.
If many people are killed, it is grievous.
The victory has to be celebrated?
With a funeral ceremony.”
Laozi, Translated by Mikhail Nilolenko, Chapter 31
The wisdom of time
“Tao is forever undefined.
Like uncarved wood, it seems insignificant; yet no one can command it.
If rulers could abide with it, they would rule everything.
The universe would unify and rain the dew of peace,
beyond anyone’s command, evenly on all.
When the uncarved wood is cut up, the parts need names.
One must know when to stop cutting.
All things flow to Tao, like rivers flowing to the sea.”
Laozi, Translated by Ned Ludd, Chapter 32
The wisdom of time is an important dimension within all co-evolutionary processes. This becomes obvious when reflecting on the distributions of typical life spans across all the different species across all the kingdoms of life within Gaia, from the rapid co-evolutionary cycles of viruses and bacteria to the long cycles of co-evolution in forest ecoystems and coral reefs, and everything in between.
There is a co-evolved natural pace to the flow of life at each of the different scales and for each of the species within the kingdoms of life.
Attempting to break the pace of the flow of life always comes with consequences, many of which can not be predicted. There are hard limits to the predicability of complex, chaotic, and adaptive systems.
Ignoring these limits is at best a waste of precious time and resources and at worst it can be outright suicidal. This is how humans have ended up in the predicament we now find ourselves in, and Gaia’s timeless wisdom is stepping in to sort out the mess on behalf of the broader community of life. We have the choice of rejoining the flow and the pace of life, or to continue to out-complete the pace of life with mindless busyness.
Perhaps it is no coincidence that human languages have come up with all the concepts needed to describe co-evolutionary processes. When I read about the thoughts of Daoist philosophers I am reading about ancient human wisdom about the pace of the flow of life. In our language we also still say things like ‘good things take time’. None of this wisdom is compatible with the get rich quick [at the expense of others] schemes that have been enabled by mindless exploitation of a one-off store of fossilised energy that is running out, not to mention all the destruction of beauty (diversity) that this has brought about.
Humans have evolved to observe the effects of their activities over human lifetimes, and we have the evolved capacity of compassion to deliberate at human scale, to think at least 7 generations ahead, and we have the cognitive capacity to learn from the activities of the last 7 generations.
Presently, in the industrial and so-called “post industrial era”, which critically depends on industrial processes, as long as we mindlessly worship the super human scale institutions that have emerged over the last 10,000 years, we are neglecting these valuable life affirming human capacities. The global mono-cult has replaced timeless wisdom with mindless busyness.
The delusion of predictability
“One who seeks knowledge learns something new every day.
One who seeks the Tao unlearns something new every day.
Less and less remains until you arrive at non-action.
When you arrive at non-action,
nothing will be left undone.
Mastery of the world is achieved
by letting things take their natural course.
You can not master the world by changing the natural way.”
Laozi, Translated by John H. McDonald, Chapter 48
If life generates conditions conducive to life, then what is it that generates conditions that destroys life?
AI hype is resulting in a new avalanche of addictive get-rich-quick scheme for WEIRD humans. We saw equivalent get-rich-quick schemes in the lead-up to the GFC in the domain of high frequency trading. The same cycle is repeating. It is exactly the same myopic short term dog-eat-dog logic in combination with an addictive behaviourist carrot of quick rewards that is driving these hypes. All the people who get involved in these hypes have highly addictive tendencies. They are hopeless addicts.
Living systems are fundamentally different from anthropocentric human engineered systems in the frantic digital sphere that ignore the natural pace of the flow of life.
Cults that deny absolute limits of predictability and ecological resilience are very short lived phenomena on evolutionary time scales. The hypernormative spectacle is disconnected from the wonder of life experienced by all biological organisms.
Is this what we call progress?
Brian Klaas highlights the impact of working with the life denying assumptions of homo economicus, but he misses the co-evolved human scale qualities and limitations of homo symbolicus. The conclusion is spot-on for a world of homo economicus. Yet we live in a world of co-evolved human scale homo symbolicus, with delusional institutions and digital tools that religiously calculate and predict the behaviour of homo economicus, and this puts a twist on the conclusions to draw. A fitting quote from another scholar:
In our work we’ve tried to test some of the basic predictions made by the Homo economics model using some simple tools from behavioral economics applied across a diverse swath of human societies. Not only do we find that the Homo economicus predictions fail in every society (24 societies, multiple communities per society), but instructively, we find that it fails in different ways in different societies. Nevertheless, after our paper “In search of Homo economicus” in 2001 in the American Economic Review, we continued to search for him. Eventually, we did find him. He turned out to be a chimpanzee. The canonical predictions of the Homo economicus model have proved remarkably successful in predicting chimpanzee behavior in simple experiments. So, all theoretical work was not wasted, it was just applied to the wrong species.
Joseph Henrich, What Economists Haven’t Found: Humans
No wonder people are Con-Fused.
It is dangerous and naive to assume that current and future human societies are and will always have super-human scale institutions and hierarchical structures of power. It is particularly dangerous to assume that we can somehow come up with “better” ways of preventing the most power hungry from seizing and abusing power.
We also need to consider how neurodiversity plays out in our species and in all species with nervous systems.
The dangers of powered up relationships and institutions are best understood in a frame of social power as having addictive potential and in terms of individual neurological differences in susceptibility to this form of addiction.
Only hopeless addicts are capable of ignoring the evidence that has been staring us in the face for decades, at the very least for the duration of our lifetimes. It becomes clear that we should perhaps aim for cultural norms that minimise the addictive potential of social power, i.e. societies that don’t assume that social power hierarchies are a universal, timeless, and necessary organising principle.
“In governing people and serving heaven, there is nothing better than moderation.
To be moderate is to follow Tao without straying.
To follow Tao without straying is to become filled with good energy.
To be filled with good energy is to overcome all things.
To overcome all things is to know that all things are possible.
She who knows that all things are possible is fit to govern people.
Because she is one with the mother, her roots go deep,
her foundation stands firm, her life lasts long, her vision endures.”
Laozi, Translated by Brian Browne Walker, 1996, Chapter 59
In a de-powered radically egalitarian society there is simply no supply to fuel the highly addictive potential of social power. Those with an inclination towards addiction to social power are kept sober by the strict enforcement of egalitarian norms.
What Brian Klaas is missing is faith in the co-evolved wisdom of Gaia. As the Daoists remind us, humour is one of the important social tools on the road towards de-powering.
When people are asleep, their spirits wander off; when they are awake, their bodies are like an open door, so that everything they touch becomes an entanglement. Day after day they use their minds to stir up trouble; they become boastful, sneaky, secretive. They are consumed with anxiety over trivial matters but remain arrogantly oblivious to the things truly worth fearing. Their words fly from their mouths like crossbow bolts, so sure are they that they know right from wrong. They cling to their positions as though they had sworn an oath, so sure are they of victory. Their gradual decline is like autumn fading into winter—this is how they dwindle day by day. They drown in what they do—you cannot make them turn back. They begin to suffocate, as though sealed up in a box—this is how they decline into senility. And as their minds approach death, nothing can cause them to turn back toward the light.
Zhuangzi
In living systems beyond the human, trustworthy relationships at all levels of scale are the primary anchors of stability and the source of adaptiveness and creative collaboration, manifesting in mycorrhizal neurodivergent networks.
“She who follows the way of the Tao
will draw the world to her steps.
She can go without fear of being injured,
because she has found peace and tranquility in her heart.
Where there is music and good food,
people will stop to enjoy it.
But words spoken of the Tao
seem to them boring and stale.
When looked at, there is nothing for them to see.
When listened for, there is nothing for them to hear.
Yet if they put it to use, it would never be exhausted.”
Laozi, Translated by J. H. McDonald, 1996, Chapter 35
“The movement of Tao in the course of time is to return to Simplicity;
The working of Tao is so subtle that its ostensible effect may not be immediately noticeable.
Myriad things and creatures on Earth were originated from something;
This something describable by us was launched ultimately from nothing which is beyond our description.”
Laozi, Translated by Lee Sun Chen Org, Chapter 40
“The Taoist has no opinions
He simply listens, and acts
He treats those who are good as worthy
He treats those who aren’t good as worthy, too
And so he finds their goodness
He gives those who are honorable his trust
He gives those who are dishonorable his trust, too
And so he gains their trust.”
Laozi, Translated by Ted Wrigley, Chapter 49
The obsession with so-called artificial intelligence is a logical extension of the WEIRD anthropocentric delusion, a version 2.0 of homo economicus that appears to have shed the shackles of biological limitations … until one of the long forgotten or emergent unknowns and no-longer-applicable assumptions throws a spanner into the gears of the mechanistic probabilistic house of cards of predictability, replacing one set of apparent certainties with another.
Understanding that many WEIRD humans are obsessed with the fear of losing the illusion of control in an inherently uncontrollable world that is completely out of control is a catalyst for metamorphosis.
Our capacity to understand is limited to human scale, but this understanding is within our reach. What I see happening with AI is an extension of engineer’s disease to all aspects of human life, including the scientific enterprise, which has been reduced to “data science” and “computation”. Not only is the map being confused with the territory of lived experience – the blind spot nicely articulated by Evan Thomson, but the shaved off “insignificant” parts of all the bell curves and the role of human scale in sense making are also part of the blind spot.
The human spirit is the ability to make sense (co-create coherence) of the chaotic flow of a living ecology in which the limits of predictability play out at different scales of organisms, which evolved to experience and cycle through Gaia at specific spatial and temporal scales.
“Tao creates all things,
Virtue nurtures them.
Matter gives them forms, and
Environment allows them to succeed.
Thus all things honour Tao and value Virtue.
Tao being honoured and Virtue being valued,
They always occurred naturally without being dictated by anyone.
Thus:
Tao creates all things.
Virtue nurtures them:
They grow and develop;
Bear fruits and mature; and
Are cared for and protected.
To create, but not to possess;
To care for, but not to control;
To lead, but not to subjugate.
This is called the profound virtue.”
Laozi, Translated by Cheng, Chapter 51
My preferred framing of the current state of the institutions of the global mono-cult remains the cultural compost heap. The compost heap is very fertile. The process of composting is something to be encouraged.
Adequately composted culture is what allows millions of new green shoots to thrive in the cracks of the global mono-cult. By definition, the cracks are the priceless spaces that escape quantification, they are impossible to observe through the lens of capital. Only the lens of compost reveals the real potential of c[r]apital.
“Since ancient times there have been those who have attained the subtle essence of the universe and thus become what they are.
Heaven attained the subtle essence of the universe and became clear.
Earth attained the subtle essence of the universe and became stable.
Divine spirits attained the subtle essence of the universe and became powerful.
The Valley of the Universe attained the subtle essence of the universe and became productive.
The myriad things attained the subtle essence of the universe and became prosperous.
The sages attained the subtle essence of the universe and became wise.
All became what they are by attaining the subtle essence of the universe and hence their true nature.
Extinction happens to one who violates his true nature.
Without being pure, Heaven would cease to be.
Without being stable, Earth would burst into bits.
Without maintaining their potency, spirits would disperse.
Without being productive, the vast Valley of the Universe would become exhausted.
Without being reproductive, the myriad things would perish.
Without fortifying themselves with integral virtue, sages would stumble and fall.
Greatness is rooted in plainness,
just as the low forms the foundation of the high.
Realizing this, the ancient sovereigns were content to style themselves as desolate, unworthy, and needy.
Therefore, one who does not separate his being from the nature of the universe follows the Integral Way.
He has no wish to sound like jingling jade pendants in order to court a good name,
nor like the rumbling of a stone rolling from a cliff in order to create a bad name.
Each one should work on one’s own subtle spiritual integration with the subtle essence of the universe.”
Laozi, Translated by Hua Ching Ni, 1995, Chapter 39
More and more cosmolocal human scale ecologies of care are being woven at human pace. Small and slow is beautiful.
Love
“Faithful words may not be beautiful,
Beautiful words may not be faithful.
Those who love do not quarrel,
Those who quarrel do not love.
Those who know are not learned,
Those who are learned do not know.
The riches of the self-controlled man are in the Inner Life.
When he spends for others, he has more for himself.
When he gives to others, he has much more for himself.
Heavenly Tao blesses all and hurts no one.
The way of the self-controlled man is to act and not to fight.“
Laozi, Translated by Isabella Mears, 1916, Chapter 81
Co-creating ecologies of care beyond the human allows us to experience beauty in a world that is completely out of control. Whether we like it or not, we are all subject to human cognitive and emotional limits. This means we all have the capacity to live in a household with up to around 5 people that constitute our most intimate relationships, to collaborate with around 15 close lifetime friends on a weekly basis, and to maintain up to 50 further friendships. All these genuine relationships that we maintain, if they are in a healthy state, are based on a foundation of mutual trust, compassion, and mutual aid – and not on the transactional logic of the invisible hand of the market.
For the purpose of understanding the purpose of our life, the trustworthy relationships we maintain constitute the bus on which we are travelling through life. Sitting in a bus and the delusion of having a driver who is “in control” are dangerous distractions. Instead of rearranging the seating order in a powered-up bus, it is time to board a de-powered bus or lifeboat. The chances of survival in a bus driving over a cliff are slim, and the chances of having fun along the way are zero. It is time to slam on the brakes, stop at the cliff, and get out the climbing gear, and to have some fun along the way.
“The world in reality is a beautifully interconnected world, and it’s interconnected through many many layers. It’s interconnected through consciousness, which is why we are spiritual beings in human form. But the plants outside my window are spiritual beings in plant form. But the plant of the lychee is in lychee form, and the tree of the mango is in mango form. They are just different expressions of one spiritual interconnected consciousness in the world.”
Vandana Shiva
Love is the art of living in a world that is completely out of control. We are part of Gaia. Our sensitivities serve a purpose, they equip us with love and compassion for all of Gaia. Is is easy to become overwhelmed. Love is the timeless language of life.
UPDATE: A few days after writing this article the following interview with philosopher and psychiatrist Thomas Fuchs appeared in my inbox. As part of the millions of human scale community co-creation initiatives in the modern cultural compost heap, more and more people are rediscovering timeless wisdom and indigenous understanding about the wonder of being alive.
Onwards, together, at human scale!

























